How To Build Relationships Through Blogging

by Adrienne Smith on September 30, 2013

I stumbled on quite a few posts and conversations last week about blogging, commenting and building relationships.  Three of my most favorite subjects.

For the most part, many love commenting and connecting with other bloggers while there are others who are either not having any success in this area or think commenting is a waste of time.

What better topic for today’s post then to share my view on how to build relationships through blogging.

It All Starts With Your Amazing Content

I could say that it starts with commenting and it really does as far as the connections go but we’ve got to get them to your blog first!  Once they’re here we have to keep them wanting to come back because of your amazing content.

How do we write amazing content?  It’s so much easier then you think.  Trust me on this one.

I’ve mentioned here on my blog numerous times that you have to write like you’re talking to a good friend because people connect with people.  They connect to real life experiences.

Now this post isn’t about how to write so if you still need some assistance in this area I suggest you stop by and read what Sue wrote on this subject.  Man did she ever explain this one well.  Bravo Sue…

So now that we have the content down, let’s get them to our blogs shall we!

Commenting On Blogs

One of the discussions that I saw last week was that commenting was a big waste of time.

Do you agree with that?

I’ve shared with you all before that I’m a huge people person.  When I was eight years old we moved into a new neighborhood.  My Dad picked us up from school and brought us to the new house.  I went inside, checked it out, saw my room and then was out the door.

I went to every house on that end of the block asking if they had any girls my age I could play with.  I found three within a one hour and we remained friends until we all grew up and went our separate ways.

Now you might be saying to yourself well yeah Adrienne, it’s easy for you but I’m NOT a people person.  I really don’t care to socialize at all.

Man, that’s really sad because you don’t know what you’re missing but if that’s how you really feel then I would have to agree with you, this isn’t for you.  But just because you don’t enjoy socializing doesn’t mean it doesn’t work.

If you do enjoy connecting with others then you have to put yourself out in front of enough people in order for them to start being the least bit curious about you.  It’s not going to take one week or even one month of doing this.  You have to be consistent in visiting other blogs, commenting on their content and sharing it on the social networks.

Now if you need a lesson in how to comment in order to really get attention then be sure to read  Harleena’s guest post because we all know she’s the commenting queen here.

So it starts with having amazing content that will keep people on your blog but in order to get them there you have to start commenting.  Okay, we’ve got that down so what’s next.

Connecting With Others And Building Relationships

I will not lie to you, building relationships is time consuming.

Surely you’ve heard stories since being online about how this marketer connected with this guy and now they’re in business together and making a killing.

What, you’ve never heard these kinds of stories before?  I sure have and have had the pleasure of actually meeting a few…

The relationships you build online can catapult you to greater heights.  You’ll never know though until you start making those connections.

So it all starts with creating your amazing content and then you have to get in front of enough people so they’ll start noticing you.

Once people start seeing you everywhere their curiosity will get the best of them and next thing you know they’re over at your place commenting too.  Hopefully they’ll enjoy your content so much that they’ll start dropping by on a more regular basis.  Next thing you know you’ve got a handful of very loyal readers.

That’s when people really start to notice you and the requests for you to be a guest blogger will start to come in or perhaps they’ll want to interview you for a series they’re doing.

Don’t you realize how beneficial that can be?  Especially if you’re either doing consulting work or you have your own product in the works.  These people will help promote you!

Getting attention for your amazing comments or the interaction you’re getting on your blog is definitely the way to go.  You need to take it a step further though.

Connect with these people and not just through blog commenting.

Email them and let them know how much you really appreciated a topic they shared on their blog or if you have questions about something they’re using and you’d like to know what it is, ask them.

If they shared something really good that can help your readers benefit and it’s relevant content like Sue’s then link out to their post in one of yours.  People appreciate the heck out of that.

Be sure to follow them on Twitter and send them a message on Facebook or Google+, whichever if your preferred social network.  Get to know them better.  Maybe you can help them with something or they can help you.

You have to go beyond the comments.

Take the Personal Approach

So you’ve sent a blogger an email and let them know that you really enjoyed a particular post.  Go a step further though and ask them if they have some time to visit with you via Skype, phone or Google Hangout.

Remember what I shared with you in one of my recent posts about my connection with Dee Ann!  On the surface it would seem that although we might have some things in common that we’ll never buy anything from each other which is the mentality most people have when they’re building a business.

Because I’m such a people person I’ve been told I’m wasting my time actually connecting with all these people who can’t benefit me.  Well guess who proved all of them wrong!

You never know who you’re going to help, who you’re going to touch, who will end up looking up to you or who may end up helping you.

People appreciate that so much and because not all bloggers will take the time, you’ll stand out from the rest and isn’t that what this is all about?

When people tell you “be unique” or “stand out from all the rest” and you’re scratching your head thinking to yourself well I’m nothing special.  I’m a doe doe who can’t figure this stuff out and no one will be able to relate to me.

Just remember what I’m telling you right this minute!  I use to think the same darn thing and look at me now.  Trust me guys, I’m much older then most of you and I didn’t know squat.  But I started writing so people could relate to me and I never turned anyone away.

That is how you build relationships through blogging!  Tada…

Any questions?  Lay them on me, seriously!  You know I’ll answer them for you and help in any way I can.

So that’s my take on how to build relationships through blogging.  I do share a little bit more information in my free report if you haven’t grabbed that one yet but for the most part this is a pretty darn good start.

Would love to hear your thoughts and be sure to share this one with your friends now.  Remember, they’ll love you for it!





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1 Kumar Gauraw
September 30, 2013 at 8:04 AM

A very valuable advise indeed Adrienne. I can testify the importance of building relationships through my own business career and I tell you, numerous times I have been rewarded for keeping strong relationships with other people when they didn’t have anything to offer me.

My business coach said in the beginning of my journey, “Your network is your net worth.”

And after years of working and developing at least three profitable businesses, I can confidently say that there is an incredible amount of truth in the statement.

Oh and yes, John Maxwell said once, “If you have been doing it all by yourself, you haven’t done much.”

That means, blogging, for professionals is a team work and how do you build a team when you don’t invest your time in relationship building? It is absolutely critical to success in any venture let alone blogging.

Thank you for sharing these valuable lessons. Really enjoyed being here today!
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2 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 8:49 AM

Hi Kumar,

I’m so happy that you shared that with me today Kumar because people who have actually taken the time to build relationships and have greatly benefited from them are the ones that can back this up indeed.

I know that there are a lot of people in this world that prefer not to socialize so to me that means they just need to be doing something different. I’m not quite sure yet how you’re able to have a successful business and not be involved with people. As you said here, we can’t do this alone. It’s just not possible and if you think you can then you’re in for a rude awakening.

Blogging is about communities to me and we’re here to support one another and help each other along the way. It’s not a competition in my eyes because we’re all different and that’s how connections are made. It’s not about who has the better content, it’s about who you connect with the most.

I appreciate you sharing your experience with me today because this is what we all need to hear. It’s not just me! 😉

Enjoy your week Kumar and again, thank you for your comment.



3 Harleena Singh
September 30, 2013 at 8:09 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Lovely topic indeed, and the one you know we SO agree with :)

Oh yes…there can be nothing better in the Blogosphere than building relationships, and that happens ONLY when we comment at each other’s post and get to know each other better. Of course, people visit your blog at first because of the content you share, something that relates to the readers – it’s more about them than you, and the come once, and keep coming there after seeing the way you are with them – how you respond to their comments and interact with them. I think in the online world, that’s the only way we begin to make the connection with each other, which over time develops into trust and better bonds that last a lifetime sometimes.

I agree with you, and I enjoyed Sue’s latest post too, and I think she really put up that wonderful video that said it all. Thanks for mentioning my guest post here as well – something I can SO well relate to myself, because I’ve seen it working for me, right from the time I started blogging. I wouldn’t say my traffic is all that good, or I come up in the searches, or the ranks and SEO all work very well – but I do know for sure that the connections I’ve made, the people I’ve made, the relationships I’ve built – have ONLY happened through the comments – either at my blog, or the visits I make at other blogs. Not to mention, also visiting the new bloggers who stop-by because that’s how new connections are made. Again, as I say so often – these are all lessons picked up from you, over time, because of the relationship we’ve built, isn’t it? :)

Thanks for sharing this with us and reminding us how to build the relationships through blogging. Have a nice week ahead :)
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4 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 8:58 AM

Hi Harleena,

The more I thought about it the more I thought I’ve got to write something now. It’s like last week was the week for negativity in the blogging community for some reason. My heart actually goes out to those people who believe this is a waste of time. I think they just need more direction and explanation of how and why this works. Maybe they’ll see the light or maybe they won’t.

You are right about that Harleena which is why I don’t look at blogging as being in competition with anyone. Oh sure they have to relate to the content but as you said, it’s about them and not us. So it’s those connections they end up making with the blogger behind the content that will either move them forward or not. It’s up to us to reach out and do more for them and some people you’ll connect with while others you won’t.

I loved Sue’s post and what Ricky shared in that video. I mean it doesn’t get more clearer then that right!

Traffic is great, I won’t lie but as we all know it’s mostly about quality over quantity. Unless you’re someone who is only here for the quick buck then none of this will be important to them. But if you’re here to build a sustaining business then the relationships you make along the way or going to far out way the traffic you get today. I’m so eager to launch my product and see just how many people support me and that will bring the sales because of the connections I’ve made and they trust that I’ll provide a quality product. This is how it’s all done.

I appreciate your comment Harleena and sharing what you know to be true as well. You are the perfect example as well of how this all works and comes together. Thank you so much and you enjoy your week as well.



5 Ashley
September 30, 2013 at 8:14 AM

Hey Adrienne, seems you are cracking the whip again – go girl. I am trying don’t you worry. I think it is working too. That thing where you mentioned being asked to do stuff, it works, slowly but surely. And more surely lately for me. I am just trying to get to do more commenting, at least 5 a day right. Well I was not able the last few weeks, but now I am back and raring to go.

Your ideas for getting in contact with people are great, I am not the best at those.
But now I vow to be better – relationships here i come. :>
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6 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:09 AM

Hey Ashley,

I get upset sometimes when people say that things don’t work when I know darn good and well that they do. Maybe they just need a little more direction and if so then I’m eager to help. But everything in life does require some work and yes, commenting and building relationships is time consuming but look at the payoff Ashley! If people are here to seriously build a business then they need to do what it takes right! So let me share with you how this is done and then go kick some serious a*s! 😉

I’m so happy to hear that you’ve been putting some of this in place and also seeing results. Now I know life tends to get in the way and at times we aren’t able to do a few things but get right back on that horse and get to it when possible because it does take awhile to build up to getting a regular audience so that if you do drop offline for a week or two they’re still going to come around. It’s a beautiful thing.

Take that extra step and reach out to them. That’s how you’ll be memorable and trust me, they’ll appreciate that. Just let them know you care and you’re there for them.

Thanks for your comment Ashley and I have no doubt you’ll do exceptionally well. Have a great week okay!



7 Princess Shimari
September 30, 2013 at 8:25 AM

Hi Adrienne,
My take away from this article, is to write as though I am talking to my friend. I try to make my content as personable as possible and infuse as much of myself and related experiences in my writing, but now I have that nugget to infuse into my writing.
As a blogger, I find that connecting with people, and giving them something of value is important to me. But what really floats my boat is having comments that indicate that my content was useful. It is a two way street in my case. Comments really help and encourage me.
I find it is also fun to reach out and interact with other bloggers on their sites, and leaving a meaningful comment, makes a mark.
I totally agree, commenting builds solid relationships.
Continue to inspire us. Thanks.


8 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:14 AM

Hi Yvonne,

People can just relate to you as a person if they get a feeling that by you sharing whatever you’ve experienced then you’re talking just to them. That’s how connections are made so that when you do reach out and try to get to know your commenters more then they’ll remember you.

To me comments on your posts do mean that they really enjoyed what you shared and it’s validation that you’re being heard. Who doesn’t want that as a blogger? I know that since you’re in the health industry you really do care about people and their health so you want to help them. I think that so many people feel that things are stuffed down their throats but when you can just share what you know and let them make that decision to help themselves then you’ll probably have a customer for life.

I’m so happy to hear that you continue your commenting journeys and connecting with other bloggers Yvonne. I think that’s the start of building a great community and supporting one another. That’s how the relationships are formed.

Thank you for sharing this and for your comment this morning. I so appreciate that and you have a wonderful week. I hope to continue to inspire. 😉



9 Kumar Chandan
September 30, 2013 at 8:30 AM

Hi, Adrienne,
Indeed very interesting and logical post. :)

Blogging is the best way building relationship online. This open new door to connect with new people with new thinking. Relationship also help us in growing our online businesses.

I feel commenting on blogs is not a wasting of time, it some how build a good relationship with bloggers. It helps us to appear at different places with our view and comments. This also helps us to get traffic for our blog.

Yes, it is true, people connect and relate others emotions with their own. And real life story help us to connect with more people. These emotions are the thing what binds our readers.

Taking personal approach, mailing a person, messing on Facebook, replying on a tweet also help us in a great way to build and get good relation with netizens.

Blogging really help us getting good relation and good relation make us more popular.
Thank you for sharing wonderful post. Have great week ahead!! :)
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10 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:17 AM

Hey Kumar,

Glad you enjoyed this share and I know that you’re one of those that does believe that blogging and commenting is not a waste of time. I’m so thrilled to hear that you’ve enjoyed getting to know other bloggers as well and building those relationships that in turn can help us build our business.

There are so many wonderful and amazing people in this world and through blogging we’re able to connect with so many of them.

I appreciate you sharing your views with me today and thank you so much for your comment. I love hearing this type of feedback and I love knowing that I have such a positive community as well.

Enjoy your week.



11 Jim September 30, 2013 at 8:32 AM

Commenting is how we “met” virtually and I’m glad we did.

