Are You Making These Social Media Mistakes

August 13, 2012 | By Adrienne Smith

I love social media. If it weren’t for social media I wouldn’t have met the majority of you.

Yeah….blogging is considered social media. As a matter of fact, it kind of started the whole thing way before MySpace or Friendster ever hit the scene. Remember those?

Blogs and all the other social networking sites really encourage people to interact with each other. But this post isn’t just about blogs, it’s really about social media in general. About the mistakes people are making and they might not even be aware of them.

Here Are Some Common Mistakes

Gosh, I sure hope you aren’t making any of these but if you are I’m here to help.

Just as a quick reminder, think about the definition of the word social. Social means community, relations with others, companionship. Do you see selling or promoting in there anywhere?

The subject of relationships is something I seem to have mastered if I say so myself so be sure and grab my free report if you need some help in that area. I spill the beans. Okay, sorry about that now where was I. Oh yeah!! Common mistakes we make so moving on…

That Horrible Spam

Don’t spam me with your link, don’t send me a message about the latest and greatest money making machine. I don’t want to hear it and I don’t care if it’s the best thing since slice bread.

Want to know why? Because I don’t know who the hell you are so why would I listen to you! Seriously, when you connect with anyone on any social platform make those personal connections first. Learn more about them, what do they do for fun, what do they do for a living, do they have a family, what are their hobbies, etc. People love to talk about themselves so let them. You’ll learn a lot about that person during that one conversation.

If you go around leading with whatever you’re doing you’re going to fall flat on your face. Why? Because these people don’t have a clue who you are. It’s like you’ve come to my house, knocked on my door, I open it to see what you want and you barge right in and start on about what you have. Who the hell cares! Stop it!!!

If you keep that up you’re going to be the one screaming from the top of your lungs that this online stuff doesn’t work. Well hell no it doesn’t work, not if that’s the way you’re doing it.

Don’t believe me? Empower Network was banned from Facebook just last week because of this same issue. People were spamming others with their links without even taking the time to get to know them. Don’t let that be you.

Okay, let’s move on.

Remember, It’s Named Social Media For A Reason

If you want me to be friends with you on Facebook, send me an email and let me know why. You heard me. Don’t just send me a friend request on Facebook and expect me to accept you. Now I might recognize you from blogging but do you know how many friend requests I get?

If you don’t send me a personal message and let me know why you want to connect with me then I’m just going to ignore you. That’s right, I pay no attention to any friend request unless they send me a message. Why? Because I’m here to build relationships and if you’re not interested in that then I’m not interested in connecting with you. It’s really that simple.

If you’re on Twitter and you want me to follow you then you better send me a tweet and let me know. I swear, I can’t keep up with everyone so I’m not trying to be rude. You just have to let me know.

Also, don’t just share content on Twitter. Start some conversations, ask some of your friends what they’re up to, it’s welcomed trust me! Remember that social thing I’ve been harping on!

Well, they want conversations remember! It’s social networking… So it’s only 140 characters, you’ll come up with something trust me.

Who Are You Again

You mean you don’t have your gravatar set up yet? What are you waiting for! Always set your gravatar up before you start commenting and be sure you have a good head shot. You want people to remember you across all the other social sites.

I have the same picture and although I’m sick and tired of looking at it, people recognize me when they see me. If I have a different picture for all my sites it might take them awhile to recognize me. You want people to connect with you so let’s make it easy for them. Remember, you are your brand.

It’s Not Hard Being Nice

Always be polite and be appreciative of others. People don’t have to take the time to visit your blog, read it all the way through and then comment. You better thank them for visiting because that will go a long way. They can always go someplace else ya know.

Also be sure and reply to ALL comments left on your blog. People want to be heard and they want to know you listened to what they had to say. Granted, if they are spammers then you should block them permanently but for those wonderful comments left at your place, respond to them all. You will stick out about all the rest if you do.

That one small gesture will take you a very long way.

Build Those Relationship

Take the time to build relationships with others. It might be more time consuming and you may think a waste of time but those will be the people who will value your opinion and come back to you for assistance.

That’s exactly the types of relationships you want and if they never buy anything from you or join you in your business, I can almost guarantee they’ll recommend you to others. Trust goes a very long way in this industry.

I know I sound like a broken record on this subject but you do see me everywhere right! You do see all the comments I get on my posts right! You do see all the interaction going right! That’s because I take the time to build those relationships. I take the time to stop by their place, to connect with them on other social networking sites and to learn more about them as human beings, not just about what they do online.

I’ll repeat myself again because I am the Queen of the Broken Record when it comes to this topic but if you don’t have my free report boy are you missing out. Trust me, it will be the best read of the summer so opt-in to my list and grab it now. Start implementing what I share and you’ll see a huge difference.

Wow, That Was A Bunch

Okay, I’m sure I’m leaving some things out but like my last post I just had some things I wanted to get off my chest. I see these mistakes happening more often then not and if you are a regular reader of my blog then you know I’m going to help you with any issues you may be having if at all possible.

Maybe you aren’t aware of some of these things or that they can take you much further then where you are now. Maybe you’re stuck and can’t seem to understand why people aren’t connecting with you more. I sure hope some of what I shared here was helpful.

Now it’s time to hear from you. Did this help at all? Have you made any of these mistakes? Can you see any room for improvement? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below and let’s have a genuine conversation about this shall we!

I would appreciate it if you’d share this post with your friends too. Spread it all over the place and let’s help some other people that maybe aren’t aware that they’re making some of these mistakes. Either way, they’ll love you for it. I know I sure will.

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1 Vidya Sury Twitter: vidyasury August 13, 2012 at 8:23 AM

Ah, two consecutive posts about topics close to my heart. I know what you mean about the friend requests – it always amazes me how people indiscriminately add friends without ever saying so much as a hello. While we cannot stop the link spamming and pushy messages, the least we can do is not do the same thing. I am a little sick of all the freebies being offered -quite a few Twitter “followers” spam through direct message. And the thing is – they sound very respectable when they want to connect. The first message is great. When the same message is sent several times a day, it grates.

Loving the tips in this post, Adrienne!

Love, Vidya

2 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:25 AM: Hi Vidya,

Thank you for your comment, I appreciate that.

I can’t tell you how many friend requests I have right now and not one of them has connected with me personally. Their loss, not mine.

I know that it’s hard to cut down, the spamming but if more people can be aware of some of these issues then perhaps this can help at least a little. Or at least I sure hope so.

Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts with me.

Have a great week now.

~Adrienne

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3 Lisa Twitter: lisapatb August 13, 2012 at 8:30 AM

Hi Adrienne, I recently had some FB requests from bloggers I did not know recently and ignored the requests. I don’t feel comfortable with folks I don’t know at all on FB. If they are a blogger I’ve gotten to know through our blogs and Twitter I will accept or even possibly seek out. I’ve set up lists so I don’t put all my FB posts out to everyone all the time. Some friends and family members don’t care about “blogging stuff.”
I find it a little harder on the business side to not share products or sales on Twitter, FB etc. I try to stick to the 25% rule. Is that acceptable? (One is a medical scrub site.) I use the rest to re-tweet, have conversations and share health information.
That’s the first I’ve heard of a company being banned from Facebook. Has it happened before?

4 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:31 AM: Hey Lisa,

I don’t have time to go check my friend requests lists Lisa so unless they send me a message asking me to connect with them then I just ignore those. Even for some of the blogging friends that I have. A message sticks out to me so if you really want to connect with me then these people should know by now that I’m all about building relationships. If you can’t take the time to send me a message then there will be no connection.

I think on the Facebook Pages it’s more acceptable but I think the interaction is more important. Ask them questions about things related to maybe what you promote. Things they may need assistance with and then the promoting can benefit them in that way. Know what I mean? I think the 25% is a good number for pages.

It’s happened to Clickbank but that’s the only other one I’ve heard of Lisa. Too many spammy affiliate links since Clickbank and Empower Network affiliate were using those URL’s. If they don’t buy their own and direct it to that then in Facebook’s eyes that spammy. I agree because a lot of newbies come on, don’t go through the proper training and then spam everyone’s wall with that crap. It’s annoying.

Thanks for commenting Lisa, I appreciate your thoughts on this.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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5 Janelle Wright Twitter: janellewright August 13, 2012 at 8:45 AM

Hi Adrienne,

I really enjoyed reading your post today because you touched on a topic that is so overlooked. The social aspect of Social Media.
I agree with you, I think a lot of people don’t know that sending out links or a promoting business is not a good way to start a relationship….as was seen with EN on Facebook.

Your blog is such a great resource for people starting out in the online world and has been invaluable to me as I develop my blog and build relationships on social media.

Thanks again Adrienne for keeping us on the right track.

Talk soon.

Janelle

6 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:34 AM: Hi Janelle,

I appreciate your kind words, thank you so much.

