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How To Be Attractive When You Have No Credibility

by Adrienne Smith on October 20, 2011

How To Be Attractive When You Have No CredibilityWho has never heard of attraction marketing?  Anyone?  Just in case you are brand new to this industry and have never heard this term before, here is my definition.

Attraction marketing is doing things in a certain way so that people come to you instead of you chasing them.

I really don’t know too many people who like to be chased. You know, like when you go to an electronic store and the salesman stays on your heals so just in case you decide to purchase a really big item, they’ll get the credit!  Don’t you find that uncomfortable?

You have to be respectful of people online as well.  People don’t enjoy being chased.  So by spamming their email with your latest business opportunity or sharing your links on their Facebook wall or only tweeting about how cool your product is will only chase people away.

How To Be Attractive

A lot of the information I share is catered to the newbies or the people who have been here a number of years but still struggling to figure this all out.  My heart goes out to them because I actually had a difficult time understanding this foreign place too.

If this is your first rodeo (Yep, I’m from Texas) and you can’t for the life of you figure out how to be attractive when you have no credibility, I’m going to shed some light on that for you.

Here’s an example I like to use to give you an idea how this all works.

Let’s say you were riding in your neighborhood one day and you saw this house that had the best looking flower bed you had ever seen. Their roses were so beautiful you decided right then and there that you were going to grow some too.

So you head to the garden store around the corner and you ask for help from someone who knows how to grow roses.  They tell you how the soil needs to be, when to fertilize it, how often to water them, what kind of sun they need to get, etc.  You are so happy and excited because you now are ready to start your own beautiful bed of roses.

While you were at the store listening to the person who was explaining to you how to grow roses, did you ask them “well how many rose bushes have you had success growing”? No, the sales person was knowledgeable on how to grow roses because it’s their job to be able to help and explain this process to their customers.

The same thing goes for you.  If you intend to have success in this industry then it’s your responsibility to learn what you need to know in order to help others.

It’s All About Adding Value

Just like the salesman who sold the rose bushes to you, he had to get educated so he could share that information.  Even if he has never grown a rose bush in his life, he has the knowledge to help you and most people will never question that knowledge because the salesman is someone we look at as an expert.

It’s no different if you are online.

Like the example of the salesman, he became an expert at explaining how to grow that rose bush because he was adding value.  He got his education, he learned how to help people who wanted to know how to grow roses and he shared that value with his customers.

You have to do the same thing for your readers.  You need to educate yourself about this industry, you need to share your content with your readers by adding value.  Now don’t let this freak you out because I’m going to share with you how I was able to do this same thing when I had no credibility either.

My HUGE Wake Up Call

I’ve been online now for awhile.  Most of you know my story so I won’t totally bore you with that but I like to say that my rebirth actually happened this year.

Last November I joined a training community because education is the key to your success.  Try to skip that process and you’ll linger online for years like I did.  Trust me, it’s not fun…  Anyway, I swore that I was going to do every single thing they taught me even if it was outside my comfort zone.  Some of it was so it was challenging.

I watched those videos, I immediately went to work putting up my sites, I jumped into creating content, I started blog hopping and commenting on other’s blogs, I started doing every single thing they taught me.  You know what happened?  I started getting attention. You know why?  Because people could relate to me. I was being honest about my journey, if I was brand new at learning something I shared that with my readers, at the end of each month I shared my results and I started making sales my very first month.

It only took me three months before I started having around 50 comments per post and it only continued to climb from there.

Staying true to yourself, sharing with your readers what you have learned, address them like you are talking to a good friend and watch how things take off for you.  It’s okay to be scared.  It’s okay to be afraid of the unknown but you know what?   You’ll never know what your future holds for you if you don’t take those steps.

I can’t stress enough to you all that if I can do this, anyone can.  People connect with people and they want to work with people that they know, like and trust.  Someone reading my post might not be able to connect with me.  I’m not in my 20’s, I have a big personality and from what everyone keeps telling me, a Texas twang.  Maybe that 20 something guy can’t connect with me but he can connect with you.  Do you understand what I’m getting at?

Just Be You

Take that first step, get that education that will teach you everything you need to know about marketing your business online and start taking massive action.

Trust me, you can do this.  If I can, anyone can.  If I can step outside my comfort zone you definitely can.  Heck, I feel like I’ve started my life over since coming online and guys, I’m having the time of my life.

I hope this has been helpful with you understanding a little more about how you can learn to be attractive when you have no credibility online.  We all had to start somewhere.

Your Thoughts Are

Guess it’s time for me to hear your thoughts about this.  I know that most of you are probably way past this point but I know some of you can relate to what I’m saying.

Did you struggle trying to figure all of this out on your own or did you jump head first into some training?  How are you doing with your marketing?  Are you still struggling?  I want to hear from you!!!

You guys are my rock, you keep me in line and make me accountable now.  I love that!  I hope everyone can become a part of a blogging community like this one.

Have a blessed day and I’ll be chatting with you very soon.  Can’t wait to hear your thoughts!

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1 Steve Roy
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October 20, 2011 at 9:03 AM

Hi Adrienne,
This post hit home with me becasue I’ve been working on building my credibility in this business, but at this point, don’t have a whole lot. I definitely need to spend more time educating myself on specific areas that will improve my business and/or allow me to teach others.

I often think that just by reading others blogs that I am learning, but in all reality, it’s not the skills that I need that I’m learning.

My goal has always been to be very open and honest with my readers and it’s finally starting to pay off. That interview I did with Penelope really helped me reach a lot more people who now see that I’m here to help.

Thanks for the enlightening post! Have a great day, my friend.
By the way, I met Benny in Vegas last week. What a great guy! Maybe you’ll be next :)

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2 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 9:32 AM

Hey Steve,

You are definitely on the right path my friend. You just need to be consistent with your efforts so I hope you’ve been able to get on some type of schedule now. I know that wasn’t your strongest point. If you want some advice in that area, let’s talk. I know I will be able to help you.

I have learned a LOT by reading other people’s blogs and some of it has been a lot better than some of the educational eBooks that I’ve purchased over the years. But a post here and a post there isn’t going to lay out the foundation in which you need to have in order to build a solid business. But by learning a lot of these skills, you can turn around and help others as well. That’s what I believe I’m able to accomplish with my blog.

You are very open and honest so you are on the right tract. I’m glad you did that interview with Penelope and she called you out. I think that was what you needed to kick yourself into high gear. Steve, you can do this my friend. I have all the faith in the world in you. Just get disciplined and stay consistent with your efforts. But let’s not forget about that training too.

Glad you enjoyed this one. You have a wonderful day too!

~Adrienne

P.S. Dang, I knew you guys were going to be in Vegas at the same time. So you got to meet the lovely bride too? I’ve spoken to Benny via Skype as well and he’s a great guy. I hope to have the privilege of meeting you both some day. How fun would that be! I’m jealous but glad to hear you guys had fun.

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3 Steve Roy
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October 20, 2011 at 9:47 AM

I am actually still struggling with time management, especially given the new things I am doing with my blog. I’d love to chat with you about it. I’ve really got to figure out how to prioritize my limited time and get everything done that I need to.

Right now, I have so many things to do that I feel like I will never get any of them done. I’ve got some time later this afternoon if you’re free. I’ll shoot you an email with some times.
Thanks

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4 Ruth
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October 20, 2011 at 10:37 AM

I want in on the Adrienne/Benny/Steve rendezvous!

You are so ridiculously relatable Adrienne. Every post, every video, it is so authentically YOU, and that is precisely why people find you so attractive.

I’m definitely still struggling. Struggling to find my most authentic and passionate voice; struggling to optimize my blog; struggling to learn the social media ropes. There is sooooo much to learn, Steve, I really don’t know how you set aside time while you are still working. My business directly relates to my blog – and I’m my own boss – and I still struggle to stick to a schedule and focus.

In spite of my struggles, I am absolutely loving this journey. Thanks, once again Adrienne, for this wonderful gem of a post.

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5 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 10:45 AM

Come on in Ruth, it would be a blast!

Ah thank you Ruth, I’m so happy to hear that you think that. I definitely want to be able to attract those that can relate to me. That’s the entire point of having a blog right. You want people to be able to relate to you so they will want to connect with you and hopefully end up working with you. Let’s just say, that’s a perfect scenario.

Are you a part of any type of training community Ruth that will help you learn how to optimize your blog and continue to move forward from where you are now? With the right education, everything just seems to fall into place. I can’t tell you how many aha moments I have. Sometimes I want to kick myself that I didn’t get this before. If you’re interested, I can point you in the right direction. We can chat more about this if you’d like.

Steve is doing such an awesome job and he beats himself up way too much. I do admire him though, having a full time job and incorporating this into the mix. I’m like you Ruth, I do this full-time so you have to get on a schedule. It’s imperative that you remain consistent with getting yourself out there.

I’m glad you are loving this journey. I can relate to you when I was still struggling too. I still love what I did and nothing was going to bring me down.

Thanks Ruth, I appreciate all of your kind words. You help make this all worthwhile.

Have a beautiful day!

~Adrienne

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6 Ruth
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October 20, 2011 at 1:37 PM

Thanks Adrienne for your thoughtful response. I have joined two training communities – AListBloggingClub and one other. They have been helpful – but I feel like perhaps I might be needing some more focused attention. I’d love suggestions!

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7 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 1:49 PM

That’s great Ruth. So is some of the training you have teaching you the skills you need in order to properly market your content? I’m sure the blogging club is definitely covering all things blogging.

Are you having problems staying focused on exactly what you need to accomplish? I know you work from home so here are a few suggestions that I have for you. Write down what you need to accomplish for the day. Start with the task that will bring you the most profits. In other words, don’t start off by finding yourself buried in answering emails or chatting on social media sites.

For marketing, focus on one or two areas you enjoy doing the most and learn those and implement what you learn until you start seeing really great results. From there I would then move on to the next thing. Don’t try to take on everything at once, you’ll definitely be too overwhelmed.

The worse thing you can do is plan your day and learn the skills without taking consistent action. Every single day you should be putting up some type of content whether it’s a blog post, an article, a video, a podcast, something. The more information you get out on the web, the more people will start seeing your content. That’s what you want.

Hope those tips were helpful and I wish you the best of luck.

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8 Ruth
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October 20, 2011 at 7:38 PM

So helpful Adrienne. Thank you thank you! We should chat live one of these days. In the meantime, I will follow your advice – I need to be more thoughtful about my time and more regimented in my schedule.

My most profitable work is my copywriting business, but my goal with the blog is to extend the reach I have offline. So I think the greatest challenge i have right now is in finding those points of convergence between the two worlds. How do I make sure that what I am doing on the blog complements, supports and expands the work I am doing offline.

I will certainly keep you posted!

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9 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 7:52 PM

Glad to hear that Ruth! Would love to chat with you someday soon. That would be great to actually get to know you a little offline! :-)

I think you are doing a wonderful job with your blog. You are explaining why copywriting is important and how it can be improved. I can relate to what you share on your blog in the respect of what I do here online although they are different.

Are you trying to get any new clients with some of what you are writing about on your blog? If not then I would continue what you are doing and build up a readership to possibly start promoting products that will help other copywriters learn more with their trait, maybe where or how to locate their clients, that sort of thing. You could create your own product from what you have learned with this process. Just a suggestion.

Please do keep me posted Ruth and let’s chat soon. I think it’s great to take some time out and get to know our online friends a little better.