Oftentimes I think that people get in the mindset that if they’re doing something for their business then it needs to have some tangible return on investment. It’s like how you are at networking events and that person starts pitching their product within five seconds of meeting you. Sometimes it’s good just to meet new people and become friends, you don’t need to try to discover that ROI or think about how this friendship will or won’t help you in the long run.

One of the most liberating things I did was change my mindset about networking. Just try to meet people and don’t think about your agenda or what you might want out of a particular meeting, just act as you would if you weren’t “working” and the results are so much better.


12 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:23 AM

Bingo Jim! See, this is how we located bloggers that we haven’t had an opportunity meet yet and form those relationships with them.

First coming online and being introduced to making money that’s exactly what was presented to me. My Dad was a salesman and because of my personality he wanted me to go into sales. The funny thing is though every time we went someplace some salesman was running up to us almost smothering us to make a sale. My Dad later on would tell us that’s not the way you do business so it put a very bad taste in my mouth because that’s how I was approached almost my entire life. It’s such a turn off to the point I’ll go out of my way to make sure that particular person never gets my sales. Terrible right!

I’m so glad you did change your mindset Jim although I’m sure how you did things in the past worked well too. Now if you’re doing a paid ad campaign then you can expect immediate sales from those who are looking for what you have to offer but if you want to build a business, it’s the connections that’s going to get us there and sustain us.

I appreciate you sharing this and hope you have a wonderful and successful week.



13 Jim September 30, 2013 at 9:42 AM

My mindset made me more comfortable meeting people because I didn’t feel the pressure to “sell” anything, which in turn made me act more like who I am, rather than who I thought I should be.

I was also young too, so the years have taught me a few things :)


14 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 10:17 AM

Hey Jim,

I’m glad you had that mindset to just want to connect with others and not feel like you have to sell sell sell. This is what experience is all about right! We live and learn.

I appreciate you sharing that with me Jim. Thanks! :-)



15 Kevin Carlton
September 30, 2013 at 8:38 AM

Hi Adrienne
There’s one thing above all that I really do like about making connections through blogging. And that is the fact that you build relationships with genuinely like-minded people.

Let’s face it, you have far more in common with people who hang out in places such as these than your neighbours, the people you once went to school with and people who used to work in the same office as you.
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16 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:31 AM

Hi Kevin,

Amen to that my friend and boy do I ever agree with you on that one.

I do agree that the majority of people who are blogging today are on the same path as you. I still have things in common with my offline friends but I find a lot of them have so much more of a negative outlook then I do. That’s kind of sad to me so meeting amazing people online who are interested in the same things is so much fun.

I appreciate you sharing this with me and please do enjoy your week. I’m sure you’ll meet some amazing people along the way.



17 Laura Raisanen September 30, 2013 at 8:42 AM

Hey Adrienne,

Yet another kick-ass post! I totally agree with you on the importance of building relationships and I have heard so many stories of people having met somewhere or other in the industry and are now in successful business together.

As you know I haven’t been around in the IM industry for long but luckily my mentor told me commenting and getting to know people is the way forward so I started doing it straight away. And it’s so much fun too! Like you, I’ve always enjoyed socialising so I naturally enjoy that part.

Thanks for sharing your tips with us and have a fantastic week :)



18 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:34 AM

Hey Laura,

Why thank you Laura, I’ll definitely take kick-ass any day! 😉

Wow, a mentor that is teaching the right way to do things. He/she is a keeper then because they’re pointing you in the right direction. I’m so glad you enjoy socializing because I’m sure you’ve experienced some amazing connections so far. You might be fairly new to the IM industry but you’re ahead of so many others that don’t have their hands on this type of information. Just think how many you can help!

You are so very welcome and thank you for your comment. I so appreciate that and you have a fantastic week as well. I’ll be sure to do the same.



19 Sylviane Nuccio
September 30, 2013 at 8:47 AM

Love this post, Adrienne,

Well, I recognize a few people on that picture up there. That’s what blog commenting and building relationships do, right?

First off, I love your story of you knocking on doors to ask for friend. Wow, so cute! You can’t help seeing little Adrienne with her brown hair knocking on doors :) If I was a fiction writer I would use that!

You are right, Adrienne, it’s easier than one might think to write good stuff. It’s all about how much you want to help people to start with.

If commenting is a waste of time for you, then you have no business blogging,in my book. And that kinda goes for those who disable or disregard comments on their own blogs too.

Getting to know people, nowadays, happens online a lot, that’s why people are even dating this way. I love to meet people online, and if you have a blog, you should want to.

My only wish is that I’d have more time to take a more personal approach with more people. But I’ve got to do more of that still. You mentioning this here, makes me realized that I don’t do that enough.

Thank you for the great tips and have an excellent week, Addrienne!
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20 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:43 AM

Oh good, thanks Sylviane!

I had to include some of my special peeps and you’re definitely on that list girl! 😉

I was something else girl. By the end of that day I had those girls fighting over who was going to be my best friend. One of the girls lived almost directly across the street from me and her Dad was a big wig in one of the beer companies. They owned some property where the movie “Hell Fighters” was being filmed so I got to go with them one day to watch and guess who I got to meet when I was just 14 years old? John Wayne! Man, was he ever a big man but of course to a 14 year old he was huge. We had some darn good times..

I think for me Sylviane I was writing how I was being taught to sell and although that did work at that time, things have changed. It’s about being able to relate to someone else’s experience and I use to think I didn’t have any. Little did I know that just sharing my experience about knocking on doors when I was eight can help people relate to me as a person. Little things like that.

I’ve never quite understood why someone would write content yet not want anyone to comment on it. I mean don’t we want it to be recognized? Don’t we want other people’s opinions on what we share? Am I wrong? Obviously I must be or they wouldn’t close their comments. If they’re worried about getting too much spam then they need to work around that.

You are so right, people are finding their loves online and there is nothing wrong with that. I’ve dated a few guys I met online and they were really great guys. I would have never had the opportunity to meet them had it not been for the internet.

Making those personal connections is what’s really going to help you grow your business even more. I know that you are one heck of a busy lady Sylviane and finding the time is hard. I have no doubt though that you’ll be able to slip some in from time to time and I hope you’ll see a little difference.

Thanks so much for your comment and you have a great week too.



21 Camila
September 30, 2013 at 9:00 AM

Hi Adrienne,
I can’t believe someone can think that connecting and commenting is a waist of time =O. Then why blogging if all this is about connecting, building relationships and commenting. Well I know everyone has the right to think as they want but as new as I am I’ve grown because I truly like making friends and love to comment even though not always I have the time to do it on every blog I would like. This is an interesting post because I never thought there would be a discussion like that.

I really don’t see any other way to build relationships if it’s not by engaging people, commenting and making it personal, but hey, that’s me LOL!

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22 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:47 AM

Hi Cami,

Girl, you would be surprised at the number of people who feel this way. It surprises me too but I think what some of them see are these bigger named marketers that no longer allow comments on their blogs so they think that’s okay. Little do they realize that that’s not how they started. Once you make a name for yourself then you probably don’t need to continue to build those relationships in that particular way because you now have a list that you’re contributing to. You’re building those relationships in other ways and not blogging.

I’m so happy that you’ve been building those relationships and meeting so many wonderful people through your blog. I agree with you, it’s hard to imagine doing this any other way.

Thank you for your comment Cami and you enjoy your week okay!



23 Dee Ann Rice
September 30, 2013 at 9:06 AM


You really hit it on the head with this post. I saw several posts out there last week declaring content to be KING and I truely believe that without good content a blog is dead but I also beleive that great content is only the tool to create great relationships.

Relationships are really where it is at. I have created some great ones, not as many as you have by any means as you are definitely the master of relationships. One of those relationships I have created is the one with you and I am so thankful for that relationship.

Without the relationships I have created I don’t think I would be blogging now. They have helped me more than anything else.

I love people and love getting to know them.

Great post.

Dee Ann
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24 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 9:53 AM

Hi Dee Ann,

I agree, without content then how do some conversations start but without the conversations how do you build the relationships that can help build those connections.

I’m so blessed to have met you Dee Ann and I’m so happy that it was through blogging. This is just proof of how valuable these connections can truly be. I’m so thrilled that you’ve met some amazing people through blogging as well and that they’ve helped you too. I think that’s what this is all about.

Me too, I just love people. The more I meet the better! 😉

Thanks Dee Ann and you have a great week.



25 Glenn Shepherd
September 30, 2013 at 9:09 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Awesome advice here. As you know, I’m completely on board with you on this subject. Sure, you can have a blog without interacting with people. Sure, you can have a successful business and keep your distance from people. But how much BETTER things are if you connect with people as much as possible!

For me this all comes back to basic, old-fashioned values. You should treat people how you would wish to be treated and always provide good customer service in your business. So if you actually show a genuine interest in your visitors/customers and in other people when you visit their blogs then this will benefit both you and the other person tremendously. And the beauty of blogging is, it’s a very easy way to build relationships. I’d rather put the majority of my energy into blogging and relationship-building than in SEO and relying on being at the mercy of Google any day of the week!

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26 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 10:00 AM

Hi Glenn,

Anything is possible isn’t it Glenn? I know there are so many different types of businesses but I would love to know which ones can have a successful blog with absolutely no interaction at all.

I’m not big on commercials and only watch them when I’m eating dinner with my Mom because she loves watching Wheel of Fortune. But I’ll watch some of the commercials from some local successful businesses who do what you suggested here. They treat their customers the way they want to be treated and go out of their way to provide excellent service. That’s why they’re still around today and they don’t have ten thousand stores open. They have a couple in this area that cater to those particular customers and are beating out the bigger chains that treat their customers like a number.

We have to do the same thing here online with the people we meet. They probably won’t become customers until we’ve made them feel at home. I think the ones that just stop by and visit are the ones that will more then likely stick around longer. It’s funny but the ones I seem to get from Google are more about themselves then anything else. Huh!

Thanks for your comment Glenn and you have a good week.



27 Jen September 30, 2013 at 9:23 AM

It’s funny because I just wrote a blog post about someone I connected with online. I was so impressed with one of her blog posts that I reached out by email. We had a Skype chat and I wrote a post about her and her business because I thought it might be helpful to others. She’s been doing some interesting things online to move her business forward.
So, making connections through blogs works. I just keep telling people it’s a marathon not a sprint.


28 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 10:06 AM

Hey Jen,

Oh really, I love that! See, that’s how it works and those are how the connections are formed. I bet she really appreciated you writing about here too Jen. How cool is that and I’ll have to stop by and check out that post. See, you’ve just helped give her a boost as well.

You are SO right! It’s a marathon not a sprint, I love that.

Thank you Jen and you have a wonderful week.



29 Barry Wells
September 30, 2013 at 9:25 AM

Hi Adrienne,

It sure was a week of it wasn’t it…

When it comes to writing so many people say we need great content and I think the word “great” causes concern for some people as they may start thinking their content isn’t “great” so they start flapping about it… I’d swap the wording to “Good” content that people can relate…. Great content can come later 😉

Lots of people worry about their writing skills, I did myself when I first started as my background was in demolition and writing never came into it, but there are enough people around to help with that. I read Sue’s post and thought it covered the subject extremely well, giving ideas and tips throughout.

Sylviane is another one that gives great advice on writing, sharing tips to help everyone develop the writing skills.

For me, blog commenting was what got it all started. Sure I was writing posts and getting some comments but it wasn’t until I started getting in the mix with other bloggers that I started seeing things grow.

As you know I’ve made some great friendships through commenting and these I view as real friendships and value them just as much as i do with those off line friends I have.

We help each other behind the scenes with emails and Skype chats to and fro until we’ve seen things through to completion and that makes them even more special.

And it all starts by getting to know one another through commenting on our blogs and I for one wouldn’t want to change that at all.

Have a great week Adrienne.

Respect and Regards,
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30 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 10:14 AM

Hi Barry,

Oh my goodness and it wasn’t just that discussion on Facebook! It still amazes me the number of people who love to shout that something doesn’t work or it’s a waste of time just because they’ve had no success. I bet it’s because they did a little bit of work for maybe a month and then quit because they didn’t see the results they wanted. Really!

I so agree with you because that was very intimidating to me as well. When most of us come into this we don’t consider ourselves writers. We see so many bloggers out there and we start comparing ourselves to them. There is no comparison but when people keep telling us we have to have epic, killer or great content then we feel screwed from the start. I sure did! :-(

Thank goodness for people like Sue and Sylviane to give us those suggestions of what we should be doing and it’s not to write an essay or something that will sell others. No, it’s just the opposite. They encourage us to just be us because that’s how people relate to us.

I’m so glad that you started seeing the friendships form through the commenting Barry. I think when people reach out to us and ask questions then they can tell that we’re genuinely there to help. That’s how people can get a good feel about the kind of person that you are.

I so appreciate you sharing this with me today Barry. It just makes me sad that some people feel the opposite but I guess there will always be those people in this world right!

You have a great week as well Barry and thanks again for your comment. I appreciate you!



31 Enstine Muki
September 30, 2013 at 9:57 AM

Hi Adrienne,
If someone ever turns down commenting and relationship building, I don’t find space for such on the blogosphere. I think blogging is a community activity and not wanting to build relationships is as good as not blogging.

You are a relationship star and of course, your words are full of wisdom. You know as a constant reader of this blog, I learned quite much on the subject. I recently shared on my blog how friends help me make money. That’s the value in relationships and I do work hard every day to create more friends

Thanks for yet another value filled article Adrienne and do have a marvelous week ahead


32 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 10:22 AM

Hi Enstine,

You know Enstine, one of the stipulations you have to have when commenting on my blog is to have comments open. If they’re closed then your comment will get deleted and I don’t care how great it is. If I can’t interact with you over at your home then I can’t build that relationship with you. Oh sure, I could communicate via email but I prefer making that initial connection through our blogs. Why would someone close comments?

Ah, thank you I appreciate that. The funny thing is that I just enjoy meeting new people and learning more about what they’re involved in. It’s not all about promoting products because that also comes without me even trying once you’ve made those connections. Just like what you shared in your post about your friends helping you make money. That’s how it’s done.