I know that there are a lot of new people coming on the scene who have not been taught the proper way to do things online. But social media is about being social and the media part is the smaller percentage. If more people would take this approach then they would get so much further along.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this Janelle, I appreciate you stopping by. Always a pleasure to hear from you and I’m so thrilled that my blog has been helpful to you.

Enjoy your week now.

~Adrienne

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7 Shamelle Twitter: BetterBloggingW August 13, 2012 at 8:47 AM

There are a few people I follow on Twitter and I notice that every one of the tweets comes from HootSuite. These people are scheduling their tweets—and they’re continuous! Before I even knew what HootSuite was I was thinking “How in the world are these people tweeting so much!?” Then I wised up.

Scheduling your Tweets means you are constantly showing up on peoples’ twitter feeds. Which is what they want. But when I see the HootSuite logo show up, I know that person isn’t present.

I agree. We can’t all be tweeting all the time, but don’t underestimate the power of an unscheduled tweet!

8 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:37 AM: Hi Shamelle,

I automate my tweets Shamelle but I also go to TweetDeck three to four times a day and connect with people. I know that we can’t be everywhere all the time but you can just set your tweets up and then never check to see who is sharing your content or connecting with them on some level. That just continues to surprise me.

You can be sharing tweets through Hootsuite and be tweeting on Hootsuite Shamelle. I use Tweetdeck and I hardly ever go to Twitter at all. So I’m using that service to tweet but I’m not setting up my tweets through that service. I know that you can with both of these so people can be scheduling them, I agree. They just need to be sure to respond to the tweets that have been shared.

I agree Shamelle so thank you for sharing that. I have a feeling more are doing that then not.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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9 David Paul Twitter: davidhpaul August 13, 2012 at 9:12 AM

Boy, did this help me, Adrienne.

I love building relationships, yet for some reason I had it in my head, “you just don’t have the time”. Reading and understanding what you are saying helped me to see that my time is Best spent on making friends with the great people I’m meeting. I’ve done each of these tips for a while, but then I would get distracted by SEO, Ad copy tricks, sales funnel stuff, PPC, and on and on. Successful people in any business, online, offline or both, do one thing better than most, they focus on the fact that Their Business is a People Business.

Thank you Adrienne for pounding that message into me. I needed that.

To Your Peace and Prosperity,

David H. Paul
the Follow Your Bliss Guy

10 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:40 AM: Hi David,

Oh, I’m so glad.

You are right, this is a people business and when you reach out and connect with others they’ll remember that. When you build those relationships and then you need some help or assistance, they’ll be more than happy to do that.

All the other forms of advertising are important so don’t get me wrong, but once you’ve made that initial connection, build that relationship because that will go so much further then anything else.

I appreciate you sharing that with me David. Thank you so very much.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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11 Sylviane Nuccio Twitter: SylvianeNuccio August 13, 2012 at 9:22 AM

Hi Adrienne,

You got it pretty much all here! And thank you for that.

I am so annoyed when I am on facebook and some people are trying to get me to buy something. When they did even have the decency to ever try to get to know me earlier. They must be CRAZY if they think that anyone will respond well to that.

Then, I have some people who I don’t know at all asking me to guest post on my blog. What the farce! You want to get in someone house and sit on the sofa,without know them?

Then again, you have the people who want to be seen as professionals online, and don’t have an avatar. That usally makes me laugh!

Thanks for those precious reminders, Adrienne.

12 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:57 AM: Hi Sylviane,

You are so welcome and glad you agree.

I kind of feel sorry for some people Sylviane because they haven’t been taught the proper way to do things. I’ll usually let them know but if they continue then I’ll mark it as spam and they’re only hurting themselves in the long run.

I know that a lot of blogs accept guest posts not even knowing who these people are. But I think that for those blogs they have guest blogging rules and it should be noticeable. I get a lot as well and just politely tell them unless you’re a regular visitor to my blog, you won’t be receiving an invitation anytime in the near future. Guess what! They still don’t drop by and comment. Their loss…

I hate the no avatar since it takes like what three minutes to set the whole thing up if you don’t know what you’re doing! I just hope some of these reminders will be helpful.

Thanks for sharing that with me Sylviane, I appreciate that.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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13 Carolyn Twitter: wonderoftech August 13, 2012 at 10:48 AM

Hi Adrienne, What a refreshing article! So many articles I read are how to use social media to sell and promote. This is a great reminder that social media is supposed to be social.

I have met so many wonderful people, including you!, on social media. If it turns into a series of billboards then it won’t be nearly as compelling.

14 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 11:12 AM: Hi Carolyn,

I know what you mean because social media is a great way to get your message out in front of people. I totally agree with that but if all you do is sell sell sell and you haven’t connected with these people then you’re hurting yourself much more then helping. If you want instant results, do paid advertising because those people are searching for what you offer.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me Carolyn. They are always appreciated and thank goodness for social media. You’re right! I wouldn’t have met you!

~Adrienne

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15 Harleena Singh Twitter: harleenas August 13, 2012 at 10:53 AM

Wonderful post Adrienne!

I hope no one makes these mistakes, though sadly there are many who ARE making these social media mistakes, just as you mentioned. The worst being when people try to get over friendly and spam your account or send you messages and emails about the products or services they are trying to sell, even though you don’t know them at all.

It has to always start with building relationships first, and once we get to know one another better, then alone can we talk about other things. It does sound funny when people just start talking about what they are trying to sell or kind of forcing you to buy things without knowing anything about you.

And yes, I wonder too as to why people comment or interact with you without having a gravatar set up, something which hardly takes time. We just want to see whom we are interacting with and it does add more meaning to the comment.

I’m glad that I’m away from these mistakes and always prefer building relationships before going ahead with anything else. I guess just as the term suggests – social media – it is after-all all about socializing and being with people more than anything else.

Thanks for sharing and making all of us aware not to make these mistakes.

16 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 11:15 AM: Thank you Harleena, glad you enjoyed it!

I agree, I find those so irritating although to some extent I know a lot of these people just don’t understand how this all works. For the most part, many are willing to learn while the others just don’t care at all.

I think enough people now understand the term “branding”. If you aren’t setting up your gravatar then you’re also missing out on that for branding you as well.

Thank you for sharing your views on this topic Harleena. I always appreciate seeing you and hearing what you have to say.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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17 Steve L. Vernon Twitter: dolphingroup August 13, 2012 at 10:56 AM

Wow Adrienne! Nothing like putting it out there, saying like it is and hitting the proverbial nail right smack on the head!!!! EVERYBODY in the online marketing world needs to see this post and heed its advice. I love it and will definitely share it everywhere! Thanks for putting in words what so many of us think but never quite say it out loud!

18 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 11:17 AM: Hey Steve,

Yeah, I’ve kind of been known to just put it all out there on certain subjects. I just believe that all of this is a learning experience so when we know better we’ll do better. I hope that enough people will just understand how social media actually works because once they do, it will be a much more smoother ride.

Thanks Steve and I appreciate you sharing this post.

Now, enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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19 Jerome McAllister Twitter: limitedvalues August 13, 2012 at 11:02 AM

Hey thanks Adrienne. I have a question. How is it possible to keep up with all social your aquaintance without horribly falling behind. is it just one message by autoresponder. I know that’s not the case because you have called me before. I didnt respond because I was just learning who you are as a person. But now I am honored that you called. But How do you do it?

20 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 11:22 AM: Hi Jerome,

You are so very welcome.

You don’t have to spend all day on Facebook or Twitter to stay connected. Just allot the time to answer emails or spend time connecting with others on these sites. If you only have 30 minutes a day then do 15 on Facebook and 15 on Twitter.

When you opted into my list you received an autoresponder messages from me welcoming you and giving you a link to my free report. I get an email every time someone opts in so if they left their phone number I’ll call them to say Hi. If not then I’ll send another personal message just to welcome them. It’s not time consuming Jerome but to me an added plus just so your readers will know they’re important to you.

Hope that helped answer your question.

Enjoy your day!

~Adrienne

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21 Tim Bonner Twitter: timbo1973 August 13, 2012 at 11:09 AM

Hey Adrienne

I must admit I forgot about the whole social thing with Twitter. I always Tweet any posts that I read and comment on but I forgot about just saying ‘Hi’. I sent you a Tweet earlier just to do this very thing after I read your post. I’ll make sure I do it more often as I often wonder what everyone is up to.

I don’t do any promotional things very often on Facebook or Twitter other than promoting mine and other people’s blog posts. I send the occassional one to my list but in general it’s information or free stuff. I agree, people need to build relationships before they start promoting anything. I do have the occassional review on my blog and that’s more because I like doing them.

My Gravatar is working just fine apart from on CommentLuv, so you’ll just see the Gravatar logo there unfortunately. Andy’s aware of the problem and it seems to be localized to just me at the moment! Hopefully it will be fixed on the next update.

I definitely have some room for improvement Adrienne so thanks for sharing and giving me some great pointers.