Have a fabulous day tomorrow and a really great weekend.

~Adrienne

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10 Armand Polanski October 20, 2011 at 9:05 AM

Truly Amazing Post, Adrienne!

You never fail touch your reader in every post.

I like the idea of attraction marketing, we attract valuable readers with our own story in every post. The more personal and more value we give , more readers will be interested and attracted to your personality.

Just to share, I have been commenting like crazy since yesterday and today. What I’ve noticed is the more personal the post is, the more I create a better comment because I feel as though I connected with the author.

I also noticed that with other good successful blogs like Benny Hsu’s “Get Busy Living” and Srini’s “Skool of Life”, they treat every post like an episode in reality tv show they every emotions and thought.

Thank you for the lesson of the day: The more we share our story, the more we become attractive, the more we become successful online.

Stay Awesome Adrienne!

Armand Polanski

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11 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 9:38 AM

Hey Armand,

Ah thank you Armand, I really appreciate you saying that.

You just said it yourself Armand, you seem to be able to connect with others when they put a little of their own personality into a post. Benny and Srini’s blogs are awesome and it’s all about sharing their own experiences with their readers so you can connect to that particular situation and learn from it. Because of that, they have a loyal base of readers who now know, like and trust them. When they are ready to start promoting products, those people will purchase from them because they now have that relationships. That’s attraction marketing at it’s best!

I know Benny much better so I know that Benny just started his blog because he wanted to share how you can have a better life. He’s going through that process every single day so from what he shares, others can learn from his experience. I do know he’s in the process of creating his first product too so I have no doubt his readers will be anxiously awaiting the arrival of that.

I’m glad you got something out of this lesson today Armand. That is my goal, to help others learn that it all starts with you. You have to put your best foot forward and just start at the beginning. I love the look of your new blog and I have no doubt you’ll do a great job.

Have a wonderful day my friend! :-)

~Adrienne

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12 Radu
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October 20, 2011 at 8:46 AM

Hi Adrienne,
This is a splendid attraction marketing manifesto.
You explained everything in a very original manner, so that everybody can understand. That’s a powerful skill to have. A NASA engineer can bore a room full of people with technical data and stuff but a marketer or a story teller can explain the same thing with simple words that people will say: Oh, this is it? I got it now, so simple.
You know how to play with words and be authentic at the same time. The analogy with roses is great.
In this is an industry there are people with different levels of marketing experience, education, money etc. But what really matters in the end is how determined you are to learn, change yourself, offer value and help others. These traits can’t go unnoticed.. even if we are online.. The character of a person makes a difference in any environment…Even in a prison (Shawshank Redemption movie is a perfect example of this).
Yes, education followed by action is the key in succeeding online.
I’m not pretending to be the super duper home based business expert. But I know this: as long as I put passion, joy and compassion in what I’m doing, it’s gonna be a valuable experience for everybody :)
Congratulations for your blog performances. You deserve it without the shadow of a doubt.
It’s time to end my comment with a “thank you for sharing this post”. The world must find out about it! Right now :)

Have a beautiful day,
Radu

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13 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 9:20 AM

Hi Radu,

First off, thank you so much for sharing my content already. I really do appreciate that. You’re the best!

You know Radu, I have to learn in a simple way so that I understand what is being explained to me. I’ve had people explain this same concept before and I swear it went right over my head. You have to make yourself attractive to others but they never really explained why or how. I only know how to explain this to others in a much easier way so it can help people like me grasp it in these terms.

You are right again Radu… There are people with different levels of marketing experience here online doing their thing. But they all had to start at the beginning and they may have been able to grasp all of this and take off running. They may have started with all that self confidence and will to succeed. It’s definitely needed if you want to make it in this industry. But the will to have that someday and the determination that you’ll get it will get you there as well. Don’t let being a beginner and not thinking you have anything to share hold you back. There will be people out there that will connect with you while not with others. There are plenty of fish in the sea my friend.

Thank you again Radu and I really appreciate you and your support.

Have the best day ever! :-)

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14 Mouh
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October 20, 2011 at 8:53 AM

I had no training when I started but I am planning to take one. I totally understand that you need to keep learning to keep earning!

I had enough time to learn how to start (at least). I was soooo passionate about this online thing that I seriously don’t know how I learned what I now know. I was just reading here and there and gaining knowledge.

But as I said, I am seriously thinking about taking some training. I believe it is important to one’s success.

Tanks for sharing what you learn! :)

Mouh

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15 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 9:25 AM

Hey Mouh,

Me neither, I stumbled my way through but let me tell you. I wasted a LOT of time because there were just bits and pieces thrown out there and not one place where it explained the entire process. Getting your education from people who are already making it will get you so much further. If you really want to make it in this industry, it’s imperative.

Get with me about that training. I have something that I know will help you.

Thanks Mouh, I appreciate you my friend! You have a wonderful day! :-)

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16 Mouh
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October 20, 2011 at 11:05 AM

Very true. That’s exactly why I plan to take a training. I may know some things but I am missing a lot. I need everything in one place.

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17 Ryan Biddulph October 20, 2011 at 9:55 AM

Powerful advice for new folks who feel they have nothing to offer.

If you are breathing, you have something to offer ;) Really, you nailed it. Give freely and learn your craft inside out. Promote the stuffing out of your friends. Many will do the same for you, expanding your presence and increasing your credibility. I signed up a few folks when I had little clue what I was doing in the beginning, but my positive energy, enthusiasm and strong network put me over the top in these folks minds.

Thanks for sharing Adrienne.

Ryan

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18 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 10:29 AM

Hey Ryan,

Appreciate you commenting on this subject here as well. Having been in the trenches myself, I can sympathize with people who are just getting started and don’t feel like they have much to offer. Like you said though, if you’re breathing, you have something to offer.

That’s great that you just went for it and got people signed up right from the start. If that doesn’t boost your confidence, I don’t know what will.

Great share Ryan, thank you for that.

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19 Praveen Rajarao
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October 20, 2011 at 10:30 AM

Hi Adrienne – Again an inspirational post from you, just about at the right time, when I was all but motivated with my blogging. Something like this always brings me back to life and starts me all over again to keep putting in that extra little effort and wait for it to yield itself. Thanks.

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20 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 12:07 PM

Hey Praveen,

So glad you found this one inspiring. Hope this could help kick you back into gear. Whatever you do, keep it up. You are doing a great job over at your place.

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21 Kelly Baader October 20, 2011 at 10:44 AM

Hi Adrienne,
Wonderful post! I found myself nodding head through the content. ;)
It is almost like you wrote down the conversation I had with my coaching clients all along! Love what you said about “It’s All About Adding Value”! In today’s DNA age, in fact people are more drawn to leaders who are not necessary “gurus”(as they are seemingly too far away), but who are doing as they are learning.

Also about “Be Yourself”, as social media the way it involves, TRANSPARENCY is no more optional, but must! Therefore, “just be you” is the way to have sustainable “brand” for all our business.

Thank you for sharing!
Kelly

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22 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 10:52 AM

Hi Kelly,

Welcome and thank you for contributing to this conversation.

I know you are a very successful coach so I appreciate you letting everyone else know that what I am saying is absolutely the truth! When we are new to the industry we don’t believe we have any value to add but that’s not true. I remember people telling me, well Adrienne, you know much more than I do and I just learned something from you. That was my first aha moment and I then realized that as I learn and share, others can learn and turn around and share.

I know that I’m more drawn to leaders who are not the big gurus. I know even the gurus started at the bottom too but over time some of them have become unapproachable. I want someone who I can relate to who is still going through this with me to some extent. They seem to be more open to helping and sharing.

I can’t say this enough, just “be yourself”. That’s the only way you will ever be able to attract the right people to you and it can’t be done if you aren’t being genuine.

I appreciate your input Kelly and thank you for that. I’m so happy you stopped by today. Hope you make it a great one!

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23 Tosin October 20, 2011 at 2:09 PM

Hello Adrienne,

I love that example you gave. It’s natural to gravitate towards those who know excatly what they are saying.

I first came across the concept of attraction marketing from Magnetic Sponsoring and it made so much sense. I could not for the life of me think of why I did not come up with that book. Ha ha…lol… But seriously it changed everything I have ever known about Network Marketing and the results after trying the concept out was incredible so it was only safe to stick with what works.

Interestingly, been attractive online is not as difficult as it offline. People hardly trust anyone online (because of the numerous scams and spam) so all that is needed is for you to put yourself out there and help out.

I have also discovered that while having a blog is one of the first things people think of while thinking of attraction markketing, it is definitely not the only avenue, neither is it always the quickest or fastest channel to start the attraction marketing venture. A great avenue that is free and priceless (in my view) is social media, especially facebook.

Provide an attractive profile (I keep tweaking this to see which one produces the best response), let your wall be a haven of inspiration, engage people of like minds, write facebook notes that is 90% generic in nature, connect with reknown authority by leaving thoughtful comments, and you will quickly become synonymous with the ‘wow’ factor. You will attract. Your inbox will be filled with messages from people who want to know more about you and what you do.

Before I turn this to another post :), there is no gainsaying that sticking with attraction marketing has great rewards.

Thanks for the wonderful insights, Adrienne!

~Tosin Adeoti

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24 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 3:53 PM

Hey Tosin,

Great to see you and even better to hear your thoughts on this topic. I know this is one of your areas of expertise.

I bought Mike Dillard’s Magnetic Sponsoring a few years ago myself. It did make perfect sense but I think what my problem was at that time was I didn’t have enough confidence in myself nor did I have a community to help guide me on what to do. That’s where I fell down.

I can believe that which again is why I thought this a lot harder because of the trust factor being online. But I soon learned that if you just be yourself and it will take time for people to get to know you, that trust factor can come rather quickly. As long as you stay true to yourself.

The good thing about a blog Tosin is that it’s the only content you actually own online. Your goal should be to get them to have conversations with you on your blog but building up a relationship can be a little easier on sites like Facebook. I will definitely agree with you there.

I’ll have to check out your profile and see what all you’ve been sharing in your bio. I hear so many different ways to do this so I’ve tried almost all of them now. Well, not all.. I do hate to sell in mine so you’ll never catch me doing that.

I really appreciate you taking the time to share all of this with me. I know you are very knowledgeable in this area so I appreciate your input. Thanks Tosin and hope you are having a wonderful day! :-)

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25 Ken Pickard
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October 20, 2011 at 3:07 PM

Transparency + Authenticity + Value = A Servant Leader

Adrienne,

I can appreciate that you wrote this for newbies and for those who have been a round a bit and haven’t quite got the knack, but I think a few pro’s should pay attention to this as well. Time is now where those who are servant leaders like yourself will reap the rewards with shares in the marketplace while the self proclaimed guru’s are left wondering where their followers went.

People want to be included and heard and know that you care and by leaving quality “how to” information like this is just another example of your attraction marketing cooked to perfection. It works!

I really liked how you shared your personal journey. Your willingness to pay your dues by learning first then implement then teaching shows your passion for your craft as well as understanding of what people really need.

Your thoughts on value first is straight to the point as well. I keep feeling like those of us who preach this are beating a dead horse, but as long as new people want to learn how to set up their brand the right way…there will be people who need this.

Ken Pickard
The Network Dad

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26 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 4:05 PM

Hey Ken,

Always a pleasure to see you and hear your thoughts on what I share.