You are very welcome and thank you for your contribution today as well. See, I love hearing how others view this topic.

Have a great week as well.



33 Gladys September 30, 2013 at 10:24 AM

Hello Ms. Adrienne
Boy do you inspire me to get better in all the aspects of blogging.

Content is KING, but without taking the essential steps to start relationships,then we will not be fulfilled in our endeavors.
I can attest that if we do our homework,new will get a passing grade.
Currently I am learning to brand myself in Personal Growth. I still have such a long way to go, but I will stay with it.
Relationships is the key. We have the opportnity to befriend others and experience life’s joy.
Thank you Adrienne because you were the first person to reach out to me.



34 Amiti
September 30, 2013 at 10:29 AM

All I can say is that I agree. I can’t add any input as you hit everything on the nail.
I know that I need to do a better job utilizing these tips, so that I can further my blog and our web app.


35 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 11:44 AM

Hi Amiti,

What, nothing to add at all? Well I guess I did a good job then so thank you for sharing that and if you ever need anymore help please feel free to ask okay!

Enjoy your week and best of luck to you.



36 Cararta
September 30, 2013 at 10:34 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Stimulating as always..flooded with the answers to a post I just did.

Great links to more posts to read….I need a time machine to visit, interact and Learn at the same time.
Is it amazing that online and the internet works on the same values and behaviors as the real world?
If a person is popular in school and a leader…it almost always transfers into their working world and career because they carry with them the things that made them popular in school: friendliness, sharing, helpfulness, and a genuine interest in people.

If you really aren’t interested in people, just out to make a buck…it shows.

Tracing in my mind, how I found Adrienne Smith?
Kind of funny!
Bought a John Thornhill program, then into the Facebook group for said program.

Liked reading posts from Barry Wells because he became a grail of light for me in “fixing and repairing” things on my sites, so when he Recommended checking out his friend Adrienne Smith’s blog for some good information on how to use Twitter (I think), then I went on to listen to an interview that Barry did with Adrienne…I was hooked!

Don’t even remember how many times I visited your blog and Barry’s, read, made notes and never left a comment…to intimidated by all the comments from friend to friend and didn’t want to be rude and jump into the party without an invitation!

But now, just to set the record straight:

All of the above sort of puts the damper on the theory that Blogging and Commenting don’t work. Some of my favorites, acquired here, probably haven’t even notice me, mainly because I’ve been somewhat disorganized and haven’t applied that one rule you emphasize over and over: Be Consistent.
Only answer I have is that when you are learning…it does take time but if you keep trying, you WILL get there, especially with a little help from your friends. Developing relationships is just as important if not more important as the blogging.

Also thank you for sharing my one post on my reworked Cararta, like Graduation Day! I finally posted something that Adrienne approved enough to share on Twitter!



37 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 11:52 AM

Hi Carolyn,

Well, great minds do think alike don’t they! 😉

You are right, who we are in the offline world carries over in the online world. I think though for the most part I wasn’t as open at first and let my personality shine through mainly because I was very intimidated by all these people who I viewed as so successful. It was really scary!

Funny how that all works isn’t it! Do you know that I met Dee Ann because Barry pointed her over to my blog too! I tell you, I’m one of the luckiest women around having an opportunity to meet so many amazing people and thank goodness for Barry too!

I felt the same way Carolyn which is why I never commented in the past. Who the heck wants to hear from me, I’m no body and I certainly didn’t feel like I had anything to contribute. I’m glad though that I joined that training program and made myself do it anyway.

Consistency is the big key here Carolyn. We can run off and play with our blogs, work on fixing things but if you’re not consistent with visiting other people and making those connections then you’re not going to get great results. You start building that consistency and you’re going to be amazed with your results.

As you learn you need to implement, that’s one of the things a lot of people don’t do. They think they have to know it all before they actually start applying what they know. Without applying what we’re learning we’ll never get anywhere.

You are very welcome and I like to share posts that are newer. As a matter of fact I noticed that what you shared today you can’t comment on. I tried hitting add comments numerous times with no luck at all. Share something we can contribute to the next time okay!

Thanks for your comment and enjoy your week.



38 Cararta
September 30, 2013 at 2:24 PM

Have to go inside and do a repair, I have this strange theme…an it seems to change things however it wants to.
Was ok before i added two post, don’t think I added another plugin…just updated WordPress..that might have done it!
Thanks for the heads UP!


39 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 2:33 PM

There has to be a setting to allow comments. Even clicking the thing at the top doesn’t do anything. Hope you can get that figured out soon.


40 Cararta
October 3, 2013 at 12:31 PM

Figured it out, sort of!.
Changed the theme…comments now work!
I went through every setting on Suffusion and WordPress and couldn’t
get comments of show. Nice Theme, but complicated!.


41 Adrienne
October 3, 2013 at 1:25 PM

Comments do not work Carolyn, sorry! You have a Facebook commenting system on your blog but where it says “no comment”, you hit that and nothing happens. I don’t leave comments using the Facebook system.


42 Carolyn
September 30, 2013 at 10:52 AM

Amen. You are so right, Adrienne. The best part of commenting is the relationships you build. You and I became friends through commenting. We haven’t had much contact outside of commenting, yet you can build a very strong friendship through commenting.

I think that was my biggest surprise about blogging, the support and friendship I have received from fellow bloggers. And these relationships have developed through commenting. Amazing.

I feel sad for the person who thinks commenting is a waste of time. Perhaps they feel that friendships are too!

I can just see you going door to door, Adrienne. Those girls were so lucky to have you move into their neighborhood!
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43 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 12:02 PM

Hi Carolyn,

I’m so glad that we met through blogging Carolyn and I consider you one of my best friends since coming online. I’m looking forward to actually meeting you in person too in the very near future so see, relationships are important in the blogging community.

I agree with you, the support has just been amazing. We’re so very blessed aren’t we!

I can’t believe that people actually think this is a waste of time. Hopefully they can see things differently now.

Yeah, I was something else Carolyn! Bashful is something I’ve never been. 😉



44 Huzaima Khan September 30, 2013 at 11:06 AM

Well I agree that comments are the biggest way to build relationships. But in that case, a comment must be a constructive one, rather than just “Nice post” etc.
Being active in forums is also the good way of building relations with other webmasters or bloggers.


45 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 12:41 PM

It’s not just about the comments Huzaima because commenting alone most of the time still isn’t enough. As per how to comment then Harleena definitely shared the best way to achieve that.

I don’t visit forums so I can’t really say.

Thanks for your comment and hope you enjoy your week.



46 Babanature September 30, 2013 at 11:33 AM

Hello Adrienne,
How can a blogger say blog commenting is a waste of time? I mean who doesn’t love comments? Building a relationship with another blogger starts with commenting on his or her blog, then taking it to the next step…
I have met some great minded bloggers (like you and Harleena) that i am glad i made connection with. well i am still trying to take the connection to the next level though :).
Blog commenting is very effective and i never fail to do it because who doesn’t want to get noticed :)
Thanks and do have a fabulous week start…
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47 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 12:51 PM

Hey Babanature,

I’m thinking that it’s those bloggers who are not being consistent in their efforts and aren’t getting the results so they say that this either doesn’t work or is a waste of time. Like you, what other reason could there be for saying such a thing when those of us who are doing it are seeing the results very clearly.

I can’t speak for Harleena but I think it’s pretty safe to say that we both appreciate having met you as well my friend. You are one of those bloggers that I definitely enjoy visiting your blog and the kind responses that we always receive from you. I want to thank you for that too Babanature.

You keep up the excellent work because you’re definitely getting noticed.

Have a fabulous week as well.



48 Jon Jefferson September 30, 2013 at 11:38 AM

It amazes me when I run across people that say to only share what relates to your topic and what not. Through the past few months of actively building relationships the biggest supporters I have found for me and what I do are outside the realm of what could be my core demographics. You never know where your friends and groups will come from.


49 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 12:55 PM

Hey Jon,

I think that the majority of what you share should relate more to your topic but I don’t think all of it should. I mean I have other interests outside of what my blog is about and I do want to support others as well. The issue though is that you can get penalized by Google when you do more of that but if you don’t care anything about that then I say go for it. If you do then just tread lightly.

You’re right though, we meet so many wonderful people who blog about all sorts of things so to limit ourselves would be hurting us in the long run. I’m glad you don’t take that stance.

Hae a great week.



50 Kevin J Railsback
September 30, 2013 at 12:06 PM

Great post Adrienne!

I’m probably about as anti-social as they come. I guess that’s why I’m a nature and wildlife filmmaker. I spend a lot of time by myself.

The beauty of the Internet is that even as anti-social as I am, I can be pretty brave in front of a keyboard where there is no way I would talk to anyone at a function.

So the Internet has actually helped me develop relationships that never would have happened if I were in a in person social situation.

Hopefully I can find more bloggers in my niche and work on building a relationship there.
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51 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 12:59 PM

Thank you Kevin!

Don’t they say that the most creative people stay more to themselves! I’m sure that’s why you’re so talented too.

The good thing about the internet though is that we can hide behind our computer screens for the most part and just chat with people. I’m very proud of you for stepping outside your comfort zone and visiting other blogs and commenting. See, we would have never met had you not done that so that’s a very good thing. You did good Kevin! :-)

I’m happy to hear that the internet is helping you develop relationships that would have never happened otherwise. If you were to go to a social event I bet you’d have no problem talking to the people you had met online. It would be like old home week.

Have you checked out Triberr to see if there are some bloggers in your niche there? You never know!

Thanks Kevin for sharing this with me, you’re a perfect example.

Have a great week.



52 Maxwell Ivey
September 30, 2013 at 11:14 AM

Hi adrienne; Another great post. I think that even if it isn’t a person’s normal nature to socialize as you put it, they should be willing to put themselves out there to promote their business and their blog or website. Its no different than those other tasks that everyone has that they would prefer not to do. Me, I don’t particularly like contacting people to ask them to submit their company details to join the mailing list or having to remind them that they should be listing their equipment with me; but I do those things all the time. And building relationships online is certainly no different than shmoozing people at a lunch meeting, a cocktail hour, a conference, the tennis court, or the golf course. Not that I know much about either of those. grin I personally have been helped by people in my social networks sharing posts to the point that several quick sales were made through these referrals. And I have a friend on linked in who is unemployed that provided me a valuable link to a family fun center that has been looking to expand. So I say building these relationships is definitely not a waste of time. Work at it every day, and be sure to thank people when they help you even if there aren’t results to thank them for. Its the fact that they went out of their way to help a new friend. So, be sure to click those share buttons after you leave your comment. Thanks again Adrienne and take care, max


53 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 12:45 PM

Hey Max,

For the most part I would think that anyone who has been in an offline business where they had to network would have no difficulty doing the same online. I think it’s the people who aren’t use to this are the ones that have the most difficulty. There is always some part of what we do that’s not as enjoyable I’m sure and you’re right, it needs to be done anyway so just do it.

I’m happy to hear about those that you’ve connected with that have helped you. See, we just never know who we’ll run into and why they know. That’s the beauty of meeting so many wonderful new people every day.

Thank you for sharing that Max and you have a wonderful day!



54 Maxwell Ivey
September 30, 2013 at 1:26 PM

Hi adrienne; thanks for restating that so succinctly. so far today I have found a new blog to subscribe to by reading other comments left on this post. I have also had one of my face book friends share your post because they saw I had recommended it. And I have had a couple of my own posts get better traffic because good friends like you decided to tweet about it or share in some other fashion. I do wish you had a linked in button on here though. Take care, max


55 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 1:40 PM

I’m happy to hear that you’ve made more contacts through visiting blogs, commenting and just connecting with others. See, that’s what it’s all about Max, yay!

I wasn’t able to pull up that share from what you emailed me Max so be sure to tell your friend thank you for me.

Yeah, I’m not real big on LinkedIn so I prefer not sharing a lot of stuff over there. My posts are live on my wall but it’s not one of my favorite sites.


56 maxwell ivey
September 30, 2013 at 2:16 PM

Hi Adrienne; I already thanked her. I wasn’t sure if you would be able to click the link or not. For me I prefer linked in and twitter above face book because fb is not very screen reader friendly. I usually only go on there to post status updates. Occasionally I will go on there to visit specific friend’s pages to see if they have any posts i need to comment on. But mostly i depend on the email notifications to keep up with my network there. Being a good friend is its own reward, but getting help isn’t bad either. take care, max


57 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 2:32 PM

Good thank you because it’s not taking me to your page. It’s asking me to sign into your account so I can’t even view it. Oh well, I appreciate that. :-)


58 Malika Bourne
September 30, 2013 at 12:16 PM

Forming and nurturing relationships is never a waste of time. I value the bonds of friendship deeply whether it is face to face or on-line.
A few weeks ago Harleena Sign, whom I have been reading her work for a while, stopped by. She gave me some excellent advice to make improvements on my blog. WOW!
Thanks for working so hard, Adrienne, to keep getting the valuable content out there .


59 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 1:06 PM

Hi Malika,

I’m so glad you feel this way too Malika and I have no doubt you’ve been meeting a lot of really amazing people since coming online.

I’m so happy that Harleena was able to give you some encouraging advice. See, just to be helpful because she cares. That’s what it’s about.

Ah, my pleasure and thank you for stopping by and sharing this with me. I so appreciate that.

Enjoy your day okay!



60 Sugam Kumar September 30, 2013 at 12:44 PM

Hello Adrienne,

I think, first time m here and just happy to read this awesome post. Relation with other bloggers is the key point to be success in your blogging life. You have shared all the mandatory points to make relations withe fellow bloggers.


61 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 1:09 PM

Hi Sugam,

Welcome to my blog and glad you stopped by. Glad you enjoyed this post, I definitely enjoyed writing it. Just sharing what I’ve learned and know since finally figuring it all out. I’m glad you agree with what I’ve shared.

Appreciate your comment and enjoy your week.