I’m glad to hear that your Mom is finally moved in too. You must be exhausted!

Tim

22 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 11:28 AM: Hey Tim,

Twitter is a great way to connect with others and because your messages are so short it’s not like you’re spending time emailing a long lengthy message. I use Tweetdeck and set my followers up in lists. That way I can see what’s going on and respond accordingly.

I think the way you’re doing things Tim is great. Write reviews or things on your blog and share that post on the social sites but for the most part, share other people’s content more.

Andy is always on top of things isn’t he Tim! I’m sorry you’re having that issue but at least he’s aware and is working on the problem.

We all have room for improvement Tim so you’re not alone. As long as we keep moving in that direction we’ll be fine.

Thank you, I’m so glad that move is now behind us. I am exhausted and this had to happen in the heat of August. Still have some things to do at the old house too so it’s not quite over with but the move is done. Yey!!! I appreciate your kind words, thanks so much.

Enjoy your week now.

~Adrienne

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23 Atish Ranjan Twitter: techtricksworld August 13, 2012 at 11:13 AM

Adrienne – Superb Post! I love social media and the whole internet world but as you said there are people who keep on spamming with their links and money making machine and all. Also I want to be in touch with the guys who have their own pic. Atleast we would be knowing whom we talking with.

I hate to connect with them who use no image or any celebrity’s image.

Overall a great write up Adrienne!

24 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 11:30 AM: Thank you Atish, glad to hear you liked this one.

Some people just aren’t aware but hopefully this post will be a learning lesson for them and they’ll start improving their approach. We all know how beneficial that can be right!

Thank you Atish and you enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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25 Lisa Magoulas Twitter: LisaMagoulas August 13, 2012 at 11:16 AM

Adrienne, LOVE this post. So full of “vinegar”! You spunky girl you. I agree with all of it. You are so right. We are here to make relationships. What better way? Those who are afraid in person can put on their “costumes” and be whoever they want to look like, but be their heartfelt, caring selves. You are always such an inspiration. This post carried extra vigor. You must’ve eaten your spinach w/Popeye this morning. lol Love it. You rock GF.

26 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 11:32 AM: Hey Lisa,

Yeah, I can’t help myself sometimes you know! I just want everyone to learn how to do things the right way and social media would be so much more fun!

You are right, some people hide behind certain things and I’m just not quite sure why they’re really here you know! Hey, maybe we’ll be the ones to help them move forward.

I did have some spinach in my sandwich yesterday, does that count? lol…

Thanks Lisa and enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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27 Mandy Allen Twitter: learn_to_blog August 13, 2012 at 12:04 PM

I so agree with you, Adrienne, there is definitely a social side to social media that is often overlooked. However it is overlooked by those who are never going to engage with anyone, they are just interested in capturing leads, so rightly you should ignore them!

One of the best things I have done, I believe, is to stick to a regular gravatar. I agree with you on that one too. I really get confused with picture changes, I have no idea who is writing without investigating (reading!), but I really want to just recognise the person straight away. In fact I look for certain people on the social media sites by picture, not by name.

Hard hitting post but so very true and needed!

Enjoy the journey.

Mandy

28 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 12:27 PM: Hey Mandy,

You’re right, those who aren’t here to connect will never pay attention to the right ways to do things. I hope that someday they’ll learn but they won’t get any attention from me.

I agree with you here to because I’ll look at the photo and recognize that person and connect with them before anyone else. Now like I need a new photo bad since mine is over two years old now. I mean I look the same accept I cut my hair for the winter but I just need a new one. So other than that I know that people get bored but if it takes me longer to recognize them then I’ll usually just move on.

Thank you Mandy and I appreciate your response. Always a pleasure to hear what others think. Glad you’re on the same page.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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29 Bill Dorman Twitter: bdorman264 August 13, 2012 at 12:07 PM

Kind of like treating others like you would want to be treated, huh? That’s my motto and it seems to attract like-minded people.

Just being myself and being social I can do; if I start layering it up w/ some spam BS or some other icky stuff before I even know you, that doesn’t lend itself to a ‘good’ first impression.

You have done a great job building your community following these principals, so good advice indeed.

30 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 12:32 PM: Hey Bill,

Absolutely my friend, took the words right out of my mouth. I thought that you of all people would appreciate this one.

You’re right, just be yourself and don’t add all that other crap. Once you make those connections then people will be interested in learning more about you. What you do, etc. If they aren’t interested fine. If they are, even better.

Thank you Bill, I appreciate that!

Hope you’re having a great Monday.

~Adrienne

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31 Jens P. Berget Twitter: berget August 13, 2012 at 12:43 PM

Hey Adrienne,

Yes, it’s called social for a reason. That’s awesome and true, even though it seems that many still don’t understand the part about creating strong relationships are more important than pushing advertisements.

I understand why people want fast results, I do to, but I don’t believe it’s as easy as it used to be. Now, most of the time, we either need to know the person who’s buying from us, or we need to know someone who have recommended us to him. Or at least, if he’s going to buy from us, he needs to see a positive review somewhere.

So, in the end, we need to know people who’ll talk (positive) about us.

Great stuff Adrienne.

32 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 1:33 PM: Hey Jens,

I agree Jens, we all want fast results but the way things have exploded online it’s harder than it use to me. There is more and more junk being offered and most of those people are just promoting stuff to make a quick buck. The information, product or service really isn’t worth the money and you never hear from that individual again. Not a very good taste in our mouth that’s for sure.

Building relationships or at least connecting with each other will take you a lot further then ever before. The more people who realize this the better off they’ll all be.

Thank you Jens for sharing this with me. Always a pleasure to hear from you.

~Adrienne

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33 Mary Stephenson Twitter: maryjstephenson August 13, 2012 at 1:02 PM

Hi Adrienne

Great post. Okay so I understand the social connection (how to do) with blogging and YouTube. But the Facebook stuff is still making me wonder … how do you really connect with people. Twitter you go and find people in the same niche. But there again I can’t get my brain around the workings of it to make a difference. I know I need to study on it, but there is only so much time in the day. I understand why it works, but I just don’t get how to make it work, with all the messages to people etc. I think I shall have to leave that for another time. But I did got your free report and will start implementing a lot of that (as there is only so much time in a day). I have had the problem of spreading myself so thin that I could not accomplish anything of substance. I am using YouTube for another niche and will put a lot of effort into that … since I am now understanding the concept and how it all works. Been taking some great classes on it. When I first started out about 2 years ago I didn’t think I could write or that I would have anything anybody would be interested in. Well I guess all those gray hairs have produced a wealth of information. Much of which I would have loved to have had many, many years ago.

Thanks again
Mary

34 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 1:38 PM: Hi Mary,

The best way to begin Mary is by connecting with people on Facebook that have visited your blog. If they’ve dropped by to read your content then those are some good people to start with. Learn more about them and just find out what they’re up to. You can also go to different groups and find people that was as well. Look at their profile part of their page and read what they’re into. Connect with them that way.

Twitter helps with just sharing other people’s content and thanking those who have shared yours. Content a few people together if you think they would be a great match regarding content. People will start to take more of an interest in you if you do that.

I know that you can run yourself too thin if you don’t watch out. Just allot yourself so much time for each project and hopefully you can get on a good schedule.

Glad you enjoyed my free report and will start implementing some of what I’ve shared. I think it will be very helpful.

Thank you so much Mary, always a pleasure to see you. Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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35 Mayura Twitter: MayuraDeSilva August 13, 2012 at 1:10 PM

Hi Queen of the Broken Record,

Oh gosh… When I read your post I recalled the day I sent you a friend request on Facebook. I cancelled it after few seconds and start writing a message for you that I’m looking forward to connect. Do you remember? Then you teach me what should I follow when sending requests ~ “Go through the profile, learn their interests and send ‘em why I need to connect”. Most of my friends on Facebook are my known friends and I wasn’t thinking about it that time. Now I know it already

Yuck! Spamming is not my job but you know I share a lot on social networks. My friends who are not aware of social media and blogging stuff ask me “Why you are sharing such posts of other people?” and “Are you compensate for ‘em?”. Oh man… Do they assuming I’m making money out of it? I know they have no idea and wondering what I’m doing. But it matters for most of my subscribers.

I didn’t have a thanking message for readers until I read about it Barry’s place lately Glad I’ve implemented, so I’ve completed most of your list right now. I’m good, eh?

Have a nice week dear

Cheers…

36 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 1:43 PM: Hey Mayura,

LOL… Did you like that?

Oh, back in the day Mayura. Yeah, I remember and I so appreciate those message. People rarely do that which is why I ignore just plain old requests. I know that a lot of people so these social sites think that the “social proof” is in the number of friends or followers. Although in some respect that can be impressive but if you have nothing to show for it then obviously not.

I’m glad your friends are at least curious about what you’re doing and asking questions. Maybe they’ll start to see some of what you’re doing and take an interest. Wouldn’t that be cool.