You know, you are probably right. I’ve been to a few “gurus” blogs on the suggestion of other leaders that we need to continue learning from them and share our thoughts, etc. in their comments. But there’s no interaction over there and no consistent blogging. At least on the few I visited. With a few of them, I just can’t relate and it makes me uncomfortable.

I have learned that the best way for me to be genuine is to share my own experience. We don’t have to always get it right, we will make mistakes but as long as we learn from them then aren’t we all better off for it.! I just hope that one person can take this information and run with it. That will make this journey so worth it to me.

I was talking to a blogging buddy just today on Skype and we were talking about creating products. I feel like so much of the information out there as been regurgitated so many times I’m sick of hearing about it. But in that same breath, it took me longer to get to where I am because I didn’t understand a lot of what I was learning from some of these products. Not all mind you. But I don’t learn the way everyone else necessarily does. So my simple explanation as I share my own experiences may help people who went through the same thing I did. So there are still people out there Ken that need our help and assistance. Isn’t that why we are here? To help others learn and grow? I know I sure am.

Thanks Ken, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this topic. I enjoy getting other people’s opinion on this and hope my explanation was clear and to the point.

Have a blessed afternoon.

~Adrienne

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27 Dia October 20, 2011 at 3:09 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Nice message with this post! It is all about adding and providing value my friend. When we help others each in his/her way, then we are helping humanity. We are also following the sow and reap concept. What we sow, we will reap 10 times more. Thanks for all the value that you add Adrienne and thanks for sharing this post!

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28 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 4:09 PM

Hey Dia,

Thank you for sharing that, I appreciate it! I do enjoy helping others learn.

This is a great example of the sow and reap concept you are right. Continuing helping others and it will come back to you. As long as you enjoy helping others expecting nothing in return, everything will eventually fall into place. it’s a fabulous feeling Dia!

Hope you are having a great day!

~Adrienne

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29 Darren Spruyt October 20, 2011 at 3:24 PM

Great post Adrienne!

You had me on the edge of the seat the whole time I was reading the article! What you talk about is so true, because so many people that hop on to this industry think it’s all abut shoving their business opportunity down everyone’s throat until someone decides to say yes.

Valid point about providing value and sharing what you are learning. That is the best way to get credibility fast, because people will realize that you are not hiding your knowledge but you are actively sharing it with everyone around. This will only get your visitors returning to your site over and over again because they are thirsty for what more you have to offer.

At the end of the day, you’ll be able to offer and sell them something and they would be more than willing to buy it from you because of the reputation that you have built with them.

It’s all about giving value and sharing the love, not trying to appear as though you are giving value when you are not. Thanks for sharing this post Adrienne!

Darren Spruyt

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30 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 4:25 PM

Hey Darren,

Seriously? I had you on the edge of your seat! That’s awesome Darren, thank you for saying that. Dang, maybe I’m finally getting the hang of this. Who knew!!!

My heart goes out to the people who are new and don’t know any better. I don’t really get as ticked off at people who spam me because I like to think that they aren’t being taught the proper way and they just don’t know any better. It’s annoying, I will admit that but I remember when I first started and I was taught to do that until I located the right information that took me on my educational journey. As they always say, if you know better you’ll do better. If you’re just a spammer then you’re only hurting yourself in the long run.

That’s right Darren, even if you aren’t making the big bucks yet you are doing the work, hopefully you are starting to see some results and from there it will only get better if you remain consistent with your actions. Show the people what you learned and how you are doing it. That will keep them coming back for more.

That’s the key to building a solid business. Help your readers get what they want and they will help you get what you want. Great win/win situation.

Thanks Darren, I appreciate you sharing that with me. Hope you have had a really great day!

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31 Sonia
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October 20, 2011 at 3:41 PM

I can relate to this post big time. When I started out, no one knew me and I didn’t know them and it was quite frustrating in the beginning. Then I read a post where someone said, “provide value” and that was it for me.I swear it was like a “light bulb” going off in my head (duh!) it changed my focus and everything else just fell into place.

One thing I will add is that I read allot of books, blogs and commented when I could. There is some amazing bloggers out there (you included of course…your my girl!) and without that free source of information I don’t know where my blog would be. I know I have a ways to go and I am just getting started!

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32 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 20, 2011 at 4:30 PM

Wow, you read a post and took off from there! I’m so jealous Sonia.. That just goes to show what a go getter you are. I love those light bulb moments, they are so much fun.

That is awesome that you were able to locate that much free information to help you while on this journey. Glad you are enjoying what I share too by the way. Ditto to you, I love your blog. You are doing such a wonderful job over there.

There are a lot of amazing bloggers online with huge hearts willing to help any time they can. So you are right, it’s a great source for locating helping and valuable information. Isn’t that exactly what we are trying to accomplish too! We are here to help! :-)

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33 John Garrett
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October 20, 2011 at 4:30 PM

Hi Adrienne!

I love the way you’ve explained your examples here. It makes it so easy to understand what “Attraction Marketing” is.

I’ve seen that term all over the place and I can se now I didn’t really get it.

When I first started I would publish stuff and sit back and wait. Then wonder why nothing was happening. After a few months of that, i finally realized I was going to have to get help from people who knew what they were doing, lol.

I paid for memberships to the ProBlogger boards and also the Third tribe forums and got a lot out of what they had to say.

Although I still struggle with how to market myself, I’ve gained clients without much work because they found me in Google. But I have to admit that I did not optimize the articles they found specifically, so it was kind of lucky.

Now, at least I have a plan and I’m moving forward with it, plus I’m venturing out into new areas like niche-sites. None of this stuff can be done unless you’re willing to admit you don’t know everything and get help from people who do -yes even if you have to pay for that help.

Thanks so much for always having some helpful information to provide and also for being such a cool person!

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34 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 20, 2011 at 4:41 PM

Hi John,

Glad you enjoyed the examples, I thought it might be a little easier to understand. I can relate to you John. I sort of got the aspect of it but still wasn’t quite sure how to actually put it all together.

That’s exactly what I use to do, publish it and sit back and wait. I mean I was taught to write your content and the traffic would come. I was interlinking them together but still not seeing that many results. I kept scratching my head trying to figure out what I was doing wrong.

If your clients are finding you from Google then the content you have put out there on the web was worth all that time. They are able to locate you via the keywords you placed in your content. That’s the great thing about content, once you put it out there, it’s there to stay.

I hated having to admit that I had to pay for information to teach me how to do this but when I started doing affiliate marketing, I bought an eBook for $37 and made three sales my very first week totaling $72 so even that one little eBook showed me the way. Learn from the people already having success and it’s worth every single dime.

Glad you are venturing out into new areas John. I wish you the best of luck and I have no doubt you’ll rock that too.

Thank you for saying that, you’re pretty awesome too!

~Adrienne

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35 Carolyn
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October 20, 2011 at 4:40 PM

Hi Adrienne, Great post! But I would re-write your scenario a little bit. I would say you are the lady with the beautiful rose garden. I would ring your doorbell and ask you about your roses. You would give me great advice about what to get, I would buy the bushes you suggest, you would see me planting them and hurry over to help. While we’re digging in the dirt, I would ask you about a recipe for roast chicken. Now, I would have no idea if you have any expertise in cooking, but I’m thinking that you know about chicken because you’re a rose expert.

That’s how I think of you, Adrienne. My resident expert. :-)

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36 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 4:47 PM

Ah Carolyn, you do say the nicest things! :-)

I love that scenario, that’s really good. Dang, why didn’t I think of that. I thought going to the store would be easier to relate too. Now who is the story teller!

Resident expert! Nice!!! My head is blowing up so much it’s about to explode. Watch out! ;-)

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37 Janet
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October 20, 2011 at 11:04 PM

Carolyn, aloha. My gosh, I think I have visited your blog so much that I now think like a “techie.” As I was reading the post the EXACT same thoughts occurred to me. Quite honestly, I did think she was going to go up, ring the doorbell, have the conversation, etc.

However, I must admit I did not take as far as you did with digging in the garden together and discussing chicken recipes. You are so right that when someone is seen as an “expert” in one area, we transfer that expertise over into other areas.

Adrienne is an expert at being “genuine” so believe what she tells us because she is so open. And, what do they, the great “they” who know everything say? People do business with people they “know, like and trust.” Carolyn, that’s our Adrienne.

Okay, have to dash, on my way down to comment. Until later at your place, aloha. Janet

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38 Kayla Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 4:41 PM

Oh my, you want me to admit that I’m clueless ……… you’ve got to love that blogging community stuff!

From day one I aimed at that Authority Blogging niche. I’ve had a ton of experiece in computers and the Internet so this was going to be a breeze ……… WRONG!!!

I actually found it somewhat challenging from the standpoint of tech in the beginning, but found myself in the drainage ditch of Internet Marketing when I failed to grasp one concept ……. Everyone Listening ??? Pay Attention Class! “You Have To Pay To Play”. Class Dismissed …………

I read where one marketer spent about $350,000.00 on PPC while bringing in about $410,000.00. I thought to myself that’s off the hook, I’m not about to risk that kinda of money on that type of return ……… shows you how illiterate I really was ……….. you don’t invest that type of money all at once, you do it in stages, like MLM.

Signed Clueless ……. I’m to embarrassed to use my real name ………. Kayla

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39 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 4:55 PM

I saw this comment come in my inbox and I thought “Kayla Smith”!!! Who the heck could actually have the same name as my precious angel! I laughed so hard when I saw it was you! You continue to crack me up Jeffrey!

I’m going to be doing a post on that very topic next week Jeffrey. We all love free, heck, I’m the most budget conscious person you will ever meet. I blame that on my Mom actually. I inherited her frugalness! Ouch, that hurt to admit.

Just like you’ll never make overnight riches, spending money to make money doesn’t happen overnight either. These things do take time and just like making money in your network marketing career. That’s why they always say to give yourself at least 18 months. Trust me, if you work it, it will come back to reward you. That I do know for sure.

Thanks Clueless… I’m surprised you didn’t put Kayla’s picture up there. Oh that’s right, we aren’t friends on Facebook so you wouldn’t have seen it. Too bad the cat is out of the bag! :-) Nice try, maybe next time…

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40 Rick Byrd
Twitter:
October 20, 2011 at 8:47 PM

Hey Adrienne:

I hate to be the parrot and echo what others have been saying but I must. This is a post that more people need to read and really get there head wrapped around this idea of Attraction Marketing, including myself. I love your definition of Attraction Marketing because it is simple and succinct (I had to ask my wife how to spell that one).

I have struggled in the past as to which direction I wanted to go to build an online business. I have struggled to years but know that I have more focus my path is a little straighter.

I am really focusing on Affiliate Marketing but as I am working to build my business I am finding it harder to find time to blog about it or maybe I am just making excuses because I am still struggling with time management. Take for example I am commenting here at 9:40 at night. I should have done this earlier in the day but instead I watched some youtube videos about pitching so I could show my son, oh well!

So I am still struggling with Attraction Marketing even though I know what I should be doing.

Even though I make not be able to take the time to comment, I am still following along with you and a handful of others and I will continue to as long as you continue to pump out great content like this…and I know you will!!!

– Rick

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41 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 9:22 AM

Hey Rick,

Echo away my friend because these are your thoughts and you know how I enjoy hearing what others think about what I share. I have no idea if my content resonates with people if they don’t let me know. Which is another reason I ask a lot of questions. I then know I’m somewhat on the right path. I’m just glad my explanation was easy to understand. Thanks for sharing that with me.