62 Donna Merrill
September 30, 2013 at 1:37 PM

Hey Adrienne!

I’ve noticed those blogs about commenting too last week! There are the pros and cons, but when it comes down to it all we have to do is look at your blog and see how many people come to it time and time again. Read the comments on your blog and how you answer each and ever one of them…BRAVO..This is a fine example of how we need to take the time and start relationships.

You always impress me of how organized you are especially on social media. Your “Question of the Day” gets a lot of people involved because it is about them not you. I look forward to them all the time and I’m sure others do too.

Also, you give credit where credit is due. Your Thankful Thursday posts gets me all exited…really! Because I know you will always introduce someone who is ethical and trustworthy, I reach out to those folks. Ahhh…more connections made.

Does this take time? Of course! Do I enjoy it? Yesssss. I want to thank you Adrienne for being a true leader. You walk the walk. If people follow your course of action, they would see that they can go above and beyond when commenting!

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63 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 1:50 PM

Hey Donna,

I really can’t imagine why anyone would want to blog yet get no interaction from their posts. That just sounds strange to me but maybe I’m missing something. I mean if people enjoy the content and you respond to them then that’s the first step. Just taking it a step further really isn’t that hard at all.

I really enjoy the question of the day and Mandy was hilarious with her response. I love hearing what others share and it’s another way to learn about your friends wouldn’t you agree?

Ah, thank you Donna for saying that. People tell me they appreciate it but it doesn’t seem to get as many visits so I oftentimes get confused. I mean people have to stop by to see who I’m talking about whether they comment or not. So I’m glad that you appreciate those posts and take the time to visit their blogs.

Thank you for sharing that because although this does take time it’s so worth it. I appreciate you saying that Donna and I do think that if they just follow my advice they’ll start getting results.

You enjoy your week and hope you’re almost done unpacking! 😉



64 Ti Roberts
September 30, 2013 at 1:48 PM

Really fantastic piece, Adrienne.

I swear, building relationships online through blogging is one of the simplest concepts but it would seem like it’s the hardest thing for most new bloggers to do. Well, it isn’t that difficult, but like you said, it does take quite a bit of time and effort. And it definitely isn’t something that’s going to happen overnight, but you can build up a fairly nice sized network of friends in a decent amount of time if you consistently practice the methods you outlined in this post.

Looking back, I don’t know why it took me so long to understand this. I mean, it’s the same thing with building relationships offline, only a lot easier, in my opinion. In person, I’m a rather shy and reserved person and I don’t talk a lot. However, in the blogging world, I’ve turned into an extreme social light and it’s really easy for me to reach out to people I don’t know. Maybe it’s something about the internet that enables me to be more open and sociable, either way I love it and wouldn’t stop doing it or change it for the world.

Thanks for taking the time to give your take on building relationships through blogging. I hope that your message reaches those who need to hear it. I’ll def do my part in helping by sharing it with my following.

Have a great week ahead, Adrienne. I’ll see you around. :)

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65 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 2:24 PM

Hi Ti,

I think that for the most part all of us who were new to blogging took a little bit of time to understand this. In hind sight it should be just like it is offline but until we understand how this all works we’re never 100% sure you know! I’m glad though that you took the time to understand this as well and are now able to help other new bloggers learn this too because it does work.

So glad you’re more of a social butterfly online. I can’t imagine you not being that way offline too! See, we learn new things about each other every day.

Thank you for sharing this post Ti and I do hope that those who doubted this for a second will hear what I have to share here. I’m the perfect example of this working so no more excuses.

You have a great week as well and I’ll be sure to do the same. Thank you!



66 Adam September 30, 2013 at 2:28 PM

Hi Adrienne,

I hope you’ve had a great weekend!

There’s no other way to put it, but you are the queen of relationship building – every post you publish is an example of that, there’s nowhere else that I always see a crazy amount of blog comments that look like they could stand on their own as blog posts.

“You never know who you’re going to help, who you’re going to touch, who will end up looking up to you or who may end up helping you.”

This is one of the best quotes I’ve seen in a long while and the lessons translate into all facets of online and even offline marketing.

Thanks for a simply amazing post once again!


67 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 2:38 PM

Hi Adam,

It was a good one, thank you. Hope yours was the same.

Why thank you Adam, I so appreciate that. I do get some mini posts here at times in my comments but they have so much to say at times you know! It’s all about communicating and getting people to interact in the comments. I just enjoy learning so much from my readers too. I have the best time ever just right here on my own blog.

One of the best quotes huh! Wow, I’m flattered. It’s true though you know! You just never know who you’ll come across and how you’ll affect them or they’ll affect you. But ignoring them is the sad part so I do hope everyone will just go that one extra step and I have a feeling they’ll be glad they did.

Thank you for your comment Adam and have a wonderful week.



68 Randy Hilarski September 30, 2013 at 2:42 PM

Love it Adrienne! This is what I do every day. I personally comment 2-3 times per day. The thing that I do is give a +K or some Kred to the blogger. On Klout I will also add a Hashtag that applies to the appropriate subject. This has actually helped me build a substantial group of likeminded bloggers. There are so many techniques and learning a little bit from everyone we admire will take us a long way.


69 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 4:12 PM

Well hey there Randy, great to see you over here at my place. So nice of you to stop by.

I have no doubt that you have a great following as well and building a fabulous blogging community of your own. Isn’t it fabulous to connect with so many amazing people and I’ve learned so much from the majority of them too.

Yeah, I left Klout some time back when they were doing some underhanded things but I’m sure that people who are still involved with that site appreciate any time of boost.

Thank you so much for your comment today and for the visit. I appreciate you sharing this with me and hope things are well over in Panama. 😉

Have a great week.



70 Courtney Finley September 30, 2013 at 2:51 PM

Thank you Adrienne!
I’ve just started to blog and connect with people, I’ve had some help from friend of mine who does web marketing and I’ve also reached out to woman by the name of Steph Gordon, she was mentioned on Jennifer Havice’s blog and I was able to get some much needed help on blogging and my website as well! But I also agree that sometimes meeting people in person and connecting that way is also good because then you have the chance to for others to really get to know you!

Again, thanks so much!
Courtney Finley


71 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 4:17 PM

You’re most welcome Courtney!

Glad to hear that you’re venturing into blogging and I haven’t been by Jen’s post yet but I know she wrote about Steph. I haven’t had the pleasure of meeting her yet but I am curious now. I’m glad that she was also able to give you some advice and I have no doubt you’ll find it very helpful.

Meeting these amazing people in person is something I hope to do someday. I’ve had an opportunity to meet a few who have been in town for a conference or I’ve met them at a conference as well. I’m hoping one day soon to meet all my mastermind gals and just enjoy ourselves. That’s going to be a blast.

Good luck with blogging and I have no doubt you have everything in place but if you need more help just let me know.

Enjoy your week Courtney and thank you for your comment!



72 Liz McGee
September 30, 2013 at 3:23 PM

Hey Adrienne,

Your points are so well taken.

I think it’s key to pay close attention to each person we connect with. There are so many people online that we visit, read about, tweet, like, hear about, etc., that if we make too many contacts too soon it’s hard to develop a real relationship. Pretty soon you’ve just made a bunch of contacts with no real basis for friendship, and many of them can simply get forgotten. At least that’s been my experience.

I think we have to make quality connections and not worry about the number of connections and how soon we can get them. Of course that means it takes more time like you mentioned but that’s OK. You’re working towards a worthwhile result.

I want to have friends I know, not just friends I know of, and vice versa.

Great advice Adrienne :-)
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73 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 4:21 PM

Hey Liz,

I agree and you know there are always those people you just connect with while others not as much. Nothing against anyone personally it’s just that some people you have that instant connection while others not as much. Reaching out to everyone at once can be a little overwhelming and you can forgot who you’ve spoken with and who you haven’t. I think that everything will kind of get a feel of how this works as they move forward. At least I hope so.

Yeah, it’s definitely about quality instead of quantity because at least this way you’ll have more solid relationships instead of those that are hit and miss. It does take time but it’s so worth it.

Great point Liz, thank you. Appreciate your comment and you enjoy your week.



74 Mary Stephenson
September 30, 2013 at 5:13 PM

Hi Adrienne

Great subject and although I do most of what you suggest I don’t do all. I have to keep reminding myself to share others content besides just commenting. I put a few links from other people’s content on my last post. May be I shall have to create my next post with sharing some who have made a difference to me.

Staying in my own niche becomes a bit of a challenge. It falls under the same thing as in real life it becomes a bit boring. I love cats and I was with a group of people that also liked cats. They were so involved in cat shows, cat breeding, etc. that it became all who they were. There is life beyond cats and cat shows, and I found them to be rather boring individuals unless I wanted to spend all day talking about cats. Once in awhile is fine but not 365 days a year. At least the art group I was with had other interests and they really were creative when it came to potluck dinners.

Definitely commenting has brought people to my site and I know if I didn’t they would eventually quit coming. But you never know where you comment as to who will like your comment and your title and drop by. (If comment luv is implemented.) Never a waste of time. Who you meet can at sometime turn into a friendship when you finally find what ignites each others interest. There are times some people have responded “I didn’t know this about you”. Probably because we have to write to communicate, we actually get to know more about someone over several months than if we had known them for years in the offline world.

You had to make me chuckle about when you were a kid and off you went to bang on doors. That would be the way my daughter was…”where are the kids?” Me not so much, although I am working harder a changing to be more outgoing.



75 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 6:08 PM

Hi Mary,

The thing about sharing other people’s content is that you’ll start to stand out to them because it’s not like you’re asking for anything in return. So once they start seeing that you’ve been sharing their content then that will help you get noticed as well. I’m sure you appreciate people sharing yours so they definitely do as well. Anytime you name people in posts is a good thing too.

I agree with you on that Mary, always talking about blogging can get boring too! Sometimes I want to venture out and see what real people are doing. lol.. But in all honesty there is more then just blogging or as you mentioned, talking about cats. I love dogs but I’m not obsessed that there is nothing else more to life then my love for them.

You’re right, you have to be consistent with commenting in order to get enough people interested in what you share and so relationships can be formed and they’ll want to keep coming back by. You just never know who you’ll meet is right. I think it’s fun when we learn more about each other.

Ah, your daughter and I have that in common huh! Oh yeah, I had to go find me some new friends. No waiting around for me and we did have loads of fun too.

Thanks Mary for your comment and you enjoy this new week okay!



76 Lisa
September 30, 2013 at 6:30 PM

Hi Adrienne I love how you mentioned that when you moved to a new neighborhood you went knocking on doors to find new friends. It really is how bloggers get to know one another, we knock on other’s doors by leaving comments and sharing on the social networks. It sure can be time consuming and those that don’t partipcate are more in it or the money only I think. Unless they are really shy, maybe? It is amazing when I first started I never imagined meeting so many awesome people via blogging. It’s been an amazing journey for sure. I do have a question – how many hours a day do you work at this Adrienne? (curious) …I hope you had some sunshine there today too!
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77 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 7:45 PM

Hi Lisa,

Yeah, my knocking on the doors to find me some new friends is like blogging. How else are we going to meet people right! I mean we’ll never know who is behind that blog until we ask and some we’ll connect with while others we won’t.

I’m like you, I had no idea that I would meet so many amazing people while on this journey. I had a feeling that I’d run across a few but I really was clueless.

It depends Lisa like on the days I post I spend almost my entire day replying to comments. As you’ll notice I’m up to 74 and this will be 75 plus I have two in moderation. So that’s 37 comments so far and they just come in throughout the day. I’ve only had the opportunity to visit eight blogs today to comment so on the days I post I’m limited to venturing out. Since I work online all day long I can pop in and out of different places in between doing other things. It’s just so much fun for me Lisa.

You have a great week okay! Thanks for stopping by.



78 Lisa
October 1, 2013 at 5:50 AM

Wow, Adrienne that is time consuming. I’ve never added mine up, I know I spend 3-5 hours before work and a few hours after work and sometimes lunch time too. Weekends longer though I’m trying to cut down on the weekend time online. We wouldn’t spend so much time w/it if we weren’t having fun either :) Thanks for the answer Adrienne and Happy October.
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79 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 9:31 AM

You’ve got that right girl. I love the comments but since you were a guest blogger you know how they roll in the first day. They come in spurts after that but I don’t want to ignore my commenters and I don’t want to spend all night answering them either.

I can’t even imagine having a full time job and dealing with this too. If I did that I probably wouldn’t be doing so much of this. The weekends I spend playing catch up with stuff that I didn’t get a chance to do or blogs I didn’t get a chance to stop by during the week. It’s never ending but at times I say to heck with it and just take some time to myself. I love it though, I really do.

Yeah, October is here so the holiday season is going to start soon. Hope your weather is good, ours will hopefully just be in the low 80’s today. Loving that.



80 Cathy Taughinbaugh September 30, 2013 at 7:16 PM

You are a real leader Adrienne in relationship building and it definitely shows on your blog. With your amazing number of comments, I am always in awe when I come to your blog. Great tips here and I agree that it is up to us as bloggers to reach out to others so that they are curious about who we are! Thanks for a needed reminder! :)


81 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 7:50 PM

Thank you Cathy I appreciate that.

You know the thing about it is I ventured into this not really knowing how this would all work out and it just happened to end up being this way. I think we all just pour a little of ourselves in our posts and then as the connections start to be made then we find those hand full of people that we can just connect to you know. Some fall by the wayside while others come on the scene and it just continues to grow from there. I know you’re building quite the community yourself because you have such an important topic to share as well.

Thank you for your kind comment and any time you need a reminder you just stop on by! 😉

Enjoy your week Cathy!



82 Ed King September 30, 2013 at 7:16 PM

Hi there Adrienne !! Another great blog post… I’m really looking forward to seeing what you have put together each time I get your email alert.