You’re doing really well on social media Mayura and I think even you are seeing the benefit of the connections you’re making right! People are coming to you, reading your posts, commenting on your posts and it’s so cool. That’s the benefit of making those connections.

Thank you so much for sharing that with me Mayura and hope you’re enjoying your day.

~Adrienne

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37 Ehsan Ullah Twitter: GuideAndNews August 13, 2012 at 1:25 PM

Great advice Adrienne!

Building a relationship, trying to know them personally and letting them know us is must before we expect from them to accept our offer or to visit our blog, That is what social media is all about.

I spend most of my time on Facebook and Google+ and I don’t think I’m making the mistake which you shared in this post, but I think I need to be more active on Twitter because I spend very less time there.

Anyway, Great post.

38 Chadrack Twitter: IncomeMC August 13, 2012 at 1:50 PM

Hmm, I cannot agree more with you on this post. I’m rarely on the social media sites especially Facebook mostly for this reason. It’s really unfortunate that the concept of social media has been overtaken by the desire of many to make money.

Frankly, that news about Empower Network may just open the eyes of many to the ills of these things. Only a few days ago I read a blog post by one of the numbers of Empower Network trying to, as usual push, for the network. In the post, he somehow mentioned the complaints that were going on and said instead of complaining these people should hop in and experience what those in it are benefiting that is making them to always want to talk about the network.

I think this will be an eye opener for such people. They should really learn what social media is all about and then learn how to better use it to promote their business.

On using a gravatar, this is actually my first put-off! Any friend request whether on Twitter, Facebook or LinkedIn without a personal photo gets deleted. There is no option! The truth is we are all marketers but doing it right is necessary. I really do not see why many will have a profile on facebook profile and instead of their personal photos they rather want to use some generic graphic. That tells much about the type of person behind that profile.

Social media should really be first and foremost about relationships. It’s from that platform that every other thing must flow.

39 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 1:58 PM: You know Chadrack, when you connect with the right people you won’t have this problem. That’s why when people come to my profile, I’m only friend right now with 1,120 people. I’m more about quality then quantity and to be honest with you, I’m not personally connected to them all. Oh sure, I have some personal friends on that list as well as family members but for the most part I’m connected with a good bit of them. There will be people slipping through but the first sign of them stepping out of line I unfriend them.

I think the problem with Empower Network is that they taught everyone to use Facebook as the best platform to get the most interest because of how many people are on this site. But like anything else online, there is a right way and a wrong way to go about doing things. For the most part, a lot of these new people didn’t take the time to learn what the right way was so it hurt everyone else when we started becoming more and more fed up with hearing about it.

I have that same thing mentioned in my commenting rules Chadrack. I’m connecting with people, not a monster or an egg. I’m also not connecting with a company so that’s a turn off for me as well.

Thank you for sharing your opinion with me. It’s always welcome.

~Adrienne

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40 Jeevan Jacob John Twitter: blognetworking August 13, 2012 at 1:46 PM

Spamming isn’t cool at all, is it, Adrienne?

Fortunately, I am not being “exposed” to that much spam these days I think it is mainly because I focus on following the quality people (rather than what I used to – mass following for more followers).

But, I do get spam in Twitter (not DM, but direct tweets, I usually ignore it. Sometimes, it comes for original accounts – with profile pic and good bio, might be that the account got hacked).

In FB, I usually accept friend requests of all bloggers (Most of them, I know them personally through blogging, but there are others, with whom I don’t have a direct connection, like you said, that could be a mistake. I think I should take effort to connect with them further).

And of course, you are right about being polite and having a “human” face in your profile. I have been trying a different approach lately, a conversationalist style with commenting on a number of blogs I comment. I want to see how it works out I have also been trying the conversationalist approach with SM – it is working great so far, but I need to experiment further to find what works.

41 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 1:51 PM: I agree Jeevan, it’s so not cool!

See, that’s why it’s important to connect with people who are more interested in building those relationships. Those are the quality of people that we need in our circle and not those who spam our walls with junk. That’s why I prefer checking everyone out before connecting with them.

Sounds like you’re still a work in progress Jeevan like most of us are. Try what works and what doesn’t but we won’t know unless we test different ways of doing thing. I have no doubt that the conversations will work wonders for you but of course you have to connect with people who have the same mindset.

Thank you for sharing that with me Jeevan. Always great to hear what others think and what works for them.

You enjoy your week now.

~Adrienne

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42 Mitch Mitchell Twitter: mitch_m August 13, 2012 at 3:16 PM

I don’t make social media mistakes. lol Okay, I haven’t made any of the ones you’ve mentioned, and we’ll stick with that for now. Just be sociable and you’ll be fine with me. I doubt everyone has the same criteria I do for who I connect with online and in which spaces and it’s a shame because it would relieve a lot of backend stress, that’s for sure.

43 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 3:32 PM: Yeah, me either Mitch! I mean you did know that I’m perfect right! lol…

If only people could be more like us then social would be an awesome place to hang out. No more pitching, no more spamming and only true connections. Ah, in a perfect world right!

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44 Praveen Rajarao Twitter: brpraveen August 13, 2012 at 3:16 PM

I can only imagine how many requests you would be getting every minute of the day and of course it doesnt make matters any easy with the spams and adverts.

If i were in your place, I would have come up with a similar article for sure

I am not there yet, not many requests or spams coming over (thank god??).

45 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 3:35 PM: Hey Praveen,

I actually don’t receive a lot of spam on my wall because I do go through the people who want to be my friend. If someone does do that I’ll contact them first and give them an opportunity because a lot of accounts have been hacked and most of the people I’m friends with would never spam me like that. Now sending me a message is another thing. You don’t have to be friends to get spam. Yuck!

I haven’t counted the number of friend requests I have sitting there Praveen but I continue to ignore them unless someone emails me letting me know they’ve sent me a request. I also hate being added to groups without my permission. I’ll leave just because of that.

I hope you don’t get to that point Praveen. It’s much nicer that way.

~Adrienne

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46 Michael Belk Twitter: IssuesEthical August 13, 2012 at 3:28 PM

Wow Adrienne, that post was to the point and great. There is a way to tell people what is good for them without offending anyone.

You did all it takes and if people do not realize they are doing it wrong then you are talking to the wrong person anyway.

I appreciate a straight voice. thanks

47 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 3:37 PM: Hi Michael,

Thank you, glad you enjoyed my approach on this subject.

My intention is never to offend anyone or upset them in any way. I know a lot of people don’t know any better so I do hope that I come across as wanting to be helpful then rude.

I do hope they’ll at least listen to what I’m sharing and then they may be able to take a step back and realize that what they’re doing just isn’t working.

Thanks Michael, I appreciate your comment.

~Adrienne

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48 Jan Bierens Twitter: JanBierens August 13, 2012 at 3:29 PM

Social Networking is an art. Socializing is interacting with people. I believe it’s a good start to use your ‘real name and picture’. That’s why I don’t have any problems sharing the things I post on the internet. If I don’t want it to be public, it does not belong on the internet.
I am guilty of a few counts. I am ‘a bit’ of a spammer sometimes on Twitter. I spam ‘a bit’ on Facebook, but only from my blogs Facebook page. I do schedule posts sometimes. All that has a few reasons.
I work a full day job and I have a social life. That leaves me two to four hours a day to ‘Socialize’. Therefor I cut down a bit on the social media platforms I am using. Twitter for socializing, Google+ for fun and a ‘brand page’, Facebook for private contacts like family and co-workers and my ‘fanpage’ for my blog and Marketmesuite for scheduled tweets and posts. It still takes up a big part of my ‘blogging’ time, the thing I should do in the first place.
I am a little bit impatient by nature and I want the things I want now. I’m not looking for instant success, because that is never going to happen.
Some very useful tips you posted there, Adrienne. Like I said to begin with: I’m guilty on a few counts. One thing I always stated is, I’m not here for the money. Not receiving or paying.

49 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 3:50 PM: Hi Jan,

I remember people telling me to watch what you say online because it can come back to bite you. Well, I’ve never said anything online that I regret. Maybe some stupid mistakes I made when I first joined but those were lessons we all have to learn.

I think sharing your own blog posts are good as long as you don’t overdo it. You definitely want more people sharing your content then the other way around.

I know that if you do work a full-time job then you may not have as many hours in the day to get everything accomplished that you would like.

I’ve always been inpatient Jan but I sure have gotten better over the years. Some areas I haven’t done as well while the others I’ve vastly improved. That’s a very good thing too.

Thank you for your honesty Jan, I really appreciate it and that you shared that with me. You’re a stand up guy!

~Adrienne

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50 Hajra Twitter: hajraks August 13, 2012 at 4:36 PM

Seems like some people just don’t learn eh?