Sounds to me that you are struggling with your schedule, what you should do daily. If your affiliate marketing sites are what brings you in the money and the blogging isn’t a big part of that then I wouldn’t worry too much. If you fall off the blogosphere then at least you are doing the work that is putting food on the table. Sure, we would miss what you share with us but you should be doing what brings you the income first. The rest should be an afterthought.

I’m just glad you are now able to do this full-time Rick. Others aspire to be where you are and you have a family to support too! So congratulation on your accomplishments.

Keep up the great work and hope to see you every now and then at least. Have a great weekend Rick!

~Adrienne

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42 Deeone
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October 20, 2011 at 10:39 PM

Hi Adrienne,
Loved the post! As I am continuously building my own credibility. You made it really easy to understand, and the metaphor was pure genius. I’m a lover of roses; miniature and tea cups are my favorite. That was just a side note. I couldn’t leave with reading your post and not throwing that out there. :)

I can certainly relate to what I read here though, you really have to put in the leg work and learn as much as you can. There’s certainly a lot to learn too! Everyday for me is spent learning something else that make sense or that I have missed. Someday’s I get so entangled in the learning part, that I don’t make it to all the blogs that I have subscribed too. I definitely can get better at that though.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience and wealth of knowledge! Awesome material. :) Enjoy your evening!

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43 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 9:29 AM

Hey Deeone,

Ah, so glad this one resonated with you too. My mother loves roses and has the tea cups on her back patio. That’s why I used this metaphor and glad to hear that you love them too. I’m not a big flower grower. I don’t have the room for one thing and I do much better with just greenery. :-)

The learning is a big part of it but it shouldn’t consume your entire day. Take and hour out of your day for your education and then immediately apply what you learn. By learning how to market your content, that will drive more traffic to your site and that’s what you want to achieve. Set aside maybe another hour of your day just for blog commenting. If you can’t get all the blogs in during that time you want to visit, save them for another day. If you don’t have an hour, do 30 minutes. We all know that we can’t be everywhere all the time. If I could only visit all the blogs I enjoy reading and comment all day long that’s what I’d do. But we are all here to build a business and it can’t be done if we just spend our time like that.

Thanks again Deeone for sharing your opinion about this topic. I really do enjoy the feedback. Now, enjoy your day and have another fun weekend okay! I’ll see you soon. :-)

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44 Deeone
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October 21, 2011 at 11:14 AM

Awesome Tips, Adrienne! They make a lot of sense too. That will also free me up on working on my book as well. I’ve totally been neglecting it since starting the new site. So thank you for sharing your encouragement and your insight. I really appreciate it. :) Happy Friday to you! ;)

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45 Allyson Stewart October 20, 2011 at 11:11 PM

Thanks for the post, Adrienne. It’s extremely helpful for someone who’s just getting started and feels lost online. Hey, it’s even helps those of us who’ve been doing it for a while.

You know, you’ve helped me too (tremendously) in getting on the right path in online marketing. I’m still working at it and am not quite “there” yet.

Education is definitely important and is even more so on the ever-changing web. What a great idea for becoming more attractive. It’s a question so many have, especially if there’s no credibility to work with.

I appreciate you sharing these great pointers! See you soon.

Allyson

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46 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 9:44 AM

You are so welcome Allyson!

I was one of those who had been doing it awhile and still didn’t quite get it so I can relate. We can stumble around for a good bit and either not understand everything or we haven’t quite gotten our hands on the correct information.

I’m so happy to hear that I have helped you in some small way Allyson. You know I’m here if you have any questions. I may not know everything, but I certainly know enough.

Education is the key… It should be a part of everyone’s journey here online. Things are always changing and if you aren’t up on what the latest marketing strategy is, it could hurt you in the long run. I certainly don’t want to see that happen to any of my blogging buddies.

Glad you enjoyed this post Allyson and thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I appreciate you!

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47 Janet
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October 20, 2011 at 11:11 PM

Adrienne, aloha. What you said so needed to be said. It is a matter of “be yourself be everyone else is taken.” It may take a while for people to find their voice online, however, if they are true to themselves they will.

Your readers and people who see you on the other social platforms need to see that you are the same on all of them–with slight modifications for 140 characters or pictures. Whether people comment on it or not, they do see you other places besides your blog. They see your comments on other blog posts, tweets and updates to name a few.

If they see you say one thing on this post and the opposite on someone else’s post, that definitely is not a good thing. People may not always like what a person has to say or there way of saying it, however, if they are consistent, they will be respected.

Adrienne, I think one thing that holds people back is that they really are not sure why they are online or they are embarrassed that they want to make money. Since no “sale” takes place unless there is a seller and a buyer, this should not be a concern-at least as long as you don’t sell/market shoddy products/services.

In conclusion, I am incorporating Carolyn’s comment as a part of this one because I love what she had to say. Until later, aloha. Janet

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48 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 9:52 AM

Hi Janet,

I love that “be yourself because everyone else is taken”!!! That’s so true…

Everyone is different and we all relate to different people. I really don’t think you can go wrong if you remain true to yourself and are genuine in what you do and share. I do think some people just aren’t quite sure of the direction they want to take. Hopefully this post though will explain how to actually start attracting people to what they have to share.

You are so right Janet, totally agree with what you shared. Just be you and that means anywhere you visit online. Don’t ever pretend to be something you aren’t and if you have beliefs and opinions, share them across the net.

I loved Carolyn’s comment and I appreciate your thoughts on that one too. People are welcome at my home any time. They might actually find out though that I don’t know everything. But I’ll do the best to find the answer for them. :-)

Have a beautiful day Janet and a really wonderful weekend.

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49 Barry Wells
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 7:14 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Attraction marketing, ummmm I’ve never heard it called that before Adrienne, but you’re so right. I first met you through your affiliate blog, where you detailed your journey and were open about the steps you took and the results you had. I then made a point of visiting you on a regular basis as I found your posts honest and educational = “Attractive”.

My blogging journey started as part of an online course I was taking, but the course was more focused on product creation. Which was really good (I’m not knocking the course at all) but I had an operation that left me bed ridden for quite a few months, where I would have to lay on my side, so my course work fell behind. During this time all i focused on was blogging, so as to keep in touch with people really.

I struggled for ideas of what to blog about so i just opened up and told people of my situation and the response was really really good, loads of support and encouragement, which was the exact same case when my mum was taken ill.

Through those situations and the responses I got my passion for blogging came alive. Like you said Adrienne, It was like I was having new life injected into me and I found a whole new group of friends that offered support when i needed it for both online and off line situations.

I’m now taking part in the Learn With Sally coaching and things are really starting to move now. Like you said blog about the journey and pass on the education. I’m learning new skills and passing them onto my readers, as well as detailing some of the mistakes I have made online.

Another great post that’ll help loads of people Adrienne, thanks. I’ll be passing this on to as many as I can ;)

Have a great day my friend,

Take care,
Barry

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50 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 10:06 AM

Hi Barry,

Wow, you’ve never heard of it before. See, there are still some people who aren’t in the loop yet.

I remember we connected on my other blog and I enjoyed visiting with you. I remember my heart went out to you when you were dealing with your Mom’s illness. I could just relate to you and in my eyes, you are a true prince. Anyone who cares about their Mom that much to be there by her side is a prince in my book. Family is so important to me which is one of the reasons I do what I do. So I can be there for my Mom when she needs me.

I hate that you had to have the surgery but if it brought you closer to the blogging community then I’m happy you did You have attracted a lot of great people to your site too Barry and building up those relationships has been an enjoyable experience I’m sure. You are doing attraction marketing right now because the more information you put out on the web, the more people you attract to you. By sharing your own personal experiences and journey, others can relate to you as well and they’ll start purchasing products from you when they are ready..

I’m glad you continue to get that education and Sally is definitely a great lady to learn from. You are taking what you learn and applying it so you are doing the work. Keep it up and things will continue to happen on a steady climb.

Thanks for taking the time to stop by Barry. I appreciate you! You are a wonderful guy and I’m honored to know you.

Have a wonderful weekend now! :-)

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51 Dawn Kay
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October 21, 2011 at 7:15 AM

Hi Adrienne

I can totally relate to what your saying here because I (like you) have had a rebirth this year and have started to progress because I started being ME and not pretending to be someone ELSE, like I was told to do by a big guru.

Its only when I got out of my comfort zone and started being more personal on my blog and sharing my journey that I started seeing the light at the end of the tunnell and before that it was a big black cloud (lol)…

My advice to people starting out today that think that they have no credibility is to just be yourself and write about your own journey on your blog (mistakes and all)

And if you have got some spare money then I would definitely get a good coach to reduce your learning curve.

When are we going to see a coaching program from you Adrienne???

You’d be absolutely fantastic as a mentor!

Take care

Dawn

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52 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 10:12 AM

Hi Dawn,

Oh Dawn, I’m so happy to hear that I wasn’t the only one. I was getting an education but no where in that was I told to just be me because people would be able to relate more. My content was so cold and boring. Heck, I wouldn’t even read my stuff. Now that’s not good…

I appreciate you sharing this Dawn and you are so right. Things will start really looking up when you are just being you. People can relate to people and for them to know that others are having similar experiences, that is so helpful. But you definitely need the training in order to help you learn how to market you. That’s a definitely must.

Ah coaching program. Probably not, I gave that a shot a couple years ago and I didn’t really enjoy it. I’ll just stick with coaching my team and hopefully end up on some stage sharing my story with lots more people some day. That’s the vision I have for myself. Oops, I just put it out there.

I appreciate your faith in me Dawn, that means a lot! You have a great day and a fun weekend now okay! :-)

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53 Steve
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October 21, 2011 at 11:39 AM

I hear all these X-type marketing terms and I always wonder. Does that apply to me me too! I consider myself to be an affiliate marketer. But I am also a niche marketer, an email marketer, a network market and probably about a dozen other terms that fit.

I had always wondered about “attraction marketer” I had assumed i would fit that one too. But you cannot always be sure about peoples definitions.

With this wonderful definition of attraction marketing, I like to think it does apply to me! Or least what I desire for my authority sites.

I like the term too. It does sound sooooo much nicer than calling myself an “affiliate marketer” with all of the instant negative connotations that term sometimes brings to peoples minds.

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54 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 6:15 PM

Hey Steve,

You are definitely an attraction marketer. People come to you and want what you have to offer, you don’t go chasing them. You put a lot of yourself into your posts and people relate more to people, not business models. Sure, we all want to learn but who do we want to learn from?

I do affiliate marketing too Steve but mostly network marketing now. But here’s the deal, they are all about promoting products or services that people want or need. Network marketing is more about joining a business but you are still promoting products. It all just boils down to how do you want to be perceived. Who do you want to work with and learn from?

By implementing attraction marketing into what you do, which you do so well by the way, you’ll have more people coming to you and wanting what you have. Not the other way around. Isn’t that what we are all striving for?

Thanks for your input. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts with me. Now, go have yourself a great weekend.

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55 Fred Tracy
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 12:48 PM

Hey! I’m a guy in his 20s and I feel like I connect you. :P

I think what you’ve shared here is absolutely fundamental. We write our posts for – who else – people. We need to be able to connect with them and form relationships. That’s the bread and butter of blogging.

I always try to update my readers about anything new I’ve learned, in hopes that it will help them. Another thing that seems to work well is just plain having fun. If you write a post when you’re in a super good mood, they can tell, and it will put them in a good mood too.

And people like feeling good, thus they come back to you to continue doing so.