I’ve always been a relationship building kind of person starting way back when I joined my first networking group, I ended up as a chapter president and recommending business to my friends. The great thing about building true sincere relationships is that you go out of your way to help without looking for anything in return and I love that part, there is nothing better than being able to see someone happy that you took the time to recommend them, even though you don’t set-out looking for anything in return a good deed usually does ending up paying in the long run.

I loved social media and never really thought I had much use for visiting blogs and commenting… Boy was I wrong

Now I spend most of my time off social media and reading, learning and sharing from so many great people like yourself. Another great thing about blogs is I usually end up building relationships from within relationships and I love that part of it.

I would have to say the bloggers who shed some light on spending more time with other bloggers was Michelle from New England Multimedia and Kaarina Dillabough. I actually think I found your blog through another local blogger who enjoys the early morning hours on twitter like myself and that is Lisa who I noticed commented before me.

Great post and thanks for stopping by to visit my blog and visual worldEnjoy the weekEd


83 Adrienne
September 30, 2013 at 7:56 PM

Hi Ed,

Why thank you and I’m always so pleased to hear that. Glad you enjoyed what I had to share today.

That’s awesome that you ended up being the president of a few of the networking groups and I’m not at all surprised. It is a wonderful feeling to help someone never expecting anything in return but just wanting to help. That really does show what kind of person you are Ed.

Little did we realize coming into this all the great content that we would read and be able to not only learn from but make those awesome connections as well. You’re right, some friendships lead to others and those end up being just as special. I have several of those myself.

I know both Michelle and Kaarina and they are wonderful ladies as well as Miss Lisa. You are definitely in great company Ed. :-)

Thank you so much for your comment and you’re so very welcome.

You enjoy your week as well!



84 Susan Cooper
October 1, 2013 at 12:04 AM

Another wonderful post! These are great tips for bloggers. Content is what brings people to your site but how you handle it from there will make the difference between gaining a regular reader/ subscriber or just a one time visitor. When someone comes to my site and comments I make sure I take the time to respond to their comment. It shows them that I am interested and thankful that they took the time to comment. :-)
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85 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 9:11 AM

Hi Susan,

I know you’re on top of this Susan and you have such a great following as well. I think just taking the time to acknowledge your readers, new and old, is what will want them to keep coming back for more. I think if everyone just appreciated the people who took the time to stop by in the first place then maybe they’d have a much better following. It all starts with reaching out right! 😉

Thank you for your comment and I hope you have a wonderful day.



86 Jens P. Berget
October 1, 2013 at 1:33 AM

It took me a long time to understand that going personal was what really works for me. I started out blogging behind a “logo”, and I thought that I could just use “good content” to drive both traffic and sales, and that it was the way to go to start a business online. But, to me, going personal and building relationships has been the real key to progress and making things happen.

Great post Adrienne.
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87 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 9:21 AM

Hi Jens,

I think that when you go a little more on the personal side then the customer feels like you care more about them. I think we’ve all had those experiences with companies who just looked at us as another sale and didn’t really care whether we were happy or taken care of. I don’t like dealing with companies like that and if that’s how I’m treated I usually don’t go back. I think being online and what we all do you have to stand out more and I think this is the best way to achieve that.

Thanks for sharing this Jens, I appreciate that.

Have a great week.



88 Shan
October 1, 2013 at 5:33 AM

Hi Adrienne

I’ve been a solitary person most of my life. Handful of friends, lots of acquaintances. I thought that working online would be ideal for me because of that. It would’ve been but then I discovered you. I signed up and got your relationship marketing report.

I took some of this relationship marketing lark on board and started visiting blogs and commenting. Then people visited my blog and commented. Some of them have become friends and colleagues, people I ask for help from and who ask me for help.

Thank you


89 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 9:24 AM

Hi Shan,

Well I’m so glad you ran into me and got my report. Aren’t you happy to that you’ve met so many amazing people now just from connecting with them through their blogs as well? I mean it’s obvious that we can’t all do this alone so having those people you know you can reach out to is big. I mean the first time you run across something and have no clue what to do it’s great to know you have someone to ask that will really help you. That’s just big!

Thank you for sharing this Shan and I’m so glad we met. You have a great week okay!



90 Lorraine Reguly
October 1, 2013 at 6:31 AM

I love meeting new people and connecting with others. I used to be so very social in my personal life, but over the last few years, as a result of some health issues, I don’t get out as often as I should. Now that I’ve a laptop and a blog, I spend a lot of time online. I LOVE the people I’ve met!
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91 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 9:33 AM

Hey Lorraine,

I do too so we sound like we definitely have that in common. Since I started working at home I don’t get out as often as I use to either Lorraine but I love being able to connect with so many amazing people through the internet and we do talk on the phone too as well as do hangouts. I think that’s a good thing actually and glad you’re enjoying that as well.

Sorry you’ve had some health issues but hopefully those are on the uphill mend. 😉

Thank you for your comment and you have a great week.



92 Angela McCall
October 1, 2013 at 9:38 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Blogging is only a tool to go beyond your content and establish network relationship with others. Socializing is never a waste of time, like you said in your previous post.

Consistency is very important. It might be time consuming when you visit someone’s blog and make comments on a regular basis but it is definitely not an waste of time. Friendships and relationships do take time to build, right? And so as network relationship.

I think you can really tell the real genuine ones who do take time in getting to know you and the ones who just full of air. Some people will say to you, “Oh, I will start coming here more often.” And others will make 3-4 comments in one day with very little to say and have no value…then *BAM* they suddenly disappear. Some comes back after a long period of time. And those who comes on a regular basis (consistently) are the ones who really takes the time to get to know you. And that’s what I call relationship. It’s the ongoing kinda thing.

You know I’ve done most of the ones you mentioned here except Skype and/or phone conversation. And I mean I’m gonna have to do this sometime. Many times when I’m working at home I’m on my pajama, in ponytail, and no make-up. I sometime feel reluctant in having a conversation via Skype. Getting fixed-up is such a drag. It’s so much easier to write than be in front of Skype. But I see the good results you’re having and so I just gotta do this sometime.

Next time I attend eWomenNetwork, they’re going to have a guest speaker who will talk about Google Hangout. Last time we tried to get into it, we couldn’t connect. It would be nice to network via G+ hangout sometime. Never done it. But I’m anxious to start networking with others.

Anyway, thanks for the great advice! Have a fine Tuesday and I’ll catch you later.

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93 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 11:05 AM

Hi Angela,

I agree that blogging can be used more as a tool then an actual site to just make money. Oh sure, it can definitely be used in that way if that’s what you prefer but in the long run we all want or businesses to grow and what better way then to connect with others.

That’s right…you definitely have to be consistent in not only providing valuable content but visiting other blogs and commenting on what they have to share as well. I mean if we all just stopped doing that then why would we get upset if people stopped coming to our blogs.

I know that everyone is here for different reasons and they like to talk a good game. Some mean it while others obviously don’t but that’s okay. We only want to connect with those that genuinely mean it and are here for the right reasons. I think that in the long run those will make much better relationships anyway right!

You don’t always have to do a video Skype call Angela. It’s an opinion but for the most part I don’t do the videos either because like you I don’t get dressed up every day. I do get dressed though because I have to take Kayla out during the day so no working the jammies for me. But I’m not a big makeup person anyway so I prefer the phone for connecting with others. Skype is just good because it’s free.

With Google Hangouts you have to install their plugin or maybe it’s called an extension. When they first came on the scene it just automatically loaded up but I think now you have to install all of that so some of the ladies might not have that in place and that would be the case why it wouldn’t work. Just do some research on how to set that up and let them all know. The hangouts are fabulous and fun. We have one every week with our mastermind group of fabulous ladies and trust me, we don’t dress up for it either. 😉

Thanks Angela and you have a wonderful day.



94 Tim Bonner
October 1, 2013 at 10:47 AM

Hi Adrienne

I remember you were one of the first people I ever corresponded with after I started my blog. You really impressed me that you took the time to email me after I’d left a comment on your blog.

I like Kumar’s comment from his business coach that “Your network is your net worth”. Blogging is about networking and being part of a community.

But, it’s building trust that is going to allow you to build a solid reputation and allow you to promote your own products to people.

Blog commenting is definitely worth the effort. It can bring in a substantial amount of referral traffic and means you don’t have to rely on the search engines so much.

You do have to be consistent with it though and try to reciprocate as much as you can. I haven’t been inclined to do that so much lately and it shows in my referral traffic. I need to get back to commenting on at least 5 blogs a day!

Enjoy the rest of your week Adrienne!

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95 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 11:10 AM

Hi Tim,

Well I’m so glad we connected Tim and we’ve both come a long way haven’t we! I look at you as a good friend now and if I had a problem or question I’d come to you and feel comfortable asking you. I was also very honored that you did your first guest post on my blog too!

I like that one too, absolutely. Kumar was spot on with that one.

You are right about that Tim, it’s the trust factor. I know that with time and consistency with visiting other people that will come. That’s what I love about blogging and commenting. I get a chance to get to know some people and who they are. I enjoy making those connections and with time they will grow.

Consistency is definitely the key and once you build that up though they’ll keep coming by even when you aren’t as consistent. I think just letting your community know from time to time what’s going on and why you might be MIA shows a form of respect to them. They’ll continue to support you because they too know that life gets in the way and things just happen. Boy do I ever know that. :-(

Thank you for your comment Tim and you enjoy the rest of your week as well. I’ll be sure to do the same.



96 Dragan Palla
October 1, 2013 at 11:23 AM

Hi Adrienne,

I can confess that commenting on other blogs really is getting attention to our own. Recently I was commenting on a few blogs I found interesting and guess what, most of them returned the comment to my blog.

So I absolutely agree with you that commenting is necessary to get others attention or at least get curiosity. Ok, it’s another thing about having amazing content in way they will come back for more. 😉

I think you said it well that building relationship is the long term strategy and you never know where it might pop up opportunity that can change your life. That’s the beauty of blogging, right?

Thanks again Adrienne for sharing this post.
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97 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 12:34 PM

Hi Dragan,

I’m so happy to hear that the blogs you visited reciprocated and stopped by yours as well. I think that’s the way to get in front of people but it’s up to us to keep them coming back! Hopefully everyone will want to continue to visit on a regular basis.

I agree, that’s definitely the beauty of blogging. I’ve met so many amazing people through this platform.

You are very welcome Dragan and thanks for sharing this with us. You enjoy your week okay.



98 Susan Neal October 1, 2013 at 12:09 PM

Hi Adrienne,

I feel terrible for arriving so late at this wonderful party, particularly when you’ve been kind enough to give me such a glowing reference! I’ve been almost completely offline for several days due to some real world stuff, so I’ve got a lot of catching up to do.

I’m so pleased you’ve dived into this debate, after the discussion on FB, and agree with Laura that this is a fantastic kick-ass post that tells it exactly like it is.

Like Dee Ann, I doubt I’d still be blogging, were it not for the relationships I’ve formed online – which is all, largely, thanks to this very blog, which was where I first started making connections with like-minded bloggers.

I also agree with the points made by Glenn and Tim about the fact that the effort we put into blog commenting and building relationships is amply rewarded – it makes us much less vulnerable to the vagaries of Google and the other search engines for our traffic and, personally, I think it’s a much more ‘human’ and enjoyable way to build a following.

Thanks so much, Adrienne, for reinforcing this important message – and apologies, once again, for this late response :)


99 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 12:30 PM

Hi Sue,

Oh that’s okay and hope everything is okay offline. I just loved your post so much that I felt it was better explained there then me reinventing it all.

If you can believe this, I ran across about two more discussions about this other then that Facebook comment. I was so surprised that so many people feel this way and then Barry told me I should give my two cents worth why this was good for business. Oh what the heck right!

Well I’m glad you are Sue because I would miss you terribly if you stopped blogging and learning from you. I finally put those social icons back in my report and I did it per the post you shared too. I’d done it differently in the past but I even created my own page too thanks to your instructions.

Commenting is much more enjoyable I will agree. I love getting traffic from the search engines but I’ve found that the majority of the people who find me from that method are here for the quick comment so they can be seen. They have no clue how this is all done obviously so if that’s the kind of traffic I’m going to get I prefer my referral so much more. It’s just more fun too!

You are so very welcome and again, thanks for your post Sue. Don’t apologize and I just hope all is well with you. Take care now!



100 Susan Neal October 2, 2013 at 1:31 PM

Ah, thanks Adrienne,

This is obviously a VERY hot topic at the moment and I’m so glad Barry suggested you weigh in – there’s no-one better to write about this subject.

It’s lovely of you to let me know you found the instructions for those links so useful. Makes a change for me to be able to help YOU out!!

Thanks for your good wishes, Adrienne – still got some serious catching up to do, but otherwise things aren’t too bad :)


101 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 2:38 PM

I appreciate that Sue, thank you and I definitely have my own opinion on this subject. Not everyone of course will agree with me but most of my regular blogging buddies sure do.

Yeah, your instructions were great. Now on Google+ my report cover isn’t pulling but everywhere else it’s working great. I’m not going to complain though because it still is pulling an image of me. But it works beautifully and I love it. Thank you so very much for showing us how to do that Sue.

Don’t kill yourself now with getting caught up. I know how hard we can be on ourselves at times. :-)

Thanks Sue!


102 Sanjib Saha October 1, 2013 at 2:20 PM


Blogging relationship takes a lot of time and effort. This does not happen in a day. Takes lot of years, sometimes lifetime. Just a couple of years ago, I hardly knew anyone from this blogging industry but I now have more than 1000 friends on Facebook who are bloggers.
I really love connecting with new people and I would like to mention Illeane’s name here. She knows how to connect to people and he has a lot of followers too.
And yes, I like your way of connecting too. 😉



103 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 7:42 PM

HI Sanjib,

They do but they don’t have to take long. If you reach out to enough people you can get some quick results. It does not have to take years because I’ve seen some great relationships form in just a matter of months.

I’m glad you have a lot of blogging friends that you’re connected with on Facebook. I sure hope they visit your blog and they do the same for you. Now that’s friendship wouldn’t you agree!

