The time has finally come where I now need to implement some rules for commenting on my blog.
When I started my blog commenting journey I took a little advice from other people who were having great success with this. That advice to me was to visit everyone’s blog that left a comment on mine and return the favor to the best of your ability. I know I’ve done that.
At the time I’m writing this post I’ve been doing that religiously for the past nine months. I can honestly say that I’ve learned a thing or two. Here are a few of the reasons your comments may not get approved.
- You’re only here for backlinks:
I love to help people and I appreciate you dropping by my place to acquire more knowledge. Unfortunately it’s very obvious in some comments that are left that you’re only here to get a backlink. Although I would really like to share the love with everyone, Google frowns upon that when I allow too many links outside my own niche.Because my blog has become more popular over the years, more and more people are dropping by for the link juice then to learn, get to know me or build a relationship. I prefer building relationships so if you’re here for the backlink more than likely your comment won’t be approved.
- The comment you left has nothing to do with the blog post:
I’m starting to get more of these now and I can tell you’re trying to help it make sense but I can see right through you. One again, it’s obvious you’re only here for the link juice so I’m afraid you’re going to have to go someplace else for that.
- You don’t speak English:
I don’t mean to be disrespectful of anyone who doesn’t speak English but it’s my native language and it’s all I know. If you come to my blog and share a comment in another language or your blog is in another language, I will not accept your comment.
- You’re linking to your company’s product:
I know you were probably taught to leave comments on other people’s blog to build backlinks to your site but I’m no longer going to support your traffic methods. I want to connect with other bloggers so if you are really serious about this industry, get a blog. If you aren’t linking to a blog then please just don’t leave a link because it will be removed. If you are linking to a blog, I have to be able to comment. A blog is not a blog if we can’t interact.
- You don’t leave your”real” name:
There is a space for your name when you leave a comment. Put your name there because I’m here to connect with you. Not your company, your product or service but you, I want your name. Also keywords are not allowed so if you leave your name with @ and your keywords they will be removed or I just won’t approve your comment. I think it depends on my mood or what you said. I want people here for the right reasons.
- You are linking to an Empower Network blog:
When Empower Network came out a lot of people jumped on that band wagon quickly. They soon were shut down by Facebook because so many people abused the system. Now their commenting system has you sign in if you want to leave a comment and since I don’t support this program, I won’t be visiting your blog. Therefore, if you have an Empower Network blog and you leave a comment here, it will either get deleted or your link will.
- You don’t have a gravatar or you’re using a company logo:
I only connect with people. I want to see your face on your gravatar. I probably don’t have to reiterate the facts to you now that being online and connecting with bloggers is about building relationships. We can’t build a relationship with a company logo and since 99.9% of the faceless gravatars are spammers they just won’t be able to comment at all. Please tell me you are not in that category.
- You’re commenting just to be seen:
I have a lot of people who leave me comments who are trying to make it sound like you’re adding to the conversation but it’s so obvious that you either didn’t read the post or you seriously have nothing of substance to contribute. Blogging is about connecting so one liners, short sentences or copying someone elses comment won’t cut it here.
- You must use only a root domain in the URL field:
This has been a trick for a long time to get more ranking for specific posts. Hey, I understand why you would want that but it’s just not acceptable here I’m afraid. So leave only your blog URL in that field or it will be removed. We wouldn’t want that now would we.
As for stopping by and visiting your blog, I use to make a habit of this. I’ll still drop by and check it out but if I have no understanding of the topics you write about then I won’t be commenting. I refuse to be that person that says “great post” because I have no idea how to respond, I can’t relate to what you share or I have no interest in what you’re writing about. Don’t worry, you probably won’t like all of my posts either.
Setting Up Your Gravatar
Now I realize that a lot of people are new to blogging and may not be aware of how to set your avatar up. Just in case you don’t know what an avatar is, look below in the comments and check out all those faces smiling back at you beside their comments. That’s an avatar and I’d like to tell you how you can get yours set up in just a few minutes.
1. Go to Gravatar.com and they are now connected to WordPress.com so be sure and sign up for a free account if you don’t already have one.
2. You will need to use the same e-mail address that you use for leaving comments.
3. Once your account is approved, click on the link sent to your e-mail address to activate and confirm your account.
4. Go to My Account and follow the instructions to add your picture.
5. Be sure and check that everything is confirmed and you are good to go!
What I love about this service is as long as you were using the same e-mail address when previously commenting on different blogs, Gravatar will update all those comments you have previously left with your picture. No more monsters or grey faceless faces.
Now there will be some exceptions that I’ll make. For instance, I have some friends that stop by every once in awhile to comment on my blog who are not in this industry so they wouldn’t have a reason to set their avatars up.
I also have a couple friends that have different things as their gravatar’s but because we have already built up a pretty darn good relationship, I’m not going to turn them away. I respect them enough to let this slide because I have built a relationship with them up to this point. But for those that I haven’t, they will no longer be allowed.
So there you have it, my commenting rules.
Would enjoy hearing your thoughts on this subject. Do you have any pet peeves about any of these same issues over at your place? I have a feeling a good bit of you are careful who you let slip by. You know I want to hear from you so tell me what you think.
Okay, go have fun commenting on some blogs and if you don’t have an avatar set up, there are no excuses now!