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56 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 6:22 PM

Hey Fred,

I do have a few young uns that like to stop by my place.. I’m so thrilled about that too Fred. :-)

I think a lot of people just don’t feel they have anything to offer because they are new. Although when I started this journey, I certainly didn’t feel that people would want to hear what I have to say. You know, I don’t find myself very interesting. But so many people can relate to what I’m going through because they’ve either already been there or are going through that now. People relate to people and their own experiences.

So you are right Fred. If you just write about something you went through then people will be drawn to that more I believe then some boring blog post. Put your own personality in it and get people involved. If you’re in a good mood, a lot of times people will walk away and say “thanks, I needed that pick me up”. What an awesome feeling.

Always a pleasure to see you young man. It makes my heart feel good to know you are interested in what I share. You make this older lady very happy! :-)

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57 Manickam Vijayabanu
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 4:10 PM

Hi Adrienne,
Very interesting and motivating article. I like your first paragraph and that sounds the whole. I believe, At most times bloggers have wider chances to deviate from their core path, by the name of attractive marketing and may end up in reverse impact. Like being said, People don’t enjoy being chased. Perfect word!

In my view, Each blog post should be considered like a short film. Means, you have to put forth your thoughts such a presentable manner and should consider all aspects. Like creativeness, Informative, Intuitive and Effective.
A true business can reach summit only by zeal and continuous effort. It’s kind of endless journey. Be flexible to apply current industry trends at your fashion and keep focused at your goals. Building trust will add more colors to your life.

Thanks for your wonderful article.

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58 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 7:00 PM

Hi Manickam,

I appreciate your take on this subject. I know that for most who are just starting out, the point I really wanted to make it that the way to get noticed and have people listen to you even though you think you have no credibility is to just take what you learn, share it with your readers in your own words and keep going down that same path. It will all come to you over time and you’ll feel much more comfortable sharing content as time goes by.

Adding your own spin and sharing your own experiences will help people be able to relate to you on a more personal level. They don’t have to know everything in order to share what they have learned. Because they now know it from having learned it, they can now share that with others.

You are right, a true business takes continuous effort. But it’s the journey worth it?

Thanks Manickam, I appreciate your comment. Great connecting with you.

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59 Martha Giffen October 21, 2011 at 4:56 PM

You are a girl after my own heart! Once I invested in a coach and committed to doing what they told me, my biz took off!

You hit the nail on the head also about your audience. Once I realized my audience essentially looks like me, it was smooth sailing after that!

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60 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 7:04 PM

Hey Martha,

Ah thanks! :-) I appreciate that…

See, you are also living proof of what can be accomplished once you invest in some training/coaching and then take action.

You are so right, we all need to write for our audience and they will start coming to you. Oh, I do love this industry!

Thanks Martha! Have a fabulous weekend.

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61 Martha Giffen October 21, 2011 at 7:28 PM

I love it too and one reason is that it’s allowed me to meet fantastic people like YOU!

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62 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 22, 2011 at 11:13 AM

Ah thank you Martha, that’s so sweet of you to say. I definitely know what you mean. It’s been a pleasure to be able to connect with so many wonderful people, you included! :-)

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63 Christian Hollingsworth
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 5:50 PM

Hey, I’m a 20 something year old guy who connects with you! ;)

I get this whole general feeling of believing in one’s self, and being positive about the process, when I read this post. You talk about your inspiring story, and how it’s never too late, you’re never too old, and you know enough to make something work. Just get to it! That’s what counts.

Why is it that we get so nervous and down on ourselves? Why do we think nothing is possible? It’s interesting how we lose faith so quickly. I guess it’s just our nature! :)

Thanks for sharing.
Christian

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64 Adrienne Smith
Twitter:
October 21, 2011 at 7:08 PM

I knew you would say that if you dropped by this post. I have a few 20 year olds visiting me. You and Fred for sure so you guys make me feel so young at heart. To know I’m able to connect with you both is so inspiring. ;-)

It’s the unknown that hold a lot of people back Christian. Since you are younger you haven’t actually had a long-term career doing one thing and then hit in the face that there could be a whole other world out there waiting for us. It can be a very scary place, I admit. But we have to walk through that fear and do it anyway in order to actually experience something new. Not everyone can actually pull that off so I’m hoping that those who really want to do that will be inspired by this post.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. You always brighten my day! I appreciate you my wonderful friend!

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65 Christian Hollingsworth
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October 21, 2011 at 8:25 PM

You know, I was thinking a lot about this the other day. Maybe a doctor who has his/her license removed for malpractice (even at no fault of the doctor) or even a friend of mine who’s worked in the Postal Service for many years, just getting laid off.

It’s a scary thing, I’m sure. It’s a difficult thing. My heart goes out to all those who have to deal with it.

Thank you for your thoughts.
Christian

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66 Adrienne Smith
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October 22, 2011 at 11:18 AM

You are right Christian, those things are happening to so many people and it’s all that they’ve ever known how to do. Stepping into the unknown while totally being our of their comfort zone is not a fun place to be. It’s actually very scary!

Knowing though that the online industry is the only place you can come where you have absolutely no knowledge at all, learn what you need and move forward to building a business that can bring in more income than your corporate gig puts the first under a lot of people. The will to succeed and persevere is what will get them through. It’s just a learning process, that’s all. It definitely can be done though!

Thanks Christian, great point! :-)

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67 Donna Merrill
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October 21, 2011 at 11:26 PM

Adrienne, You have done a wonderful job on this. I am sure the Newbies that are coming in will benefit so much from it. Sharing your personal story really gave this a big bang! You are authentic and honest. I know it is difficult when someone has to learn all these learning curves. Usually they go to many sites and even pay for this information.
Here you are putting together a totally free learning process for people. BRAVO
You have done a great job here and I’m telling all my friends about it.
Donna

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68 Adrienne Smith
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October 22, 2011 at 11:20 AM

Hi Donna,

Thank you, I’m so happy you enjoyed my post.

It can be a huge learning curve for many Donna but they are not alone. That’s why I always add that if I can do this anyone can. I got a much slower start than some but having the will to succeed and never giving up is definitely the key to having success. I just hope that by me sharing part of my personal journey that others will find it helpful as well.

I appreciate your support so thank you so much for that.

Enjoy your weekend now! :-)

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69 Jack
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October 23, 2011 at 2:36 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Just be you is among the best advice you can give anyone. It is among the easiest things we can do- doesn’t require any training and it makes it pretty easy to tell our stories.

I would add that people need to remember that it takes time to build things. You have to sustain your effort. I think that is more important than trying to be different or unique.

So many blogs fall apart and drift away- if you provide value and sustain your effort you have an excellent opportunity to make something happen.

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70 Adrienne Smith
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October 23, 2011 at 11:12 AM

Hey Jack,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic.

You are so right, just be you is the best advice. There is no one else out there like you so you are unique. We all are. Use that to your advantage, share what you learn and put your own spin on it. We all learn differently and your way might be great for a lot of people.

Great things don’t happen overnight that’s for sure. The way I see it is you have to get up every single day and do something right. Why not do what you have been taught every single day and over time things will start to fall into place. Don’t set a time table for all of this to happen because there is none. It will happen when it’s suppose to so just keep the faith.

Thanks Jack, I appreciate you stopping by. Hope you are enjoying your weekend. :-)

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71 Cathy
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October 23, 2011 at 12:07 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Great advice. I joined a training group as a well and know there are always more things we can do on a regular basis. Being ourselves makes people feel comfortable, and I agree that this the way to go. It’s interesting to see the difference personalities shine through on the blogs I read. It does take time, but there is tons of advice, including your amazing blog, so we can learn as we go. Thanks!

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72 Adrienne Smith
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October 23, 2011 at 2:55 PM

Hi Cathy,

Thank you, I appreciate that.

I’m so happy to hear that you’ve joined a training community. It’s definitely a great way to learn different ways to market you and your business as well as keep up with the latest things happening in the marketplace. Thank you for sharing that with us.

Hope you are having a wonderful weekend as well. :-)

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73 Karen J Miller October 23, 2011 at 5:06 PM

Hey Addrienne,

I love that you wrote about this topic. Everyone who is starting out faces this very same struggle…How do I show people I know what I’m doing so they’ll take me seriously?

I do agree that folks need to get educated. But more important is being patient during the learning curve process. Network marketing is a business of delayed gratification. People need to understand they have to maintain their belief and faith in what they are doing while they work on their online presence.

Once we’ve been around enough, it soon snowballs and our brand building takes on a life of its own!
Thanks for the info!
Karen

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74 Adrienne Smith
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October 23, 2011 at 11:32 PM

Hey Karen,

I appreciate that you liked this particular topic. I think if it can help others understand the process a little better than that’s great.

I couldn’t agree more, you definitely have to have a lot of patience. This is not going to be overnight gratification. As a matter of fact, you’re going to get a lot more nos then you will yeses but if you believe in what you are doing then it will all be worth it in the end. There is a learning process but it’s actually kind of fun. Just think how you can take what you learned and help others through sharing your own experience. That’s what I have come to enjoy more than anything.

I appreciate you stopping by and sharing your thoughts with me.

Hope your weekend was wonderful and you’re looking forward to another great week.

~Adrienne

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75 Bill Dorman
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October 23, 2011 at 5:50 PM

Very true and I really don’t have much to add. The big takeaway is to just be yourself; everything else seems to work from there.

Hope you have been well, I’m trying to catch up from a week off.

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76 Adrienne Smith
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October 23, 2011 at 11:33 PM

Thanks Bill, I appreciate your input. Glad you agree!

Ah, a week off… Can’t wait to hear all about it and your big time with everyone else. :-) See you soon!

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77 Justin
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October 23, 2011 at 7:00 PM

Hi Adrienne,
This is the #1 reason that I go to car dealerships on Sundays when they are closed. The lot is usually open but there are no sales people there. I believe it is a state law in Maryland.

Either way I am a tough sale. I have to already have my mind set before I buy anything and If I find a really thoughtful, kind and considerate salesperson than I will use them to help me with the sale.

I agree that being ourselves is the most important thing to be. Not everyone is going to “like us” or want to work with us anyway.

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78 Adrienne Smith
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October 23, 2011 at 11:37 PM

Hi Justin,

You are too funny. You know what I tell car salesmen? As soon as one approaches me I just tell them that I’m just looking and if they bother me during this process, they will be the last person I purchase a car from. It works every time. :-)

My Dad was a salesman so he use to critique every single salesman everywhere we went which is the main reason I never wanted to get into that profession. I had a pretty bad taste in my mouth for them too because he would point out everything they did wrong. Trust me, it was a lot.

I much prefer purchasing or joining people I trust. That’s huge Justin, at least for me.

Thanks for sharing this with me. Good to know I’m not the only one who thinks this way!

;-)

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79 Jimmy
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October 23, 2011 at 11:22 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Most people handling such a title in your post would have easily put up a list 8-10 things to be done to become more attractive. You did it with only one – Be yourself. By going into the depth of this one and only most important point you have taught more to people than many bloggers could have hope for. I must admit, that I am also prone to put out a lot of lists on my post. Sometimes, I wonder if people online will ever get sick and tired of all these type of articles. I mean there must be millions out there. But our brain can only focus on up to three items right? Plus all the time management issues and all, how in the world would a list helps. So right off, I want to say thank you to you for exploring deeply instead of broadly.