There are so many things in social media that might get a little too much. I have this blogger I really like, but the messages they keep sending about their affiliates to getting too much. Really, if I am of any kind of help to you, then I am more than ready to help – ask me to vote, to comment, to tweet, to share and I will do it. But if someone keeps telling me that I should buy, and use their affiliates then it gets too much. Sometimes I might be interested, but most of the times I am not. They should understand their audience.

Some very basic, yet overlooked points mentioned here!

Hope you are having a good day!

51 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 4:56 PM

Nope, they sure don’t Hajra!

I would have to say something Hajra but I wouldn’t come across in a bad way. Like maybe this person doesn’t realize that he/she hasn’t taken the time to really get to know how this all works. A lot of people don’t so they’re doing what they were taught and it isn’t always the right way as we all know.

These basic points are ones we really should be paying attention to, you’re right. I sure hope that these will be helpful for some.

Thanks for visiting and hope you have a great week.

~Adrienne

52 Hajra Twitter: hajraks August 13, 2012 at 5:11 PM

That is another problem. I am not pointing fingers, but there really aren’t some nice “gurus” around. And what these self branded social media “experts” don’t realize is how they are harming and influencing others way of being social..

53 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 5:19 PM: I so agree with you Hajra because I’ve learned from some that I “thought” were top notch and wasted many a month doing the wrong things. I had no idea though because I thought I was learning from the best. It’s so darn sad really…

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54 Colleen Kelly Twitter: ColleenFKelly August 13, 2012 at 5:06 PM

Hey Adrienne,

I like this post. You know what’s funny. These could be obvious things but it’s those that we seem to either forget or slack off on. I will be the first to say I know I need to work on connecting more. Visiting more blogs has been on my list for a while. Getting your report has too. No reason I haven’t except for telling myself I will do it after I do something else and then you forget. There always seems to 100 things I’m doing at once. lol But I’ll take care of that today!. You are so right. About of all it, of course..
I want to say thanks for all the support you have given me since I started blogging . It means so much. One cool chick lol (you not me) lol

55 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 5:17 PM: Hey Colleen,

Thank you, glad you liked this one and I agree. A lot of this is just common sense yet a lot of people either don’t have it or are taught other ways of doing things and they just take their word that it’s the right way.

You’ll do what’s right for you when the time comes so only you can be the judge of that. I just think you have a lot to share and if you want more people to read your posts then you have to get yourself out in front of more people.

Thanks Colleen, I appreciate that. Big time!

~Adrienne

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56 Colleen Kelly Twitter: ColleenFKelly August 13, 2012 at 5:09 PM

Sorry forgot to leave my Twitter name.. Hope I didn’t mess anything up for you. See, hurry hurry lol

57 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 5:17 PM: No mess ups at all and I think it went in the first time. Either way, we’ve got it now.

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58 Ruth Zive Twitter: rzive August 13, 2012 at 6:09 PM

So you know content is my thing…I can’t help but add another ‘mistake’ to your list. If you don’t fuel your efforts on social media with meaningful, easy-to-consume content, you are making a big mistake. Just my 2 cents .

59 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:43 PM: Good point Ruth, thanks for adding that one.

Hope you’re doing well!

~Adrienne

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60 Josh Twitter: thejoshuawilner August 13, 2012 at 8:09 PM

I try hard to treat the online crowd the same way I treat people in person. It doesn’t matter to me if I can see their face or not, they are people.

Relationships are the difference between making it and failure or so I think.

61 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:49 PM: Hi Josh,

My motto is treat people the way you want to be treated. I’m here to build relationships with others so let’s connect. Let’s take the time to get to know one another because trust me, that’s the only way we’re going to make it work.

I agree, relationships really are the difference. Maybe if enough people hear it they’ll believe it.

~Adrienne

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62 Ryan Biddulph Twitter: RyanBiddulph August 13, 2012 at 8:19 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Simple and powerful rules here. So easy to follow, too. Commit to being social. Commit to making friends. Toss your opportunity-pushing tendencies out the door. You WILL prosper. Awesome tips here.

Engage. Comment. Share. Repeat. Easy formula. Expands your presence FAST. But you need to patiently engage, share and comment, and most people never do this, or do it for like 1 or 2 days. Doesn’t work that way.

Comment and Share for hours each day. Build your network. Prosper.

Thanks!

Ryan

63 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:51 PM: Hi Ryan,

Fabulous tips all summed up in this one comment. Engage, comment, share and repeat. It really is that simple and can really help you build up a relationship with others because they will be appreciative that you took the time. They can’t help but want to know more about you. Especially if they start seeing you everywhere.

I love it, thanks Ryan.

~Adrienne

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64 Theodore.N Twitter: Nwangenetheodor August 13, 2012 at 8:20 PM

I love this tips Adrienne, i have also made some of the mistakes you outlined here before although i was just starting out then. You just shared a very awesome article here and I’m glad i discovered your blog. I will bookmak it now because i like what i see.

Thanks for sharing, will be back

65 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 13, 2012 at 9:55 PM: Hi Theodore,

Welcome to my blog and glad you enjoyed this post as well as my tips.

I made some of these very mistakes myself in the beginning as well Theodore so if I can help more newbies more away from these then my work here is done.

Glad you’ll be back to visit and hope we’ll see more of you.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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66 Herbert Twitter: bxunet August 13, 2012 at 11:00 PM

One of my most hated stuff are those people who keeps on adding people to their friends list though they didnt know a single info about the person they are adding

67 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 9:04 AM

That is definitely one that I don’t like either Herbert. At least let me know why you want to connect because if you don’t I’m just going to ignore you.

Thanks for sharing.

~Adrienne

68 Herbert Twitter: bxunet August 15, 2012 at 7:02 AM

Exactly, that’s the usual question I asked every time someone whom I don’t know adds me. Most of the time, they added you because they want something from you, perhaps liking their pages or something

69 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 15, 2012 at 8:20 AM: I certainly don’t mind helping people out Herbert but only if they are interested in building that relationship with me first.

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70 sherman smith Twitter: sks_success75 August 13, 2012 at 11:11 PM

Hey Adrienne,

I don’t know if you noticed on my blog, but I also stress this a lot. I was on the other side of the wall, spamming people and just adding people to my friends. I found out that it really didn’t work and it took me a while to figure it out LOL. But you learn as you go. Thanks for the big reminder!

Sherman

71 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 9:07 AM: Hi Sherman,

I never spammed anyone but I definitely just added people right and left way back when. But, I always sent a message just letting them know I would like to connect. That I’ve always done but like you, I soon learned that these people could care less about me or what I share so I started deleting everyone. I’m now down to just a little over a thousand and every time someone has a birthday, if we haven’t connected at all I delete them. So, I’m still weeding through people.

Thanks for sharing that Sherman. I know that anything online is a learning experience for us all. At least we’re big enough to admit our mistakes right!

~Adrienne

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72 Sue Price Twitter: suejprice August 14, 2012 at 12:37 AM

Hi Adrienne

I think many of us are annoyed at the people who spam links. Oh and the no gravatar is annoying. I think some people just do not know what they are.
When I was first learning about Social Media I remember the advice to treat it like you would a friends barbecue. You would not go in there and start pitching your business so treat social media that same way.
People just need to look at the amount of comments here to know engaging works Adrienne. You have done it very well my friend and are an example for everyone.
Hope your unpacking is happening without stress

Sue

73 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 9:15 AM: Hi Sue,

Spamming links is definitely annoying and a big lesson I hope everyone has learned with the recent Empower Network fiasco.

Ah, you were taught to treat it like going to a barbecue. I was taught to treat it like you’re going to a party and meeting people for the first time. How would you approach people and what would you say! Great examples.

You’re right Sue, the engaging definitely works. People enjoy getting to know others and sharing their thoughts.

Thanks for that, the unpacking is slowing happening. She’s going through paperwork mostly now that I can’t really help her with so it’s almost done. We have to do some stuff this afternoon for her so I think once we get everything switched it will all fall into place.

Enjoy your week Sue and thanks again.

~Adrienne

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74 Aditya August 14, 2012 at 4:13 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Day by day you are getting more straight forward on telling all of us about the do’s and Dont’s before jumping on your blog and on social media sites.And i appreciate you for this.

Its better to be simple and straight in expressing your views rather than making ambiguous replies.I know there is friend request from all over the world that hits your account everyday and to make that not happen in mass amount its a good step to let people know about the rules and regulations on your blog.

Although these media sites are for socializing but it doesn’t mean that you have to get connected to everyone who tries to connect with you.You cannot be a friend to everyone in this planet.

75 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 9:18 AM: Hi Aditya,

I’ve been telling it like it is for years Aditya but what I always tell people is that it’s my opinion and mine alone. No one has to listen to me or take my advice, that’s totally up to them. These are just things I’ve learned as I’ve gone along which I believe will benefit others.

You are right, not everyone will get along or even like each other. The least you can do is give each other that opportunity but it starts with a conversation, not just a friend request only. That is, not unless that’s how you prefer it!