I know Ileane as well and she is a pro at building relationships as well. I do like to connect with people on the social networks too but I would much rather have them drop by my blog. It’s the only site I actually own.

Appreciate your comment and enjoy your week.



104 Barbara Charles
October 1, 2013 at 6:22 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Since I’ve known you I’ve try to emulate you. I hang on every word you say about building relationships and commenting and you know what, it works, just as you say. I have adjusted so many things I used to do like ‘write like you’re talking,’ going to others people’s blogs and commenting. You’re right so many people will come to you blog and comment if you do so to theirs. Not everyone, but a lot will. And then you start building those relationships.

True, it is slow going. Some will come and comment, some won’t, but so what. Build on what we have and what we get. That’s what I say.

You’ve also directed us to great content as well like Harleena’s wonderful post on commenting and Sue’s post as well.

Commenting definitely leads to socializing. Socializing and building relationships is a by-product of commenting. It comes naturally if someone is commenting. It’s simply is a natural way of communication with each other.

Another great post Adrienne. I’m always listening to you my friend. :)


105 Adrienne
October 1, 2013 at 7:39 PM

Hi Barbara,

I remember when we first met and you were pretty frustrated with the way things were going for your blog. You know if just takes a little advice from someone who is getting results in order for you to see things start to take root. You took my advice and you got the results. That’s what I love seeing because I know this works.

It’s not just me, it happens for a lot of people and like you said not everyone will visit your blog and you won’t connect with everyone either. But there are a lot of people on the internet and many still to get in front of so just hang in there and the right people will come into the picture.

I believe so too Barbara, commenting is a natural form of communication and a great way to get the ball rolling so to speak. We can chose to take it from there or not. I love watching people expand from just the comments and start building those relationships.

Thank you my friend and I appreciate you sharing this. I love when things work you know! 😉

Have a great week and I’ll talk to you soon.



106 Reginald
October 1, 2013 at 9:21 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Thanks for sharing this. This year, I wanted to do a different way of blogging. I used to be very selfish in the past and I thought commenting wasn’t important. Same goes to link sharing etc.

This time around, I did more of that; sharing, commenting and reaching out to others.

The return was great. I love the feedback I got and ended up knowing many bloggers and influencer who had taught me a lot about blogging.

So, strong believer in sharing is caring 😀
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107 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 9:37 AM

Hi Reginald,

So you can definitely speak from experience as well. I think this is the beauty of us all sharing our own experiences because you built blogs in the past only having one thing in mind and that didn’t get you very far. I think that making those connections has really helped you along and I’m definitely seeing the results on your blog.

Thank you Reginald for sharing this with me, I so appreciate that.



108 Steven J Wilson
October 1, 2013 at 9:34 PM

Hey Adrienne,

I agree with you here! It was you that helped me realize the potential of commenting. I came across your comments on several different blogs and became a fan before I even visited your blog… then you really had me hooked : )

Oh yes, building relationships do take time but what relationship doesn’t. Whether your online or in person it is not a overnight process. I think a lot of people get that confused since they are not actually face to face. The same rules apply, just approached differently.

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109 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 9:40 AM

Hey Steven,

Well how cool is that, really! See, we never know the impact we’ll have on others. I think just letting people know how we feel about what they shared or if we can even contribute some of our own experiences in it then that will show others that we are here for the right reasons and that’s to genuinely support other bloggers, offer our opinions, advice and experience and then perhaps help others along the way.

I think when it comes to building a business or a presence online for some reason some people don’t believe that building relationships is part of that. That still confuses me but they’ll soon learn that without it they’ll get nowhere quick.

I so appreciate you sharing this with me Steven. We never know who we’re helping until they tell us. Thank you for that.

Enjoy your day!



110 Atish Ranjan
October 2, 2013 at 2:28 AM

Commenting on fellow bloggers’ blog and sharing their posts on social media consistently is the best and easiest way to build good relationship with them.

apart from this Guest posting on their blog, Helping them when they need are also the good ways to build healthy relationship.

Thanks For writing Adrienne on this topic.
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111 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 9:44 AM

Hi Atish,

I appreciate you sharing your views on this Atish but I will say that just commenting and sharing other people’s content is not enough anymore. There are so many people online today all vying for attention so you have to stand out from the rest. I’m glad though that you are doing this and I’m sure having lots of luck too.

Guest blogging is another great way to get in front of new faces but you have to keep those relationships going.

Appreciate your comment and have a wonderful day Atish.



112 Sue Price
October 2, 2013 at 3:53 AM

Hi Adrienne

This one is certainly your topic. Wow you were always outgoing. I have always been a little more reserved until I get a feel for someone and at 8 I would not have been knocking on doors. Good on you! Funny it is how I always imagine Texans. :-)

Relationships are everything. It is how people do joint ventures and how things in business happen. Blogging is only one way of building those relationships.

I have at times questioned if I would be better to be like some high profile bloggers I know who do not bother with responding to comments. And they have a big following and I cannot figure out how.

I have always built relationships in my offline businesses so to me it has always worked.

A great post thanks Adrienne.

See you my Friday :-)

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113 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 9:50 AM

Hi Sue,

I’ve definitely never been shy Sue. Moving to a new neighborhood I was ready to meet me some friends and get his ball rolling. Mom and Dad could do the unpacking while I started getting to the serious stuff. Building those relationships girl! 😉

When I came online I heard about people meeting and doing joint ventures and at that time I wasn’t even sure what that was. In corporate America that wasn’t something our companies did so I didn’t know what that even meant. The more I learned the more I thought well that would never happen for me but that’s the beauty of this. We each end up having areas we’re strong in so teaming with someone who is strong in another area can benefit you both.

I think for the high profile bloggers they were once where we were. I mean that didn’t happen for them overnight but as they grew and of course promoted their own products or consulting business the blog took the back burner. They might still generate their own content but for the most part they have guests do that and “their people” to respond if at all. I understand growing your business and getting to a place where you’re so busy that’s no longer the most important thing. I just know that for now I still enjoy it so much but it’s how the relationships have been able to be formed, through this method.

I can definitely see that for you Sue. Because of what your background is I have no doubt that’s another reason why you were so successful in everything you’ve done.

Thank you for sharing this with me Sue and you have a wonderful rest of your week and I’ll see you on your Friday! Looking forward to it.



114 Susan Velez October 2, 2013 at 5:11 AM

Good Morning Adrienne,

You don’t know it but I’m a huge fan of yours. Since I found your blog I’ve been modeling your methods. Why?

Well you seem like a very geniune person who really cares about people. I like that and that’s exactly how I want to be.

In the past I would sit behind my computer and build backlink after backlink not worrying about anything else. Those days are long gone.

As for socializing and getting to know people…it is very time consuming. But I can see that it has worked well for you. So I know that it works very well. I still have a lot to learn because I’ve never been one for socializing with others.

Thanks for sharing this post, it makes me realize that blog commenting is definitely the best way to get started socializing. I know I need to take it a step further…but it all starts with baby steps. Thanks and have a great day.
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115 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 10:00 AM

Good morning Susan,

Why thank you for sharing that, I can’t believe I have fans. See, we all start out blogging and we never know who we’ll touch or how we’ll help others. I just love hearing that and I’m smiling so big right now.

Thank you and I do, I’ve always been a nurturer. I just want everyone to be happy all the darn time. That’s how life should be right!

Socializing is time consuming but you have to do certain things every single day anyway so just make that part of your routine. If you need any help Susan then please let me know, happy to do that for you okay!

Blog commenting is the best way to get in front of enough people so they’ll “see” you. Take those baby steps and just do that until enough people start coming around to your blog. Then start connecting with your readers, reach out to them, ask them if they need any advice or if you can help them in any way, do it because you care. The rest will come back some other way, I promise. I have no doubt you can definitely do that Susan. Just put yourself in their shoes, if someone reached out to you and just offered assistance with no strings attached. I know you’re appreciate the heck out of it and take advantage of it too. You go girl! 😉

Thanks for the comment and have a great day okay!



116 Lazar Cristiana Anca October 2, 2013 at 7:52 AM

Once upon a time…..

And here it starts, the story, the magic, the beauty, the moment when we all believe in the GOOD, in the knights and in the princesses, when we imagine ourselves dancing like a princess, fighting like a knight, living in a magic palace, running like crazy in the fields, listening to the birds, to the cold and magnificient rivers, gazing at the sun, laughing and smiling and we are all GOOD and HUMBLE and MAGIC………..and THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER is exactly how it ends. We put aside the book, we fold our beautiful children,we turn off the light and we go to bed……..and we say to ourselves… is just a story…..real life is something else, people are not knights and princesses and the castles are expensive.Right?

There are many people who continue to live frustrated, lonely, seeking someone or something on the social media platforms, teaching their children the power of the REAL self sacrifice, of the REAL people, of the REAL friends,of the REAL education, of the REAL LIFE. RIGHT?We have to know everything because WE are the adults, right?

I am wondering …. Why did we forget THE Once upon a time, When did we forget to believe in us? Why did we put money first and then the people? Why do we live like there is no tomorrow?Why and why and why?Why do we imitate HIM OR HER?Why do we not listen to our heart anymore?Why do we treat people like we really do not want them to treate us?

Looking for more information about blogging and writing I have discovered useful and much needed content but everyone was talking about….10 TRICKS, 7 TIPS, 13 STEPTS and HOW TO SUCCEDD, HOW TO GROW, HOW TO…., ABC’s and what one should do 1 hour a day, 2 hours a day until I found Mrs. Adrienne’s blog and the magic title RELATIONSHIPS….and HOW TO BUILD and it was magic, the title is magic.

It was the first one to carefully read and it was there and then when I have decided that I have to do what I like most. I like dreaming, I like talking to people, I like helping them, I adore my job, I really love life and everything good in it. And unfortunately I have forgotten all about that. Maybe not entirely but in the past I have punished my dreams for wanting this and that and I have punished me for saying this and that and for treating people in a formal and business way even if I did not like that.

I look sometimes at the stars and I wonder DO ALL PEOPLE SEE THE STARS? DO ALL PEOPLE SEE THE BEAUTY IN EVERYTHING? Why not?

I wonder if Michelangelo was counting the money in his head while he was painting Sistine Chapel , I am speechless to Ludwig van Beethoven ability to compose Symphony no 9. (ODE TO JOY) when he was deaf, I wonder if Einstein was considering the benefits when he discovered the general theory of relativity or last but not least I wonder if Mr. Thomas Edison was reflecting on HOW TO SUCCED first and then ok …..he said …..let’s create something today……let’s say….something illuminating:)

They all created from their heart drawing their power and creativity from their dreams. They first tried and sometimes it did not work (Edison and his thousands tests which led to the light bulb) and in the end they were proud of their work…..this was the REAL emotion. They were proud and happy they have succeeded.

History is teaching us everything and the best modern example of all was the economic crisis. We have sacrificed everything, the comfort of our houses, the relationships we have build over the years, the humanity and all these just for bowing before the king MONEY. And in the end poor and lonely people turned their face to the naked truth and asked themselves WHAT AM I GOOD AT? HOW CAN I MANAGE TO SUSTAIN MY FAMILY, MY CHILDREN?

This is the key, the step, the trick, the HOW….this is what define us……creativity and the will to learn, to practice, to understand, to ask, to explain, to ask again, to believe in GOOD, in the castle, in knights and in princesses.

We tend to do business with people who are good at what they are doing, who are ok, who are extremely interested in their domain and who can really help us. When we need a doctor we ask our friends for a good doctor who is ok…….a good lawyer, a good mechanic, a good teacher, and we also recommend people who are OK to others. And I bet we all know what this OK means. And we do not think first at money, at the price.

I think if one really wants to be happy he or she will definitely be happy. But it involves hard work and time and sometimes failure. We have to take the example of our grandparents, parents and especially to take examples from history.


We have to believe in us, to turn off the TV or to sell it :), focus all of our energy and enthusiasm into THE PLAN TO BE HAPPY and to pray for creativity. Nothing yet?…..go for a walk, swim, jog, listen to music, eat a cookie (It will not kill your scales:)), call your friends, your family, ask for help, for an advice AND LISTEN….TAKE ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD TO LISTEN CAREFULLY, ask your mother if you don’t have a clue, put her this question MOTHER WHAT WAS I GOOD AT WHEN I WAS LITTLE?…..I FORGOT. There is nobody in the world kinder and more courageous and more generous as your mother, right?

And as Sonny says in the movie “THE BEST EXOTIC MARIGOLD HOTEL” .”Everything will be all right in the end….if it’s not all right then it’s not yet the end’ or Edith Piaf in her song “Non, Je ne regrete rien”

„Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.”
Martin Luther

„The glow of one warm thought is to me worth more than money.”
Thomas Jefferson

„I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”
Muhammad Ali

„It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”
Aristotle Onassis

„Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.”
Jim Rohn

„Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.”


I thank you Mrs. Adrienne for all the useful pieces of advice I have found on your blog. And I appreciate the kick you have given me to start writing about the joy and beauty I „secretly”  found in myself.I you have to believe me I do not use illegal substances:)

Have a wonderful week!
Anca Lazar


117 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 10:09 AM

Oh my gosh Anca, what a powerful comment. What writing skills you have and I was amazed with what you shared. My goodness, I’m in awe!

Now I probably can’t respond to every single thing you shared here but I’ve always loved helping people. It’s just who I am so when I started online and finally started understanding some of this stuff I would shoot videos and give my opinion on things. I left my phone number and asked people to call me and they did. They said they felt like I was speaking just to them in the comfort of their home.

So my mentor at that time told me that’s great but I’m wasting my time helping people and I’m not making any money. She was right but what did end up happening was that I built up a good following and then once they started trusting and believing in me then the recommendations started to come and they did start buying things from me.

I’m not about placing ads or building my lists through giveaways like some people do because those aren’t genuine people who end up on your list. I think that through blogging I’ve been able to have a voice and that voice is all about sharing what I’ve learned and helping others know that if I can do this then so can you.