My experiences of building credibility with attraction marketing is still a new one. Only been around less than 3 months, hence I do not expect fantastic results yet, but I dream of them. I think I have the content and ideas, but you have probably revealed a witness in my writing and content. That personal touch. I am probably been too mechanical about things at the moment because that is the way I work and was brought up. Now, i probably need to work on the more emotional and personal aspect in my writing. Hopefully you will see that in my future posts from hereon.

I do have one struggle that I find hard to comprehend and reconcile. This is to do with our education. Everyone online seems to be advocating the use of a coach or mentor. But been in my current state of limited finance, I have hesitated. I am no sure I have short changed myself here. I have attended some courses and bought some products to help with this before, but I found that they were not of value. This is whereby my dilemma with training and education arise. How can I be sure that the service or product is the correct thing? All this while, online people are talking about the need to invest in yourself. I buy the idea of education, but I need to know that I am signing up for a good product.

Currently, I think I am due a coach. Do you have any suggestion? I am looking for someone who can help with technical aspects of the blog as well as someone who can coach me for personal effectiveness as well. Anyone in mind?

Cheers

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80 Adrienne Smith
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October 23, 2011 at 11:45 PM

Hi Jimmy,

Well I will admit, lists are big. I think just pointing out particular things, others seem to find very helpful. I thought this particular topic though needed a little more attention then a list.

I think you are doing a good job with your content Jimmy but people will connect more with people so when you show that side of yourself, you are just opening up yourself more for those who will be able to see themselves in you.

Well this is where that trust and like comes in handy Jimmy. Who do you know and trust that can point you in the right direction to the kind of training that you are searching for? Start asking some of your blogging friends and then whatever direction you decide to go, let them help you. You can really waste a lot of time always going after free information when if you just invested in yourself, you would be so much further along. This is a huge thing I learned.

So you are looking for coaching that has to do with setting up your blog? Am I understanding that right? We might have to talk more so I can get exactly what it is you are looking for.

Thanks for your input and we’ll be talking more about this soon.

Have a great week!

~Adrienne

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81 Jimmy
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October 24, 2011 at 3:52 AM

Hi Adrienne,

I think you are right. Better invest a bit and sharpen my learning curve so that results can come. Frankly, that is crucial for me and family at the moment.

What I looking for are the following three things:
1) Optimize the blog to draw right traffic in.
2) Create my own product and sell.
3) Use the blog as a platform for my seminar and training programs on personal development.

Any ideas where can I start? Can you help?

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82 Adrienne Smith
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October 24, 2011 at 8:48 AM

I have two suggestions where you can start for free.

1) Did you go through J.D.’s 7 day free course on how to set up your blog correctly just for this purpose?
2) Did you grab that free report from David Risley titled the Six Figure Blueprint?

Both of these are free and I believe you’ll find extremely helpful. David also has a training program that might be what you are looking for. You would have to look at that program to see what all he offers. He’s just someone who has done what a lot of others wish they could do.

Hope that helps. Now, have a great day!

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83 stacey October 24, 2011 at 3:54 AM

Hey Adrienne, this taps into a conversation that I’ve had on repeat in my head for a few weeks now. ” Why should anyone by anything from you”. Thinking about the rose bush salesmen, I guess the key thing is to know what your talking about, admit when you don’t have the answer. + plus be super-fast in finding out what the answer is. I’ve decided to become far more focused in my activities online, not least because I want it to be a rewarding time for both socially and financially, but because I do believe I have some valuable skills and information to share, and hopefully if I can attract enough people, this will start to materialise in profit! Thanks for schooling me on the fundamental of attraction marketing, I need all the help I can get!

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84 Adrienne Smith
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October 24, 2011 at 9:00 AM

Hey Stacey,

Welcome back young lady. So good to hear from you again.

The one thing that I have learned Stacey is just be yourself. We don’t all know everything, even the top income earners don’t know everything. All you can do is be truthful with your readers, share what you know and they will begin to know, like and trust you. If you don’t know something, be honest about it. If you can help them located that information then help them. If not, point them in the right direction. Then when it comes time to promote products, they would much rather purchase them from you then someone they don’t know. Because you remain true to yourself, they will know that you would never promote something you didn’t stand behind. That’s really all there is to it.

Glad to give you a short class on attraction marketing and hope it was helpful.

Take care and have a wonderful week.

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85 Cat Alexandra
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October 24, 2011 at 11:45 AM

Dear Adrienne,

I love how you illustrated the concept of attraction marketing. You really brought this to life in a way I haven’t seen many people do. I think this is “key” because many folks sort of dismiss the idea that attraction marketing works simply because they’re not grasping how it plays out in day to day life, let alone here on the internet. I’m going to share this article with some of my newer team members who are just embarking onto their journey of implementing attraction marketing to their business development pursuits.

From a former Houstonian to a current one, I’d like to say again how much I appreciate your style and what you bring to the web, Adrienne. Your authenticity does shine through and I’m thrilled that so many people are attracted to your website because you are a certified 100% value bringer – and I know that many are becoming empowered and inspired by being touched with your message.

You go girl!

Cat Alexandra

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86 Adrienne Smith
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October 24, 2011 at 12:37 PM

Hi Cat,

Thank you for that, I’m glad that this post has been helpful. I wanted to try and put an easier spin on this since I know myself the way it’s been explained to me over the last few years, I still couldn’t grasp how I was suppose to stand out among the rest. Once I finally got it explained to me in simpler terms, it all made perfect sense. I hope it will help some of your new team members as well.

Ah former Houstonian! Wow Cat, glad to hear you once were among us! :-)

Thank you so much for sharing that with me. I’m so very touched. I do love helping people and here again Cat, I’m just being me. That’s what everyone needs to bring to the table, just be yourself and your own unique way will shine through. I’m happy to know that I’m able to help people learn during this process so hopefully others can learn a thing or two from me that can help them find their way online as well.

Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment! It’s greatly appreciated.

Have a great week Cat!

~Adrienne

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87 Rusty
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October 24, 2011 at 3:50 PM

I am also bothered by the clerk that follows you around everywhere, I tend to head for the door! this was a great illustration of just how it is and the affect it can have on possible visitors! I started blogging just a few months back and was all excited about it when, shortly at the beginning I was “stumbled upon” and had already gotten a few 100 visitors a day (for only 3 days). I thought, wow, this is easy! Ha! Well, since then, I have not only learned first hand, but have read the true life stories of the fact that it takes time to get a real solid readership. If you don’t understand right off that it wall take time, you can easily get discouraged and be tempted to just give up.
But, anything that is worth anything costs something, and so I realized now and you are confirming that, it takes time and being consistent, and as you brought out, be yourself! Thank you once again Adrienne! Have a great week!

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88 Adrienne Smith
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October 24, 2011 at 4:58 PM

Hi Rusty,

Ah, so I’m not the only one that find those salesmen annoying. Hey, I know they are there to make money too but if they just asked me if they could help in any way or if I had any questions and then back the heck off, I’d be more than happy to let them have the sale. It’s the way they go about it that gets under my skin.

I’ve read so many posts that of course the title will definitely grab your attention but it’s things like “how to get 400 hits to your blog post” or things like that. Then they write a topic that is controversial and sure enough, they’ll get those hits to that post. But that’s a one time thing. As you pointed out, you want to build up a good solid readership among other bloggers and trust me, that takes time. But that’s all any of us have right! Time! So consistently do what you enjoy doing everyday and with time, you’ll start to see results.

Thanks Rusty for sharing your thoughts about this topic. I always enjoy hearing what others think and it’s always a pleasure to see you! You have a great week too my friend!

~Adrienne

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89 Brock Blohm
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October 24, 2011 at 4:28 PM

Woot! Great explanation! Attraction marketing is a pretty powerful tool when you use it correctly, is it not? :)

Just give value. Period. The example about the roses, that was perfect. If that person noticed two advertisements, one was about how great their prices were, how they were the best, how they have been in business for x years and how they rock; and the other advertisement was simply giving value – the best soil conditions for a type of rose, certain fertilizers to benefit the rose, sunlight concentrations etc, they are more likely to purchase from the person giving value. It really is that simple.

Great post, Adrienne! :)

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90 Adrienne Smith
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October 24, 2011 at 5:08 PM

Ah thanks Brock! I appreciate your input on this topic.

Like many starting out, they don’t quite understand what “adding value” really means. That’s why I thought the rose example would help make it a little more clear. I know that I personally enjoy learning from people who have been through this themselves as well and are sharing their experiences with us. They just seem more real to me and not just hiding behind some blog post.

Glad you enjoyed my scenario! :-) Have a great week my friend.

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91 Morris
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October 25, 2011 at 11:16 AM

Good post Adrienne Smith.
One of my favorite authors is Seth Godin. Godin started this revolution more than 12 years ago when he wrote the book, “Permission Marketing”. We have him to thank for this effective marketing technique.
Something interesting I noticed is the term “attraction marketing” gets used more in the MLML environment than it does in the business world.
Once you get past the “friendly nudge”, you still need to talk the talk and show your prospect you really do know what you are talking about, especially when you have so many others competing with you, even in small niches.
What I dislike, is that the “attraction” all too often turns sour. Yes, when I signed up for your email, I did say, “Please market to me”.
Continue the attraction in the emails with real content in the subject. I did not say, “Treat me like an idiot” with email subjects like, “You gotta see this”.
That unsubscribe button is just a click away.
Stick to character and always present your best.

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92 Adrienne Smith
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October 25, 2011 at 11:36 AM

Hey Morris,

I agree, Seth really did start all of this and his book is a must read.

You are definitely right. Although this technique is mainly used for those in network marketing, I know that it actually applies to everything. I actually learned this from my own father who was a salesman. I watched him build relationships with people and I watched his business grow. I had no idea at the time what all of that was of course but it’s been around all my life.

I totally agree with you Morris about the email lists. There have been plenty that I have signed up for and from people who I respect and have built up a relationship with and they are still selling me on stuff in almost every single one. They stopped adding value after their “7 day course” or their “10 steps to whatever” were presented. Really upsetting to me so I wonder just how much success they are really having.

Most definitely Morris, stick to character and continue to add value. Their’s no place left but up.

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93 Mitch Mitchell
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October 25, 2011 at 10:32 PM

Being attractive without credibility; interesting title and post. I think you hit it on the nail though when talking about blogging. It’s not just the act of creating content but visiting other blogs and commenting on them and showing those people and others that you really do have something to say.

Of course, I haven’t quite mastered the “money” part of it all yet, but I’ll get there one of these days. ;-)

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94 Adrienne Smith
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October 26, 2011 at 8:53 AM

Ah Mitch, you have definitely mastered the money part of it. You have a few sites making you some mula. You even shared in those posts with us what you were using to bring you in some money. You are way too modest my friend.

Thank you for your input, I appreciate it. You have a beautiful day now!

~Adrienne ;-)

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95 Grady Pruitt October 26, 2011 at 3:09 PM

When you’re real and honest with people, telling them that you’re just learning this or that, it builds trust, even if you’re just a week or two ahead of them in learning something. I know my brother has used it effectively on his site, and I have been trying to use it myself. Sometimes, I forget to mention that I am still learning, but at the same time, I don’t try to claim that I’m an expert.

Thanks for sharing!

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96 Adrienne Smith
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October 26, 2011 at 4:44 PM

Hi Grady,

This is one of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned as well Grady! Just be yourself and tell the truth. If you are new and still learning, share that with others. You’ll be so surprised at how people will reach out to you because of it. To admit you don’t know it all or that you’ve only been doing this a short time. It sounds so much more real then to pretend to be someone you’re not.