Thanks for the comment!

~Adrienne

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76 Simmeon Twitter: ABloggers August 14, 2012 at 6:36 AM

Hey Adrienne,

I just bought QueenOfTheBrokenRecord.com for you, how can I transfer it to you?
(I’m just kidding around)

“You want people to remember you across all the other social sites.”

Not only the people that don’t have a gravatar, (It’s simple and takes 5 mins, ok well 2mins).
I almost feel that the gravatar that we choose, is with us for eternity.

You know people get used to seeing a certain image by our comments and post, and if we change it I think it can be just as disastrous as not using one, what do you think?

77 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 9:21 AM: Hey Simmeon,

That’s too funny, I love that… Thanks!

I don’t think changing it is drastic as long as it’s still you and a clear head shot that everyone will notice. Like my photo is two years old now. Although I still pretty much look the same they need to be updated I believe. They definitely need to look like the real you but I just think having a different photo for your blog and a different one for Twitter and then a different one for Facebook, etc. is a little much. Just have the same one all across the sites that’s all.

Thanks for commenting as always. Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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78 Jane Twitter: problogsuccess August 14, 2012 at 9:24 AM

Spam is just so everywhere that we can’t escape it Adrienne, lol. Yep, the fine line between building relationships and spamming has disappeared a while ago. And social media has emerged to be the “right” media to fool people by spamming them under the impression of making connections

79 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 9:28 AM: What a sad fact Jane! This is why I don’t just accept friend requests that come to me on some of the social sites and I don’t add everyone back on Google+. I’m tired of being sent all this junk without these people even caring one darn thing about who I am and what I’m here for. Connections are the keys to moving forward in your business so for those who ignore it and continue to treat people in this way are the ones who will drop off the face of the online world in a short record of time.

Thanks Jane, I appreciate you sharing that. I hope you’re enjoying your week.

~Adrienne

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80 Sonia Twitter: LogAllot August 14, 2012 at 11:20 AM

I am a stickler for this subject myself. When people email me asking me to do stuff for them and I don’t even know them, I tend to wonder how people can be that bold. I love it when someone reaches out to say hello or chats about anything other than blogging. Of course I will keep things at a minimum, but I want people to know I am human also. There are some I see that just seem like robots. All they do is post their own content and never shares anything from anyone else. To me that is just plain wrong because when you pay-it-forward it always comes back around. People want to know you support them, and appreciate their work. Good post girl…sorry been MIA lately…finalizing trade show stuff for my day job!

81 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 11:57 AM: Hey Sonia,

I often wonder the same thing. I know that we preach to ask for help if you need it but I usually will use the example if you’re on someone’s blog and want to know what plug-in their using for something in particular then ask them. Not ask them for favors when you’ve never taken the time to get to know them before. I mean really!

I think that a lot of people aren’t being taught what to do because this is the way to make money. Or this is the way you get more people to your site but sharing your stuff. I mean can people really still teach that and actually have results? I’d love to meet them.

I appreciate your comment Sonia and just always happy to see you. You don’t work yourself too hard okay!

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82 Mys Palmer Twitter: myspalmer August 14, 2012 at 11:46 AM

Two for two Adrienne you’re nailing these topics. I especially love the tip regarding comments. I cant stand leaving a comment on a post only for it to go completely unacknowledged only to have the blogger respond the comment directly after mine. Ugh! We all know you don’t suffer from that Ms. Smith which is why its soo easy engage with your blog. Thanks again for the insights Adrienne and enjoy your week!

83 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 12:01 PM: Hey Mys,

Yeah, I kind of got on a roll wouldn’t you agree!

That’s just rude Mys for someone to comment and then it not get replied to but actually ignored. I really have no idea what’s wrong with some of these bloggers but I hope that someway somehow they learn that’s not okay.

I’m sure there are some of mine that have been ignored but if they don’t have the plug-in that sends me an email letting me know they did reply then I never go back to that post to see. Hey, I’m busy ya know!

You have an awesome week yourself young lady. I most certainly will.

~Adrienne

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84 Dan Sumner Twitter: danielsumner August 14, 2012 at 11:48 AM

Hey Adrienne,

Hope you are well

Yes you are right again, being the queen of engagement you should be lol. I agree with Ruth as well about adding easy to consume content as well as building relationships.

I must admit I have been so wrapped up in holidays and the product creation side of IM that I’m not as active as I should be. But no whining, there is only me to blame lol.

Hope you are having a great week Adrienne, and thanks for sharing.

Dan

85 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 12:04 PM: Hey Dan,

How was your vacation? Did you guys have a great time?

As far as blogs are concerned, content is still king because without it no one would drop by so it has to be good no doubt. But after that, build you some relationships guys. That’s what’s going to keep everything alive and well.

You are just one person Dan and it’s hard to be everywhere. I so get that. Just happy to hear you’re doing okay and you’ve got more exciting things going on. I love hearing that.

You have an awesome week and things are fabulous over here. My Mom got moved this past weekend so the majority of that is behind us now. Yey!!!

~Adrienne

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86 Dan Sumner Twitter: danielsumner August 14, 2012 at 12:11 PM

Hey Adrienne,

I had a great time, thank you for asking

Glad your Mom got moved in ok that’s great news.

I do have a lot going on at the moment. It’s that same old story of too much to do and not enough time to do it in. I have 50 videos to do next week, I just hope I can get them done in the time frame I have set.

Anyway enough about me. Great posts as usual Adrienne thank you.

87 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 12:32 PM: Hey Dan,

Ah, I love hearing that. That’s what holidays should be about. Relaxing, having fun and enjoying yourself. You need that now that you’re back at it. Wow, 50 videos I feel for ya. I know how it was putting together my training site and I thought I would never finish. I’ll wish you the best of luck with that and I have no doubt it will be awesome.

Yep, so glad Mom is moved. Man, I’m way too old for that now and in the heat of the summer too. Oh well, now on to better things.

Thanks Dan!

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88 Kelvin Myles Twitter: kelvinpmyles August 14, 2012 at 12:19 PM

Wow Adrienne, you’re really making some great posts. I really used to hate social media and often said I’d eat my hat before becoming a Twit or joining Facebook.

The hat is now long digested!!! I’ve finally joined the social media networks and can relate to everything you say here – if you want to be my friend tell me why and engage with me or don’t bother. I haven’t quite ‘got’ twitter yet as I tend to connect with people through other mediums but I’m working on it.

That being said isn’t it a great feeling when you do connect properly with like minded people? It has certainly broadened my horizons.

Chat soon,

Kelvin

89 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 12:36 PM: Thanks Kelvin, I just have my moments and feel there are some things I just need to share. I love to help people move in the right direction so any tips I give I do hope my readers will find useful.

You know Kelvin, it really doesn’t take much for people to send a message and say hey I saw you’re a dog lover and so am I. What kind of dog do you have, etc. You KNOW I’m going to remember that person because they took the time to read my profile you know. Those are the people who will stick out to me, not those here just for the numbers.

If you ever need help with Twitter you just let me know. It’s really pretty easy once you understand how to use it and trust me, you’ll have it down in no time at all.

It makes a huge difference when you connect with the right people. That I will definitely agree. Man, that little extra time sure is worth it.

Thanks Kelvin and see you this evening.

~Adrienne

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90 Donna Merrill Twitter: donna_tribe August 14, 2012 at 12:59 PM

Hey Adrienne

My sentiments EXACTLY! You have a very strong message here and one to be considered by anyone on the social platforms.
One of my pet peeves is what you mentioned bout Facebook friends …. If you want to be friends with me, tell me why. I get too many every day. When I reach out to someone on Facebook to be friends with, I will ALWAYS message them and tell them why. It is usually because I’m in a tribe or group and want to syndicate with them.

Also, those gravatars…I’ve mentioned it too time and time again that if you don’t have a gravatar you will not get on my blog. (Unless I know that person and they are revamping, or starting something new)
Ohhh and those spamming with links…fully on the same page with you. Message me to ask and I’ll listen. I may say yes or no, but it gets one further to ask if they can tell you why they want to tell you about what their latest and greatest is. This gives me the opportunity to say no, or hear them out and say…not now but I can pass it on to some friends who are interested. Which sometimes I do.
There are too many things going on, as we all know, and we have to pick our projects out, finish them, AND THEN step into the next deal. I have my master plan of what I want to do AFTER I finish my project. So I’m open to opportunities from my trusted friends. OK I’ll stop ranting….

Bottom line Adrienne is B R A V O

DONNA

91 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 5:40 PM: Hey Donna,

I agree with you and even though I do connect with people I’ve met online either through blogging or some type of group I always send them a message letting them know who I am and why I’m sending them a friend request. To me it’s just common courtesy. There are so many people still just after the numbers and I’m not interested in being another one.

I think people aren’t aware of what their brand can do for them so not putting up a gravatar is really something everyone should start with.