It just so happens that blogging, traffic and relationships happen to be my strong points so I want everyone to benefit from what I’ve learned.

I so appreciate the time you took to share this with me Anca and I say you do what’s in your heart and the rest will come. Sure it’s time consuming but look at what can happen down the road and the amazing people you have the opportunity to meet along the way. It just doesn’t get much better then that.

Thank you again and you enjoy your day.



118 Peter Kanayo
October 10, 2013 at 3:34 PM

Adrienne, Anca tells us a splendid story, touches my soul in a beautiful way.

Am like am off to visit…oh I don’t even know if its a she or a he.

Am happy but not so happy again.

Why? Because I cant make a contact. No twitter link no blog

Hopefully Adrienne you may be able to help me out.

Anca you are such a splendid writer galvanising the soul- setting it into rythmic vibration of joy untold.

Happy to cross your path. And hope it crosses again
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119 Adrienne
October 10, 2013 at 5:39 PM

I’ll introduce you both on Twitter okay Peter! Don’t want to share that information here just in case. Be on the lookout for that tweet okay!


120 Efoghor Joseph Ezie October 2, 2013 at 9:48 AM

Thanks for this wonderful piece. There are a few people who make lasting positive impression on others the first time you meet them; and you are one of such people.

I still remember my first visit to your blog and the return visit you paid me for leaving a comment on your blog. The follow up emails were simply splendid. The impression you created prompted me into requesting for an interview with you; though you haven’t been able to grant that due to your workload. I wish to remind you that my readers are waiting and eager to hear from you on Business Success Guide.

Well, I disagree with those who feel that building relationships is a waste of time because they feel you don’t have a target audience to concentrate your efforts on. No matter the angle from which they look at it, relationships can link you to the right people directly or indirectly. You may not have a target audience but the audience you have know some of your potential target audience they could tell about you.

Blogging without relationships is like being a champion in isolation; you never get known unless you have people around you who can tell others about your exploits.

When building relationships, the best thing to do is never to be selfish. Expect nothing special from the people you are reaching out to. people are very sensitive, and they know it when you are reaching out to them for selfish motives. But if you love people for whom them are and you are accommodating, they easily trust you and flock around you.

You and Harleena Singh and some others I have interacted with in the past months have thought me useful lessons I have not learned in the past years. If I am able to implement half of what I have learned so far, I believe I would be able to solve people’s problems, love them and have a lot of people around me.

Thanks Adrienne, for this great write up. Do have a lovely and productive week.


121 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 12:59 PM

Hi Efoghor,

Well thank you so much for saying that, I’m flattered…

I’m happy that you felt welcomed when you stopped by my blog and I am always more then happy to stop by my readers blogs as well. I mean that’s the great way I find new content too as well as meeting so many amazing people too.

It really makes me sad that there are people who actually do believe that building relationships is a waste of time. I’ve never heard of one person who was able to build their business without people. If you want to keep them coming back time and time again then you’re going to have to do more then just a hard sell.

I love that, blogging is like being a champion in isolation. Well that’s true.

Now that I definitely agree with. Help people because you want to and never expect anything in return. So many people don’t really get that and how that can help you down the road but just having that mentality that you’re expecting something will not get you to where you need to be. Do it because you care and that’s how you can really start to build up a great following.

I have no doubt that you’ll do really well Efoghor and I’m so glad that Harleena and I have been able to help you in learning how to make better connections. Just stay consistent in your action steps and you’ll do really well, I have no doubt at all.

You are so very welcome and thank you for your wonderful comment. Have a lovely and productive week as well.



122 William Butler
October 2, 2013 at 3:59 PM

Hi Adrienne,

I don’t know who added me to the BCG, but I’m very grateful, as I have learned so much about blogging, which I was completely ignorant about. In this area, you are a true leader because you have had the experience of what works and what doesn’t and how to connect and engage with others. You have encouraged me to do so, and through some of your posts, I am now making greater inroads in this area. Thank you so very much!!

You asked if we agree with the concept that writing comments on blogs is a waste of time.
I disagree with this. What a terrific way to learn about others as they express themselves.

One of your pieces of advice is to write like you’re talking to a good friend. This concept also works well with public speaking.

In establishing relationships with others, you recognize what people appreciate.
Know that I appreciate you.

Kind Regards,
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123 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 4:55 PM

Hey Bill,

Seems like every time I go in there someone new has been added. So many of them though aren’t consistent which is why there are so many there but most don’t contribute. What a shame right! But glad you’re enjoying it and I’m always thrilled when someone tells me they’ve learned some things from me. That always makes me so happy.

I know, can you actually believe that some people do believe it’s a total waste of time. Really! I think it’s because they just haven’t been visiting the right blogs or they’ve given up way too soon.

I think when it comes to blogging and people reading your content then they can relate so much more to you as a person when they feel like you’re speaking just to them. I know that when I hear people speaking and they do that as well then I do feel more in tune to what they’re saying instead of it being yet one more boring speech.

Why thank you so much Bill, I appreciate that so very much. The same goes for me too, I so appreciate you. Thank you so much and you enjoy your day okay!



124 Sherman Smh
October 2, 2013 at 7:05 PM

Great Topic Adrienne!I do have to say that I\’m not that much of a people person either. I’m more introverted, but I do find to take interest of what others teach and their opinions.

I\’m not going to lie though, although I’m the introverted one, sometimes I have to put in my two cents on topics that really pique my interest and get emotional about. I guess I’m a closet extrovert LOL But i definitely agree with you.

It\’s not a waste of time to build relationships. How are you going to build a business if you\’re in stealth mode all the time? You definitely have to put yourself out there and engage. The great thing about marketing online is that you can engage behind a computer to start off. It’s the greatest feeling when you can build synergy with people that are like you whether you all are novice’s, intermediates, or experts. We are definitely here to help build each other! Thanks for sharing!


125 Adrienne
October 2, 2013 at 7:18 PM

Hey Sherman,

I think that even some people who aren’t that much of a people person do find that blogging is just easier to connect with others. I think sitting behind a computer too and not meeting them in person probably helps some too right!

I can see where you’d want to voice your opinion on certain subjects anyway Sherman. I mean we all have something to share right! I’ve met so many people online now that claim to be such introverts yet it’s something about the computer that brings out more of them. Now if I were to meet them in person they’ve told me they would still be the one in the corner. I highly doubt that since most of these people are now your friends.

You hit that one on the head Sherman. You can still build those relationships because that’s how you’ll end up building your business. Amen to that.

Thanks for sharing that and for stopping by. Always a pleasure to see you.



126 Ashutosh Kasera October 3, 2013 at 12:13 AM

Hi Adrienne,

A very nice thought provoking post.

I believe, blogging is more about interaction and personal relations. After all, we aren’t running a site to get accessed by the readers. We are simply putting our thoughts, our experiences, our wisdom and our knowledge and unless and until, we talk with each other about the same, the real essence of blogging with get lost. Moreover, I have always believed that humans are better than machines. We aren’t writing for machines but humans and if we are writing for human then a personal touch is needed.

Thanks for sharing such deep insights about the importance of building relationships with our blogging experience.


127 Adrienne
October 3, 2013 at 8:18 AM

Hi Ashutosh,

Welcome to my blog and I appreciate you sharing your thoughts about this topic. I’m so happy that you agree about how important it is to build relationships and we do that through blogging. It is more personal because we’re sharing our experiences with others and we’re hoping that they’ll be able to connect with us as well.

Thank you for your comment and have a wonderful ending to this already great week. Happy October!



128 Emebu October 3, 2013 at 1:56 AM

Thanks for this great post, making friendship via blogging is a real fun trust me, i love it. This post has been a great blessing to many including me. I therefore will recommend this blog to many other friends.


129 Adrienne
October 3, 2013 at 8:21 AM

Hi Emebu,

I’m glad you enjoyed this post and agreed with what I shared. I think for the most part most bloggers do but I was very sad to hear of those that definitely do not. I’m glad that you’re finding blogging fun and enjoyable.

Thank you for your comment and your recommendation. Have a wonderful week okay!



130 Adesanmi Adedotun
October 3, 2013 at 6:07 AM

Madam Adrienne,
Adriennesmith blog is known as a relationships builder (platform) where bloggers meet to share one mind together as far as building relationship in blog-o-sphere is concern. Building quality relationship as blogger is the number stair case to blogging success. Blogging is bloggers online representative, what you are offline is what you will put into your blogging tactics a far as online is concern, the level of our relationship with others is very important in taking our blog to the next level. I do wonder why you alway get tons of comment on each of your blog post, and that tells me relationship speaks for your blog readers find it more interesting.


131 Adrienne
October 3, 2013 at 8:27 AM

Hi Adesanmi,

I’m glad you view my blog as one where people can definitely come to learn how to build relationships. I think it’s really important as bloggers to stick together and encourage each other. I mean we’re all in this together learning how to blog and get that traffic. When we share ideas or learn from each other I think that makes us want to reach out whether it’s to just ask questions or something else.

I’m so glad you feel this way as well Adesanmi and thank you for sharing this. Bloggers and blogs are fabulous aren’t they! I’m so glad we’re all in this together.

Have a beautiful end to this week.



132 marty October 3, 2013 at 1:04 PM

When I first started blogging I totally did not really understand the importance of commenting and bonding with other bloggers.Also because I was so new I thought I didnt have anything important thing to say. But over time I learned that doesnt matter it just helps to start talking and to learn from those around you


133 Adrienne
October 3, 2013 at 1:28 PM

Hi Marty and welcome to my blog.

I think the majority of us start out this way, I did. I didn’t realize how important it was or how it could really help each of us. I also didn’t think I had anything important to share but I soon learned how wrong I was. Thank goodness right!

So glad you came around, we both did. I appreciate you sharing this with me, thank you so much for your visit.



134 uzoma eze October 3, 2013 at 2:44 PM

I really appreciate this article and would suggest another factor in building relationships via blogging also requires one’s simplicity… to many folks on blogosphere would want to jack up content and this really spoils the fun in blogging, it is important to have simple and concise blogs for bloggers to followup and be part of, great piece of work Adrienne


135 Adrienne
October 3, 2013 at 3:28 PM

Hi Uzoma,

Thanks for sharing your opinion on this topic because it’s definitely a popular one.

Not exactly sure what you mean by simplicity! I’m also not sure what you mean about people “jacking up” the content. I mean people have their own way of expressing themselves. For tech related blogs for instance they can’t keep things simple for the most part. They go into all these explanations of tech stuff that is so over most of our heads we wouldn’t be able to relate. I find that type of content hard to contribute my opinion too. Is that what you mean?



136 uzoma eze October 3, 2013 at 3:39 PM

yes ma’am we are on the same page, no offence its just my opinion


137 Adrienne
October 3, 2013 at 4:06 PM

Hey Uzoma,

I just wasn’t quite sure what you meant that’s all. Thanks though for letting me know.



138 Olili Bob
October 3, 2013 at 4:38 PM

Hi Adrienne,
I must say i love this particular article. At first i was wondering why people always visit other peoples blog and leave a comment. a guy even told obasi miracle that he loves wasting his time by leaving a comment on blogs but i recently found out that its never a waste of time as it helps in many ways and its part of the reason i love harleena. Building relationship with other bloggers is a very nice way to also gain recognition globally as it helps you learn and share ideas but it also depends of the personality of the blogger in question. some people are naturally rude and egocentric and I must say not everyone would be so patient to stay back and make that connection but I have learnt to be patient, understanding and tolerant and can cope with such people as long as i make that connection because you will never know who will be of help to you someday.


139 Adrienne
October 3, 2013 at 9:12 PM

Hi Bob,

I’m glad you enjoy commenting and have met some really wonderful people through this platform. Harleena and I have definitely grown in this area so I’m glad that you know her as well.

There are all types of people in this world but when you have a positive attitude you’ll attract more of those people to you. I very seldom deal with people who are rude or impatient. That’s definitely a good thing though. I do believe to be open to everyone but within reason.

Thank you for sharing this with me and I appreciate your comment.

Enjoy your weekend and thanks for stopping by.



140 Amiti
October 4, 2013 at 5:13 AM

Great article as usual. I can say from experience that by commenting not only did I create relationships (without seeking it directly), but also drove more than 4x more traffic to my site by commenting.

There are also tons of networks for bloggers these days so using them is also a nice and sometimes easy way to find someone that blogs on the same or a similar topic.


141 Adrienne
October 4, 2013 at 8:55 AM

Hey Amiti,

I’m happy to hear of the results you’ve achieved just from commenting on other blogs. It’s up to each individual to keep those readers on our blogs and hopefully coming back for more. Through this method though is how relationships are formed. I’m just so happy that you’re enjoying this as well and building up a great readership too.

Thank you for sharing this with me, I love hearing these types of results.



142 Jennifer Kennedy
October 4, 2013 at 10:48 AM

Hey Adrienne!! I’ve been super busy with work and missed reading your blog!!

This post spoke volumes for me! I’m feeling in a complete rut right now and one thing I feel I’m lacking on my website is engagement. And, one thing that does stick out for me is to go beyond the comments. I’ve been doing that pretty well, but definitely need to take it a step further.

I also feel like I’m jumping the gun — I agree with great content. Although, I do get nice compliments on what I share, it’s not where I want it to be. Perhaps, I should work on doing that first and then really honing in the relationship building.

Thanks for the post, Adrienne!! You always challenge me to look at things differently!
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143 Adrienne
October 4, 2013 at 12:12 PM

Hey Jennifer,

Welcome to the busy party girl! Just hope it’s all going well.

I think we all feel like we’re stuck but remember, things take time. Visiting blogs and getting noticed enough so that people will start to visit you takes time. Writing good content to keep them interested takes time. Building up that engagement so they want to keep hanging around takes time. It took me four months when I started this and I was very consistent so these things just take time girl.

You’re doing great and you’re moving forward so that says a lot. Just keep up the great work and be patient. 😉



144 Kelly October 4, 2013 at 2:29 PM

Thanks for the tips! I am just starting now to go “knocking on doors” after 3 years of blogging and I think it may start to pay off soon!