I appreciate you sharing this and glad to hear your brother is doing well. I have no doubt that you are as well.

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97 Harriet Cabelly October 26, 2011 at 8:08 PM

Great post and so relevant for me now. I feel I’m struggling for that real engagement piece and growth. I work hard at initiating contacts, reaching out to people, and I have had some nice ‘wins’ – an online radio interview, a couple of blog interviews and a lot of guest posts on my favorite blog, Tiny Buddha. But I don’t really feel that my blog is growing much in terms of subscribers, commenters, overall feedback via email questions, etc. I try to continue to stay focused on the process, which I do love.
Thanks for this wonderful piece.

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98 Adrienne Smith
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October 27, 2011 at 8:57 AM

Hi Harriet,

It’s a pleasure to see you, welcome!

If it’s one thing I’ve learned Harriet is that things will happen within the time frame that they are suppose to. When we start thinking that it’s not moving fast enough for us, that will start to hold you back.

I know I don’t have my subscriber list set up properly at the moment, I’m in the middle of changing it, but offer your readers perhaps a 7 day course or 10 steps to, something like that. Entice them into subscribing and give them something of value. That will really help in those terms.

You being a life coach, I’m surprised you used the words “I try”. Take that “try” out of your vocabulary young lady and stay in the present moment. Do what you believe will benefit you in that moment and leave the rest up to the Universe. :-) Stay focused, be consistent, do the work each day that will bring you closer to the results you are striving for and it will fall into place.

Thank you Harriet for stopping by today, it’s a pleasure to meet you! Have a beautiful day!

~Adrienne ;-)

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99 Harriet Cabelly October 27, 2011 at 4:24 PM

Yes siree, Adrienne. You are so right. The word ‘try’ is Out. I’m surprised at myself considering I’m reading Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles.
Thank you for being straight-forward. I love and appreciate that.

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100 Adrienne Smith
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October 27, 2011 at 5:27 PM

I’m so glad you aren’t upset with me for saying that Harriet! :-) By the way, that’s an awesome book, read it a couple of years ago. Jack’s the man!

Happy to hear that you didn’t mind me being straight forward. Don’t worry, you’ll probably be returning the favor very soon I’m sure.

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101 Pj Zafra
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October 27, 2011 at 6:51 AM

Hey Adrienne,

Great post here! I have to say I love Attraction Marketing. I used to hate chasing people around whether online or offline. I’ve definitely seen amazing changes in my results applying this amazing principle.

It was tough at first applying this but after reading Magnetic Sponsoring, things started coming easier. It’s all about providing value and solutions. That’s very very important. Thanks for sharing this post! Keep it up! :D

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102 Adrienne Smith
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October 27, 2011 at 9:16 AM

Hey P.J.,

Thank you for sharing this with us P.J. I think that when people are just starting they don’t really understand how they can add value when they are new which is why I wanted to write this particular one. It’s so much better to let the people come to you instead of chasing them. Once you really learn how to incorporate all of this into your business, it’s so much more enjoyable.

I appreciate you sharing this with us today! ;-)

Have a good one!

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103 Marcus Baker
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October 27, 2011 at 6:05 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Great post on an important topic. I believe that to be attractive one has to make best friends with all those things about oneself that one more than likely does not like. The reason why…. it’s those exact foibles with which others will connect.

The biggest mistake one can make and it’s so common too… is trying to please or be attractive to everybody. In doing so you dilute who you are to the point of being invisible since you join the biggest group called “I’m the same”.

While I agree with you that ‘knowing your stuff’ and giving value is important what is more important is the way in which you color that value with who you are.

There are plenty of people out there teaching what you do Adrienne so why so so many follow you? Because they connect with you and who you are. Awesome!

~Marcus

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104 Adrienne Smith
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October 27, 2011 at 9:12 AM

Hi Marcus,

Great to see you and thanks for that. Yeah, you are right. It’s that same thing that I always tell my girlfriends when they would complain to me about their relationships. How can you expect him to love you like you want when you don’t even love yourself. Yep, that gets them to thinking every time.

Every individual is unique in their own way. Although we may not see it ourselves, we are. Most people would prefer working with the people they are able to connect with anyway. It sure isn’t going to be everyone.

I agree Marcus but I also believe that goes back to just being you. If you remain true to yourself, just be you, share what you have learned in your own voice, then you will attract the right people. It really is that simple if people would just let their hair down a little. Relax, make this fun and stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. This is one big learning process.

Thanks Marcus, I always appreciate your input. You are one wise man! :-)

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105 Chadrack
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October 27, 2011 at 10:49 AM

Hi Adrienne, I must say you hit this right on the head and your analogue is just superb!

I got this understanding some time ago after reading a post by one blogger who claim to be a team leader in one network group. In the post he spent the whole time talking down on those new to network marketing but try to teach what the business is about by creating content around what they are learning from others. Of course he premised his argument on the fact that you must “walk the talk and not just talk the talk!”

Now what he was pointing out was quite ok, but the way he went about it was not really good for the newbie. And right there while reading that post, my mind to those professors in college who teach entrepreneurship when they have never build any successful business in their life. My mind went to coaches and trainers of boxers and wrestlers who might have never won any belt in their life but yet earn their living training heavy weight champions!

And that was when I saw that having the knowledge is another way you too, as a blogger, can build your own success. it just like you put it, learn what you can and teach as many people who need that knowledge and your success is sure.

Glad to read this.

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106 Adrienne Smith
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October 27, 2011 at 11:07 AM

Hi Chadrack,

Thank you, I’m glad this one resonated with you.

I understand what you are saying and I think I’ve probably run across a few people who have shared the same vision with me as well. One of the reasons I held myself back in the beginning because I couldn’t show the actions since I hadn’t accomplished everything yet. But we all have to start somewhere and as long as you are being honest with where you are and not pretending to be someone you’re not, teach others the lessons you’ve already learned. That will help them recognize that they can do this too.

Thank you for sharing those examples with me Chadrack! You are so right. Acquire the knowledge and teach others and you will eventually be accomplishing all sorts of wonderful things in your business. That I do know for sure.

Enjoy your day my friend.

~Adrienne

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107 Chadrack
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October 28, 2011 at 9:24 AM

Just want to add that from your reply: “One of the reasons I held myself back in the beginning because I couldn’t show the actions since I hadn’t accomplished everything yet,” it is clear that if you’ve waited until you have accomplished everything, you’ll not be where you are today, or are saying you’ve already accomplished all?

The truth is you don’t have to have it all before you can teach others. Definitely, there are those you are already ahead of in that area. You simply need to focus on them.

Like I’ve already said, while I agree that you should be able to point to some results, there is a fact we cannot deny in our information driven economy and that is, teaching pays! Indeed, I agree with you that honesty is important but there are a whole lot of things that many people are missing and that is why they are still struggling online.

I’m into niche marketing, building niche blogs where I promote affiliate products. Now, I don’t have to be an expert in all those markets neither must I have some concrete results with those products before I promote them. Are you seeing the picture here? Now, that is the beauty of an information economy! I simply do my research online, write articles on those products and I bank the cash!

There are newbies coming into the market. Let us open their minds to the big opportunities that is before them instead of trying to talk them down with our supposed expert and guru mentality. That was my grouse with that particular blogger’s attitude. Though I really did not blame him much because I know he was only promoting himself since he wanted these people to signup for his consulting service. But even with that he should have used a better way.

Sorry that I’m sounding somehow agitated here but my point is, encourage and do not push down anyone!

Thanks for giving me the opportunity to un-bottle my mind! :)

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108 Adrienne Smith
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October 28, 2011 at 12:24 PM

Hey Chadrack,

There is always more to accomplish. In the beginning I felt uncomfortable writing about stuff because I was under the impression that I had to be an expert on everything. So if someone asked me a question I would know all the answers but that’s just never really going to be the case. I’ve learned that when you learn something, share it with your readers because it might be a topic that they also wanted to learn and you just helped them.

You are right, there are a whole lot more things people are missing as to why they are still struggling online but that would have to be a whole other post. I was just trying to address how to start being more attractive to your readers when you believe you have no credibility.

I do know that the way some people market and present themselves online is not the best way. I can tell it in your comment how agitated you were with that one particular guru but that can just teach you Chadrack that you don’t have to be like that. You can be different, you can make sure you never become that person.

You can unbottle here any time you please. I hear the frustration and I’ve been there before myself. From your experiences though, you can help others. That’s the beauty of the online world.

Now, have a fabulous weekend okay! :-)

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109 Adrienne Smith
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October 28, 2011 at 12:24 PM

Hey Chadrack,

There is always more to accomplish. In the beginning I felt uncomfortable writing about stuff because I was under the impression that I had to be an expert on everything. So if someone asked me a question I would know all the answers but that’s just never really going to be the case. I’ve learned that when you learn something, share it with your readers because it might be a topic that they also wanted to learn and you just helped them.

You are right, there are a whole lot more things people are missing as to why they are still struggling online but that would have to be a whole other post. I was just trying to address how to start being more attractive to your readers when you believe you have no credibility.

I do know that the way some people market and present themselves online is not the best way. I can tell it in your comment how agitated you were with that one particular guru but that can just teach you Chadrack that you don’t have to be like that. You can be different, you can make sure you never become that person.

You can unbottle here any time you please. I hear the frustration and I’ve been there before myself. From your experiences though, you can help others. That’s the beauty of the online world.

Now, have a fabulous weekend okay! :-)

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110 Faissal Alhaithami
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October 30, 2011 at 6:36 AM

Your story is awesome :D and It is amazing how you made it through more than 50 comment per post in around 3 months ;D

When I started my first blog less than a year ago, I was straggling and don’t know well about Socialmedia, SEO and other blogging strategies. Then I started to learn more about that starting by readying tons of posts and ebooks and joining online courses.

each time I read and learn something I discover that I’m doing something wrong on my blog.. after like 6 months from learning I started to get some attention and by then I knew that NOW I’m doing it right..

Now I’m running my new blog which i have created 2 months ago, I’m doing a pretty good job.

Thanks Adrienne for the post :D

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111 Adrienne Smith
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October 30, 2011 at 12:46 PM

Thanks Faissal! It was the interaction with other bloggers that continued to bring more attention to my blog. That really helped with the comments continuing to rise.

You sound like me, the more I learned the more I understood either what I was doing wrong or what I needed to do differently. I’m so glad of this learning experience though because without it, neither of use would be where we are right!

You are doing a great job with your current blog. You share some really great content about Facebook. I for one am glad and use it as a reference for when I need to know something about their recently changes, updates or anything else I need to know. Keep up the great work.

~Adrienne

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112 Linda October 30, 2011 at 10:54 PM

Welp, you know my story too, so I felt the same way – that training was awesome and i have to tell you – I miss it! It really rots when you have other priorities and when you go to jump back into things you forget everything *sigh* – that is where I am at – got all this time on my hands – I know how to blog hop, I know about this and that, but things seem to be taking a change and not for the better, necessarily and well………..I feel lost once again – I must sound like a broken record to so many people…it is so hard to focus, then lose focus then try again and then just like now what! I am sure you don’t understand because you have been able to focus and keep on going upwards and to the TOP, while little me is in between at the moment.

I need to refocus my focus and figure out where to go now and I betcha as soon as I figure that out – I will get more work, which I really need – happens EVERY SINGLE TIME – but I have to go where the money is FIRST as that is what pays our bills.