I agree with you about the messages. If I’ve made that connection with you and you want to tell me about something then I’ll listen. If I haven’t made that connection with you and you tell me anyway, it’s spam. It doesn’t get much clearer then that.

I hear ya about those projects. I know a lot of people told me about one in particular but since you and I had that relationship and you approached me about it then I took notice. See how easy that was! Oh yeah, that’s what I’m talking about.

I appreciate you sharing this with me Donna and thanks so much. Glad you approve of my simi-ranting…

~Adrienne

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92 Sarah Harvey Twitter: SPMSarah August 14, 2012 at 1:23 PM

Hi Adrienne.
I just recently switched my performance management business website from a static website to a WordPress blog. Wow, what a lot I have to take in
I really am at the begining of my blogging and social media journey but I can already see the benefits of engaging properly. Relationships are very important in an offline business so it makes sense that they would be just as important online.

93 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 5:42 PM: Hi Sarah,

Well congratulations for the switch and I’m thrilled that you’ve come over to a blog. I have a feeling you’re really going to enjoy the connections with others.

Look at it this way Sarah, you’re starting fresh so you can learn some of this now and not make the same mistakes so many are making. You have a fresh new start.

Thank you for sharing and so glad you stopped by today and shared your thoughts with me.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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94 Suzanne Glathar Twitter: susanglathar August 14, 2012 at 1:29 PM

Adrienne
That was a very good post for me to apply for myself. I don’t spend enough time connecting with people and I going to get busy now!

95 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 14, 2012 at 5:43 PM: Hi Suzanne,

I’m glad you enjoyed the post and relationships are crucial and trust me, you’ll be so happy that you did.

Hope to see you later.

~Adrienne

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96 Mary Stephenson Twitter: maryjstephenson August 14, 2012 at 6:00 PM: Hi Suzanne

I would love to read your post but due to the “Share” widget on the left side I can’t see everything. I was going to contact you, but couldn’t see the information to do that either.
Just thought you might want to know.

Mary

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97 Raaj Trambadia Twitter: raajtram August 14, 2012 at 11:10 PM

“Adrienne proves what she always says” – Hey Adrienne…remember, you mentioned on in a comment on my blog that for you, it’s mostly about building relationships? I then started reading more from your blog…went through many…many comments and became sure that you’re not one of the spammers that write for the sake to write a comment!

Would love to have a great relationship with you! Let’s have a cup of coffee on Twiiter! (Like..you drink from your end…and I from mine!). I’m sure that I’ll soon add you up on my “Inspirations List” (there ain’t no list, but I just know the names!)

Best Regards

98 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 15, 2012 at 8:18 AM: Hi Raaj,

I most definitely remember because I say that pretty much everywhere I go. People need to leave a genuine comment if they want to be taken seriously. Glad you are learning this same lesson.

Well, I don’t spend a lot of time on Twitter but feel free to tweet me anytime. I answer all my tweets. The other thing is I’m not a coffee drinker so will have to toast to you with water on my end Raaj!

I appreciate your comment, thank you so very much. You enjoy your week okay!

~Adrienne

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99 Declan Twitter: taught2earn August 15, 2012 at 7:59 AM

It’s definitely a very difficult concept for many people out there to actually get, “connect before you promote.” I don’t know how many comments I have to delete from my Facebook page every single day because of spammers. It’s quite sad that these people spend so much of their time wasted. I mean, to actually spend a little time each day getting to know people, conversing with them and building a relationship, will yield such fantastic results for your business in the long run.

Great post Adrienne.

100 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 15, 2012 at 8:23 AM: Hi Declan,

It’s funny but I think I may have only had two people spam my Facebook page so far. Wow, I must be just lucky so far. But you’re right, it’s so annoying. I wish they would get this concept but like I said, we live in a society where people want things right now. That takes too long for them. Ah, they’ll learn the hard way.

Thank you for your comment Declan.

~Adrienne

P.S. You need to get your gravatar set up so people can connect with you on a more personal level. Hope to see that the next time.

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101 Denise Twitter: denisedesigns August 15, 2012 at 9:42 AM

I admit, I’m not that great at social media. That’s partly why I stopped using facebook. I deleted my fb, then set up a new one, but I don’t use it really or network with it. I just felt like I was “doing it wrong”. I think I’m a little shy and when I become extroverted, it’s not received the way I expected it to. So I go through spurts of heavy socializing and then I back off of social media for a while because I get burnt out. But, you’re right on all counts here.. if you’re going to use social media… socialize.

102 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 15, 2012 at 9:54 AM: Hey Denise,

Look at Facebook as a way to meet some new people. People who are interested in what you’re interested in. You just send them a message, let them know what you two have in common and just start up a friendship. They’ll eventually ask what you do. They’ll either be interested or they won’t. It’s really that simple. When you make those connections they’ll be willing to help you later down the road. It’s not a quick fix sort of thing but so worth it when you’re building a business online. Friends love to help friends. Just look at it that way.

I would just say don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with but with over 700 million users, it’s definitely worth being a part of.

Thanks Denise, you have an awesome day!

~Adrienne

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103 Christine Brady Twitter: christinejbrady August 15, 2012 at 10:22 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Nice post!

I must say, it seems like with social media, people have lost the politeness that comes with face to face interactions. Rudeness is never acceptable.

Many of the things you pointed out go back to common courtesy. Using courtesy when interacting is crucial, even from behind a computer screen.

Thanks for sharing and the great reminders!

~Christine

104 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 15, 2012 at 10:38 AM: Hi Christine,

Ah, what ever happened to good old common courtesy! My Dad worked out of the house so we were taught manners very early in life. Being respectful of others and being kind. Common courtesy was just part of it. Whether you’re meeting them in person or online it should all be handled the same.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me Christine. Hope you’re enjoying your week.

~Adrienne

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105 Romy Singh Twitter: geekywriters August 15, 2012 at 12:45 PM

Hello Adrienne,

The mindset of spammers is: If we show up and irritate you long enough, eventually you’ll pay attention.

This works decades ago. Like If we bought magazine, newspaper and you are their, you made enough noise, you would get noticed.

But now this don’t works.

If you irritate us, if you are making too much noise then we have options of unfriend, unfollow, delete.

Now, if you want to get attention then you’ve to build relationship, you’ve to say what we want to hear, you’ve to do what we like. And that’s the only way.

106 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 15, 2012 at 4:14 PM: Hi Romy,

Spammers never got my attention, I just deleted them and moved on but I see what you’re saying here. It’s best to build those relationships becaue in the end that’s what will hold up in the long run.

I appreciate you sharing your views. Thanks so much for your comment.

~Adrienne

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107 Joe August 15, 2012 at 4:57 PM

Hello Adrienne,

This is a real good topic for me today. I just got a message from a REAL friend on Facebook that told me that they may have to delete me if they couldn’t figure out how to remove all of my business promotions off of their news feeds. I was a little shocked being that I have known this person for years. I was a HUGE wake up call. I am trying to figure out better ways to use my time on facebook being that if my really good friend is annoyed by my numerous post, what are the people saying that barley know me.

Thanks for the post.

108 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 15, 2012 at 9:13 PM: Hey Joe,

Oh no, you’re promoting your business on Facebook? Not good Joe, that’s a no no.

Facebook is a social networking site. That means it’s about people connecting with people. The only place you should be sharing about your business is on your Fan Page but even there you should be sharing more information that will help your fans with what they want to know. You don’t want to just bombard everyone with what “you do”. This isn’t about you, it’s about your fans, followers, readers and friends.

The only time you should be promoting about your business is through paid advertising because those people are searching for what you have to offer.

If you’d like more advice about this topic feel free to email me and we can have a conversation if you’d like.

Hope that was helpful.

~Adrienne

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109 Jamella Biegel Twitter: mel8730 August 16, 2012 at 7:26 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Sorry for getting here so late. This hasn’t been the best of weeks and I’m a bit off track.

Anyway, the spammers on Facebook have got to go! I really don’t like it when someone spams my wall. I think that is just rude. Do they really think I’m going to take a look at something they’ve put on my wall, just because it’s there? Not going to happen. What is going to happen is deleting the post, and in some cases, unfriending that person.

I am not very social on Twitter and need to work on that. I share posts that I read, and thank people when they share mine, but that’s it. Good idea to start conversations and start building relationships. Thanks for that.

I didn’t do a post this week, and now I’m realizing how much I miss interacting with my readers. This really is about relationship building. If someone doesn’t get that, then they are completely missing the point.

110 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 16, 2012 at 9:10 PM: Hi Jamella,

I’m sorry to hear that but hope with tomorrow being Friday you’ll be easing into the weekend and be able to enjoy yourself. Just happy that you stopped by.

If you continue to mark their stuff as spam then Facebook will eventually delete their account if enough people do that. A hard lesson to learn but sometimes it’s just necessary in this case.

You can always just ask a friend what’s up and how is their day going. Even ask a question and get a conversation going like we do on Facebook. Just fun to interact you know.