145 Adrienne
October 4, 2013 at 4:12 PM

Hi Kelly,

Welcome to my blog and thanks for reading this post. If you’re just starting to visit other blogs and comment then this post will definitely help. Just be consistent with your visits and stick with it. It won’t happen over night but you will see results. I promise. If you ever need any other advice just look me up okay!

Good luck and have fun.



146 Sahil Dhull October 5, 2013 at 1:56 AM

Hi Adrienne,

I am little bit late to comment because of some internet issue but I am very happy to read your post. I had also written a post on the same topic on my blog a few days ago and glad to see that you also like commenting as much as I. Engaging people towards a blog is difficult a little bit for some people but if they are doing everything passionately then they don’t need to worry.

If bloggers can’t understand that what they are trying to saying in their content then others can help them as we all are blogging friends. Thanks for the great content and have a nice day.



147 Adrienne
October 5, 2013 at 11:11 AM

Hi Sahil,

I understand the internet issues and those are never fun. You’re never too late stopping by here and that’s what I love about blogging. My content remains up.

Glad to hear you wrote a post on this same subject as well. For the most part the visitors to my blog pretty much agree with what I’ve shared here but it’s really sad to know there are plenty of people who don’t. I think they’re missing out personally but to each his own right.

Visiting other blogs and commenting is the best way to get your self out in front of enough people. It’s a time consuming process but as you can tell from my blog, it’s so worth it.

Thank you for sharing this and please enjoy your weekend.



148 Chetan Gupta
October 5, 2013 at 10:11 AM

These are really great ways for building relationship adrienne. I think blogging is like a family and all the bloggers are the family members of blogging so to be in the family, a blogger must be with the good relation with other bloggers. Right??? 😉


149 Adrienne
October 5, 2013 at 11:21 AM

Hi Chetan,

This is what’s great about blogging, you can build your own community and each blogger supports one another. It is like a family, yes and they are always there to help you when you need it. That’s what building relationships is all about.

Thank you for sharing that and you enjoy your weekend okay!



150 Viola Tam
October 6, 2013 at 12:22 AM

Hi Adrienne,

I love your relationship building tips! You walk to talk! This is why you really stand out from the sea of bloggers. Congratulations!

I do not believe in the “I do something for you and you do something back to me agenda”. Sure, we would love to have those joint ventures or strategic alliances. Yet, things can happen in interesting ways.

A marketing business person I know got a referral from a ‘small guy’ in packaging and boxes business. That one referral is worth $60,000 business turnover! We really do not know who is connected to who. This is why relationship building is priceless, from a business perspective!

Great insights, Adrienne. I appreciate you :)

Viola Tam – The Business Mum
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151 Adrienne
October 6, 2013 at 10:57 AM

Hi Viola,

Why thank you, I so appreciate that.

I think in the past the scratching each other’s backs worked pretty well and it’s still a great concept really if you’re doing it for the right reasons. Working together with certain people can benefit your business tremendously but if you don’t think very highly of that person then I can’t really see that happening.

Wow that’s such a great example. Thanks for sharing it and it does work. We just never know what type of connections we’ll make along the way. This is a great example of that, I appreciate you sharing it.

Thank you Viola and you have a wonderful new week.



152 Mitch Mitchell
October 6, 2013 at 7:48 PM

You are the champ at relationship building so people should be looking to you for how to do it properly. With that said I think it depends on who you are and what you\’re doing with your blog to determine whether blog commenting is a waste of time or not. For people like you and me, it\’s probably the best way to drive traffic to our blogs and build relationships. You write at least twice a week and I write whenever I want to but hope to have 2 or 3 posts out a week. Thing is, those blogs that have multiple bloggers, multiple guest posts, thus tons of content daily and weekly, probably don\’t have to comment as much because they can saturate the marketplace with content, and thus get more people to share their content as well.I think about someone like Darren Rowse. What most people don\’t know is that when he started he was writing upwards of 10 posts a day. I\’m not sure most of us would want to do that but it helped him get established and, well, now he\’s big time. What I don\’t know is if he\’s ever been a big time commenter, but I do know that early on he used to respond to almost all his comments and he doesn\’t have the time to do it now and yet he\’s successful based on what he initially started out doing.Relationships… oh yeah! 😉
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153 Adrienne
October 7, 2013 at 8:22 AM

Hey Mitch,

You are right Mitch, we use our blogs as a tool to build those relationships. I am consistent with my blog posting and I have never blogged every single day. Like Darren, I never posted up to 10 times a day either. I know that they say the more quality content you can deliver on a daily basis the more traffic you’ll get and I believe that. I just don’t have the time and my brain can’t come up with that much obviously. lol…

I don’t know about people like Darren either when it came to commenting but I think you’re right. When you have multiple authors and they post either several times a day or daily you have enough traffic to get them to your blog and with people at that point they have their own products now so that’s where they’re focusing more, making money.

I applaud them for doing that too and they’ve just been able to take it to that next level. I’ve been dragging my feet big time in that area but I’ll get there.

Thanks for your comment Mitch and I so appreciate it. Enjoy your day.



154 Stephan October 7, 2013 at 8:03 AM

Hi Adrienne,
Very interesting post. I think blogging has come a long way those days and It can be considered a society where people can meet and make friends, you don’t have to worry about where you come from or who you are. If you’re in the field, you can make a lot of relationship with unlimited amazing people.
Thanks for your sharing.



155 Adrienne
October 7, 2013 at 8:31 AM

Hi Stephan,

Blogging has definitely come a long way, you’re so right. Not only do we get to share our amazing content with others but we get to make those fun connections along the way. Some turn into real friendships and some turn into business partnerships. We never know what each new relationship will bring.

Thank you for sharing that and glad you stopped by. Always appreciate the comment.



156 Barb Brady
October 7, 2013 at 10:02 PM

I really like this post Adrienne! I just read a negative post the other day where the author was bound and determined to demotivate new bloggers. I had to take a deep breath after that one. It is wonderful to read articles from you that are hopeful and supportive of new bloggers and experienced bloggers coming together. I like how you stress for us to focus on writing meaningful blogs and developing relationships. Ok . . . praise praise praise. Thank you. I think sometimes for us new bloggers it can get overwhelming so it’s nice to know that you as an experienced blogger really stress going about it the right way . . . building relationships … and then gives us hope that we can do it.
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157 Adrienne
October 8, 2013 at 9:09 AM

Hi Barb,

Well that’s just sad, why would someone do that! I sure wouldn’t want to return to their blog often if that’s the type of attitude I’m hit with.

I know that everyone is different in the way they present themselves, who they are, how they build their business and even blog. What I do here at my place is I share what works for me and it’s obvious that others are also getting the same results from what I’ve shared so it’s not that it’s only me and no one else. I’ve also read throughout this entire year that the internet is leaning much more toward communities instead of just blogging for traffic. Communities show social proof and that all starts with building relationships. Heck, I was doing that before this was even being presented so there obviously is something to this.

I say you go with what feels best to you and walk in your own shoes Barb. I hope you’ll keep coming back though for more. 😉



158 clement October 16, 2013 at 2:16 AM

Hello Adrienne
I enjoyed your post so much and am glad i found you via google.
The personal touch you add to your post makes it stand out. I would be delighted to have you as a mentor. Just launched two new blogs and am in the process of building my fans base.
Many thanks for sharing and please and please consider my request and keep the flag flying.


159 Adrienne
October 16, 2013 at 8:09 AM

Hi Clement,

Well welcome to my blog and I’m glad you stumbled upon me as well. I do love it when Google does it’s job and sends me some “good” traffic. What I mean by that are people who are interested in what I share and eager to stick around. Yay!

I put a little of me in all my posts Clement.

Two new blogs! That’s a lot of work and will be hard to keep up and promote them both equally. I wish you all the luck in the world with that my friend. I tell you what, you’re going to find a LOT of really helpful information here on my blog. The first thing I would suggest you do is look over in my right sidebar under the Most Popular Posts and go read “My Secret To Blogging Success”. Trust me, it’s worth it. Then on my “Start Here” page you’ll find a lot of information under specific categories. Find what you need right now and then if you have any questions either ask them in a comment or send me an email. Be happy to answer those for you.

Be sure to get that gravatar set up ASAP because blogging is about connecting with people so that little green monster is not very welcoming. Also, I hopped over to your blog link and people will “not” sign up to leave a comment, me included. I would fix those two things first if I were you.

Okay, have a great day and thanks for stopping by. Always appreciate the comment and visit.



160 Piyush Mathur October 16, 2013 at 4:20 AM

Hi Adrienne,

I think your comment sections proves your points. After i read your post, i started going through all the comments and you know what came to my mind when i read them all?

Can you guess?

When am i going to make my comment? Now, that i am finally here, i feel a bit blank…!

Intense stuff you have here~



161 Adrienne
October 16, 2013 at 8:23 AM

Hi Piyush,

LOL!!! Sorry about that Piyush, I do have a lot of loyal readers and we’ve been hanging out together for awhile. I love when they share their views and opinions with me because that’s what helps build those relationships. I’m glad you finally got to the bottom though. Surprised you have nothing to share but maybe next time okay!

Thank you for stopping by and hope you’re enjoying your week.



162 Stephan February 18, 2014 at 3:38 AM

Hi Adrienne
It’s been a while since the last time i’ve visited your blog and as usual your article impress me a lot. Building relationships is a very effective strategy that bloggers should follow to be success easier. I can obviously see that you have created relationship really good that i can learn from,
thanks so much for your sharing.



163 Adrienne Smith
February 18, 2014 at 8:45 AM

Hi Stephan,

Well welcome back, it’s always good to see some returning faces. Glad you found this post impressive as well. I like to share what I know it helpful and can help you hopefully stand out more in the blogosphere and of course to your readers.

Building relationships is what will take you the furthest. I’m glad you agree.

Thank you again for your visit and comment. Hope you’re doing well and enjoy your week.



164 Uday Ghulaxe June 6, 2014 at 5:12 AM

Bulding relationships in blogging is really important.Most blogger sees blogging as a solo task but you will never going to succeed in blogging alone .
Buildind relationships is must and you have to keep communicating with all bloggers to make a nice relationships with them.
And as you mentioned here the best way to do this is blog commenting ,this is really great and if you comment on your friends blog he or she will comment on yours.
And hope we both will make a nice friendship together Adrienne.


165 Adrienne Smith
June 6, 2014 at 8:53 AM

Hi Uday,

I think most people come into blogging with a specific goal in mind and that’s to get traffic to their blogs and build their business. They don’t see it coming into this as something they may need assistance with. I think most just are of the mindset that they’ll write for the search engines, those people will find their content, love it, sign up for their list and buy what they offer. In some cases that does work but you have to have a heck of a lot of traffic in order to that to keep up.

Eventually some start to realize that building relationships is really the way to go. People helping people and the way to meet those people is by commenting. That’s how it can start but you can take it even further from there.

At the end of the day people have to think about what’s going to get them the furthest in this business. To me I’ve learned that it’s the connections you have. We definitely cannot do this alone so the sooner you reach out to others and start making those connections the better off you’ll be.

Thank you Uday for your comment and I’m glad you enjoyed this post.

You have a wonderful weekend and I’m sure we will. 😉



166 Toby Nwazor August 7, 2015 at 9:43 AM

Hello Adrienne,

Seems like every here I go to learn about building a great blog, the person must mention you. It sure means you are a guru in this field, and your success over the years proves my assumption right.

I like the detailed explanation about building relationships. Saying it is a magical way to build one’s blog is an understatement. I am glad your success has proved your critics wrong.

The point you made about being everywhere and getting noticed because of it reminds me of how I got to know about Harleena Singh and her great blog. I kept seeing her comments everywhere I visited, and I just had to check who she was. That was how I got to know about the ABC community of bloggers too.

As for the personal touch, it equally works. Of course it is time consuming, but it does work. I remember reading post JimDre Westbook’s article on huffington post about being a 21 year old virgin.

I reached out to him immediately on facebook and even sent him a personal message. Surprisingly he responded the same day.

Thanks for sharing this Adrienne, your reputation is so big in the ‘blogosphere’.


167 Adrienne Smith
August 7, 2015 at 3:20 PM

Hi Toby,

Welcome to my blog and I appreciate the compliment. I’m definitely no guru but I have learned a few things over the past few years that have worked brilliantly. That’s what I love helping other bloggers with. 😉

Well there you have it, that’s how commenting can work for you when done right. You can’t help but notice people when you start to see them everywhere and the next thing you know you have to check out their blogs to see what they’re all about and the rest is history. Meeting up with Harleena is definitely a great way to go.

The relationship part of it is much more time consuming but when you think about how well it works for your long-term strategies I think people will have a different thought process about it. When you make some really great connections and those people can help you get in front of people you may not have ever had a chance to then that’s a whole other side to this that people aren’t considering. It takes time but don’t all great things?

That’s awesome that you did reach out to Jim and he responded. For the most part, I think most people will because this is what it’s all about.

You are very welcome and thanks for your comment. It’s equally appreciated as well. I’m definitely blushing over there now Toby!

You have a great weekend okay.



168 Toby Nwazor August 8, 2015 at 7:28 PM

Hello Adrienne,

Your response goes a long way to prove that you really do practice what you preach. mean you wrote this note two years ago, and you still had the graciousness to respond to my comment. Wow. No wonder they say you are the master when it comes to building relationships.

Thanks so much. I hope to be able to employ that since it obviously works for you.

Have a great week ahead.


169 Adrienne Smith
August 8, 2015 at 8:28 PM

Hey Toby,

I respond to ALL comments no matter how old they are. In my opinion, if you took the time to read my post and comment then I definitely appreciate that and it deserves a response.

Building relationships works and everyone should be doing this period. Four years later and I’m still going strong so that must tell you something right!

Thanks for the visit and comment. Hope you’re enjoying your weekend.



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