Anyway – I love your concept of the roses – very genious of you, as always.

Keep the posts coming – I read, although don’t always respond – I am here :)

Have a Happy Halloween, if you get trick or treaters – we don’t normally, but hard to say this year with all my kid’s connections…lol. It’s a snowy pumpkin season right now – our first big one so early!!

Linda

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113 Adrienne Smith
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October 31, 2011 at 9:29 AM

Hey Linda,

I’m so sorry you have such difficulty focusing. There are so many great things you have been able to accomplish and you do things others would probably have a difficult time doing. It makes me sad that you get off tract and then can’t seem to get back on. I wish I could help you in some way.

I have no doubt that once you find the rhythm and get back on tract that things will once again fall into place for you.

Glad you enjoyed the concept of the roses. Thought that might help explain things better. I also appreciate you stopping by when you have the time and commenting. I always enjoy hearing what you have to share Linda.

Happy Halloween to you as well. We don’t get trick or treaters. I live in a gated community and there are no children that live here. I never have to worry about people unexpectedly showing up at my door. :-)

Snow already! We just got a little cooler weather, not much. Let’s just say that the afternoons haven’t been as warm. Very nice days though.

Thanks again Linda and enjoy your week.

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114 Aaron November 3, 2011 at 10:17 AM

Adrienne,
I think I just jumped in. I love helping people learn other languages and love writting and so just got going. The technical/business side of things is not my passion nor something I do particularly well. And so I have read/listened to everything I can on that front and tried to apply as I go. I think my struggle is that while I have had steady growth in readership, I really don’t know how I am doing. I have no handles, no benchmarks to look to. Independent language learners often struggle with this feeling of not knowing if they are progressing too slowly or if they coud be doing things better. It’s why I wrote the EDLL Guide to Self-Assessment. Anyway that’s my struggle. I think things are going well, but could they be going a lot better? I am not sure. I think maybe I need to just fork over the money and sit down with someone and go through all that I am doing. I need some ruthless evaluation!

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115 Adrienne Smith
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November 3, 2011 at 11:21 AM

Hi Aaron,

Your blog does cover a unique skill, one that I don’t run across often. Are you aware of the amount of traffic you’re bringing to your blog and seeing where it’s coming from? You can then increase your marketing methods and hone in on those specific areas if you are aware. Just install a Google Analytics plug-in after setting that account up, it’s all free by the way, and you’ll be able to keep more tabs on where your actual traffic is coming from.

I know you do some coaching so I’m sure that the traffic you received from your blog leads to you having more customers. That would be a great way to keep that all in tact.

Good luck Aaron!

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116 Samantha Bangayan
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November 3, 2011 at 2:26 PM

Adrienne, this is such an amazing example of exactly what you preach. You know, I’ve been struggling with this very issue lately. I’ve had people refer to me as someone who knows about social media and blogging, for example, but I’ve never felt as if I was any kind of expert or worthy enough to be a teacher. But the truth seems to be that there’s always someone we can pass along our knowledge to. And you’re so right about audiences — we all have different personalities and styles, so there will be groups of people who vibe better with one personality/style than another.

I also really appreciate your reminder that we don’t necessarily need experience in the field. Instead, we can pass along what we’ve learned (the expertise of someone who does have experience in the field). I would like to make it my goal to make education a top priority! Beautiful post, friend!

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117 Adrienne Smith
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November 3, 2011 at 2:56 PM

Hi Samantha,

I struggled with this too for awhile Samantha until it was explained to me that I know more than some people so those who resonate with the way I share information would definitely benefit from my knowledge. I openly claim to be no expert and I’m honest about just sharing what I learn but some people will really appreciate that and want to continue learning from me because I’m not that “in your face” type personality.

You have learned so much since coming online so the people who are attracted to you will benefit from the knowledge you have acquired. That’s what’s important, helping others so you don’t have to claim to be an expert in order to help others. Obviously you know more then they do and they just appreciate your help.

Now, you can take this knowledge and share it with others and they will appreciate it as well. See how this all works? If you don’t know everything, just point them in the right direction. We definitely can’t know it all now can we!

Thanks Samantha for stopping by and glad this post was helpful. Always a pleasure to see and hear from you my friend. :-)

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118 Salah Messaoud November 3, 2011 at 3:06 PM

Hi Adrienne thanks for the article it is great but you just mentioned that education is the key of the success, well I don’t agree with you 100% on this point.
I give you examples: Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, John Steve they are dropped from college.

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119 Adrienne Smith
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November 3, 2011 at 3:40 PM

Hey Salah,

I don’t mean education in the since that you have to go to school/college. If you are online building a business for yourself can you honestly tell me that you are just winging it? That you haven’t learned one thing since you’ve been here? That’s just not possible. You need to educate yourself in skills that you need to acquire or maybe it’s software you need to learn how to use. Either way, take that knowledge and share it with your readers. That’s what I mean by education. :-)

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120 Salah Messaoud November 3, 2011 at 3:53 PM

Thats true I am always learning new stuff and I am a fast learner. I am always improving my skills and just reading your blog means that I am learning new things from you.

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121 Adrienne Smith
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November 3, 2011 at 4:52 PM

As you learn you can share with others which will start to make you attractive to more people who can relate to what you are sharing. And that’s how this works Salah! :-)

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122 Andy Bearden November 6, 2011 at 3:30 AM

There is nothing more refreshing than when a person is simply being themselves. Being transparent is crucial in today’s society. Open the books and let everyone in I say. Leaders Read and Readers Lead. Read at least 30 minutes a day, listen to some kind of training daily, whether it be personal growth or professional development and write something everyday also. Sooner or later it will become second nature and just part of your daily routine.

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123 Adrienne Smith
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November 6, 2011 at 10:58 AM

Hi Andy,

Welcome to my place and thank you for sharing your thoughts about this. You are right on all accounts.

I love what you said, “Leaders Read and Readers Lead”. Oh so true and we can’t get further in life without learning right!

Thank you for your words of wisdom. I really appreciate that!

~Adrienne :-)

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124 Jens P. Berget
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November 11, 2011 at 11:49 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Very interesting post.

Adding value and helping others, that’s what it’s all about. But, what I have been thinking about lately is time. I am working at a University, a fairly large organization, with lots of co-workers and lots of students, and things are happening in a very fast pace.

The fast pace is a big hinderance to being attractive and using inbound marketing, because it takes a lot more time being attractive than using traditional advertising. And when it comes to large organizations like a University, it’s not easy to turn around and start spending time creating content and adding value… many times we do what’s easy and fast, because that’s how the culture is.

I agree that it shouldn’t be like that, but it’s really hard work to start being attractive :-)

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125 Adrienne Smith
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November 11, 2011 at 3:26 PM

Hi Jens,

Just sharing what you learn and know with others and then visiting other blogs on a consistent basis will help introduce people to who you. Once they get a feel for who you are and what you have to offer, over time you will become more attractive. Hopefully with time it will just continue to grow.

Consistency is the real key Jens and your blog is becoming very popular. People connect with you because of how genuine you are. I have no doubt you’ll be able to accomplish this same thing with the University’s site. :-)

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126 Adam Clarke November 30, 2011 at 10:45 PM

Absolutely great advice Adrienne. Great writing that kept me interested each step of the way while providing timeless value for anyone interested in achieving great success from newbies to long time business owners. You certainly have earned where you are today and I really enjoyed your story. I didn’t know what attraction marketing was before reading this though I understood the idea. That’s exactly how I got Andy to message me asking me for my advice, I offered a free opportunity for potentially huge value that he couldn’t resist when all it cost was a letting me know he was interested in what I had to share. Experience and education made sure I had something to offer without much credibility.

Arienne really knows what she is talking about!

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127 Adrienne Smith
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November 30, 2011 at 11:13 PM

Hey Adam,

I appreciate you sharing that with me Adam and so glad you found this post helpful. I think a lot of times we just need this explained a little better so that we can all understand that even if you are brand new, you can still be attractive and this is how you can start. I’m so glad you and Andy have bonded in this way and this is how it begins. Bravo my friend, great job!

Thanks for stopping by and hope you’ve had a wonderful day!

~Adrienne

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128 Sergio Felix
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December 13, 2011 at 11:55 PM

Hey Adrienne,

Wow so much to digest from here, first of all, I kind of hate those sales people on stores and online folks who behave like that as well (hence the ‘iseesalespeople’ thing)

I loved your analogy with the person explaining how to grow roses and that if we can provide value, then it is okay to mentor or help others as well.

When I first got started I was doing very good actually, in less than my first six months I made a few affiliate commissions with Hostgator, made like $15 bucks with ptc programs LOL lost money with programs like SFI, MyWorldPlus and GDI and well I think I had a great start overall!

However, I started taking TOO much training, and that lead to being pulled in so many directions, so much advice.

While one blogger said “do this”, an internet marketer would say “no, do this instead” and I entered chaos from that.

I always first listen to advice from everyone and then I decide what I’m going to do by myself but this only made it worse for me.

I kept myself in that constant learning mode and always afraid to actually try things out because I wanted everything perfect.

I couldn’t stand mistakes, much less to make them by myself so I believe there has to be a balance somewhere.

I don’t like to think on terms of newbies and pros, I rather like to think in successful or not?

I have seen MANY bloggers who started blogging for profits and ended up blogging as a hobby.

And I also have seen many people who say are successful because they make n-amount of money online, yet they don’t live from it.

So this thing is very subjective to me and delicate as well.

To sum all this up, I did struggle (as many I think) to figure how this whole thing works out but that was because I did not wanted someone telling me what to do.

I needed to struggle myself so I can understand a struggling customer.

I’m pretty sure that with the knowledge I have now, I could just do some market research, compile a great product, outsource graphics and write a compelling sales letter.

Create an email campaign providing great value, design a converting sales funnel, put the product in a few marketplaces, split test pages to the best of my efforts and then just let affiliates and JV partners to promote it for me.

After that is just rinse and repeat, nurture the list, offer new products with discounted or launching prices, make more business partnerships, etc, etc.

There’s absolutely NO way I could do something like this by myself a year ago!

I wouldn’t know about the tools, wouldn’t know where to go, how much would it cost, how the heck can I test profitability on a given micro niche, etc, etc.

So if I take a person who knows NOTHING about Internet Marketing, I’m pretty sure s/he would benefit a TON from that kind of knowledge because after all, it only took me like a year and a half of my life on daily studying, sleepless nights, wasted money, family discussions, general stress and so many others! LOL

Sorry to convert this comment into a mini rant Adrienne but I think it’s important to show people that for us who chose to NOT get mentored right away, it was NOT pretty and the learning curve can become huge as well. ;-)

Sergio

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129 Adrienne Smith
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December 14, 2011 at 10:45 AM

Hey Sergio,

You can rant over here any time you want my friend. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with me. I know you now have a good mentor so you can take what he/she teaches you and put those in posts as well. Of course if you intend to take what you have learned and create a product around that, you can entice them into purchasing that from you in order to learn everything. I have no doubt that whatever product you end up creating, it will be worth it.

Like you, I went through about a year and a half of the same struggles. Listening to way too many people telling me totally different things and I was so confused. I lost so much money on so much junk that it’s not even funny. You have to decide what works best for you though and I think we all have those types of struggles in the beginning. I’m just glad that we both are way past those.

As always, it’s great to see you and I’m so excited with where you are heading. I know it’s going to be an exciting journey. ;-)

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