Once you get into a routine then I agree, you just miss the interaction. It’s the time to find out what your friends think and connect with them all. I hope that you’re able to get back on track and chalk this up to just one of those weeks.

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111 Oliver Tausend Twitter: luckyoliver70 August 17, 2012 at 1:11 PM

Hi Adrienne,

didn’t we all make these mistakes when we first got started, at least some of them ? The cool part is that we receive feedback and learn and grow as we go. At least, most people learn from feedback, don’t they ?

A word on being nice: My adage is that one can’t be too nice on social media due to the fact that written words can be misinterpreted very easily.

Thanks for sharing your insights.

Be blessed

Oliver

112 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 17, 2012 at 3:28 PM: Hi Oliver,

I know I did which is why I like to point out that we are all guilty so when we know better, we do better. I agree, I’m so glad someone pointed this out to me. Can you imagine had I continued on! I definitely wouldn’t be where I am today.

Written and verbal can be misinterpreted Oliver. It happens to me all the time. I think we just have those people who enjoy taking advantage of others or using their kindness for their own good.

I appreciate your insights on this topic Oliver and hope you’re doing well.

~Adrienne

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113 Stacy Twitter: growwithstacy August 17, 2012 at 4:30 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Like Oliver said many of us have made a lot of mistakes especially when first on social media. I’ve seen a lot and I think that a lot of it stems from the fact that a lot of people feel that the online world is less real so they do things that they would not do in a real life public place.

You are a great example of how to act in social media settings. You are truly a star! I’m glad that we have been able to connect!

Stacy

114 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 17, 2012 at 5:21 PM: Hi Stacy,

I can definitely understand that Stacy because when you’re sitting over here in your own little world and start connecting with people you’re only thinking about that one person. It’s hard to comprehend millions of people seeing what you two have been chatting about. Not that they will but I think you understand what I’m saying. We definitely aren’t movie stars where everyone wants to see our stuff but we just also aren’t aware of how many people actually do.

Thank you Stacy, I really appreciate that. That’s so nice of you to say and I hope I’m leading by example.

Enjoy your weekend.

~Adrienne

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115 Ruth P Twitter: internet_dream August 17, 2012 at 9:16 PM

It took me so long to realise that relationships are key to all kinds of business, so this is what I’m working on. It’s clear you know what you’re talking about. I also noticed the first time I commented here that you took the time to respond. When you get so many comments and still do that, it makes a lot of difference. The only other mistake I would add is not using social media consistently. For example, sometimes I’m on Twitter so much it takes away from my other work, but then I also go days without logging in. I think it works best if I can consistently login and start conversations for a few minutes a day without it taking over.

116 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 18, 2012 at 3:22 PM: Hey Ruth,

I agree with you Ruth, I didn’t quite understand how all of this worked either. It was a learning process but once you “get it” then you know what needs to be done.

I would say to visit other blogs and comment consistently even if you only take 30 minutes a day to do it. That helps to connect with others and then they’ll share your content and you can pop over to Twitter and Facebook and just make those connections.

I make a point of responding to all my comments because I appreciate everyone who stops by my blog and takes the time to read my posts as well as comment. So thank you so much for doing that as well.

Just being consistent will make a huge difference.

Hope you’re enjoying your weekend.

~Adrienne

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117 Lokesh Twitter: guitarkiddd August 19, 2012 at 3:25 AM

Who in the world can be better than you in building social relationships online..
I wish I was like you.
Having so much of gravity that people crave to read your posts..great..
But seriously I can’t manage my time..Its too difficult for me to build a strong tie up with my readers..

118 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 19, 2012 at 11:30 AM: Oh, there are plenty of people who are a lot better than I am Lokesh. A lot of them though have made their success and are now doing different things.

All you have to do is connect with people and build that relationship. They’ll soon want to support you and continue to learn from you so they’ll stop by on a regular basis. That’s usually how this works. Don’t say you “can’t” do anything. You’re just hindering yourself. You can do anything you put your mind to. Trust me on that one.

~Adrienne

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119 Carol Lynn Twitter: carollynnrivera August 20, 2012 at 5:02 PM

Exactly! Wise advice from someone who knows how it’s done.

You made me think of a recent friend request. I wish people would send a message but they never do! So recently I had 4 requests all at once and I recognized 3 of them from a blog group so I figured the 4th one must also be part of that group and I accepted them all. Next thing I know, I’m getting this long note from someone I never met who is telling me all about how great it is to be in love and calling me “dear” and all these creepy things. UNFRIEND!! People are so weird.

Again, you know how to tell it like it is and make sure people get on board! I hope this is a lesson to all those people who write love letters to strangers, lol!

120 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 20, 2012 at 5:09 PM

I may accept blogging acquaintances that send me requests without a message but everyone else I just ignore.

I already get all those creepy love letters sent to my “other” email in Facebook. Like I’m that desperate that I would really respond! Do I say on my profile that I’m looking for love? That really just makes me wonder what’s wrong with these people. I know that dating is huge on Facebook but read their profile and find out if that’s why they are here. Trust me, not every single person on Facebook is interested in meeting total strangers who share their undying love to someone they’ve never even spoke to.

Thanks Carol, sorry you get all those too.

~Adrienne

121 Mary Stephenson Twitter: maryjstephenson August 20, 2012 at 8:26 PM

Okay I don’t mean to laugh, but that struck me funny. I got this message on Facebook from this nice lonely gentleman (maybe, but I am going to give him the benefit anyways.) He had been hurt at love and had seen my picture and wanted to get to know me…didn’t want to play any games. My first thoughts…dang…didn’t I put I was married on my profile. Went and checked it out, yep, sure enough I did! So, what he didn’t catch that, it isn’t like it was hidden. There is some not so bright individuals out there, for sure.

Mary

122 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 20, 2012 at 10:29 PM: I know what you mean Mary. I have a friend in Dallas who happens to be married to a childhood friend of mine for the past 10 years and she has guys hitting on her all the time. Hello!!! She’s married people, that’s just not right so whatever kind of guy thinks that’s okay is not someone I would even want to have a conversation with. What’s wrong with these people! lol…

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123 akhilendra Twitter: akhilendra1 August 21, 2012 at 6:58 AM

i m sure it would be hard for you to go through each and every friend request and if you don’t them personally, it’s better to ignore them. And i wonder why these people don’t stop. They assume that if they send 100 invitations, at least few of them will accept and eventually they will be able to sell them their stuff.

Thanks a lot for putting this together.

124 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 21, 2012 at 8:35 AM: Hi Akhilendra,

Thank you for your comment and for stopping by today. Always nice to see a new face, well almost. You need to get that gravatar set up so people can see who they are having a conversation with. It’s very important if you’re building a brand.

I don’t as many friend requests as I use to but I still get them every single day. People who know me I guess don’t think it’s important and those who don’t think I’ll just accept. Little do either of them know that doesn’t fly with me. If they ever come back and want to know why I haven’t accepted their friendship, I’ll direct them to this post.

Thanks for sharing that and enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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125 Italina Twitter: ItalinaK August 23, 2012 at 12:42 AM

When people I don’t know send me a friend request, I ALWAYS send them a message saying “Hi” before accepting. If they respond, we message back and forth a few times and I usually accept them. But if they don’t even bother to respond, I don’t bother to accept. Decline

126 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 23, 2012 at 8:33 AM: That’s very nice of you Italina… I use to do that but I just don’t have the time anymore. I have a feeling that if they want to be friends bad enough then they’ll keep sending those requests and then possible email me later on. I guess most people just don’t realize the proper way to connect with others.

Thanks for sharing your views on that and welcome to my blog. Always nice to see a new face and hear their views.

Enjoy your day!

~Adrienne

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127 Stanley Rao August 23, 2012 at 7:03 AM

I have enjoyed reading your post, the post has been brought out in a great way with all the valuable information and clear understanding on the social media. when it comes to social media i have always noticed that the even if you dont accept the friend request they still continue sending it to you. In that way i feel its no use ignoring them

128 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 23, 2012 at 8:37 AM: Hi Stanley and welcome. Happy to hear you enjoyed reading this post.

It’s so easy to hit delete and I have no problem doing that at all. If they can’t learn how to build relationships with people then I’m not interested in them just being on my “list”. To me that’s all they want. If they knew how to connect they would have sent the message.

Thanks for sharing your opinion on this, I appreciate hearing your thoughts.

Enjoy your day!

~Adrienne

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129 Warren Twitter: plrnetmarketing August 26, 2012 at 8:44 AM

It’s also a good idea to get at least a basic understanding of the social platform you’re on, and the rules or etiquette that surround it. I love jumping in feet first, but I do try and read up on the system before I do so that I don’t step on everyone’s toes, or tick everyone off.

130 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 August 26, 2012 at 11:07 AM: I agree Warren, it does help to understand the platform you’re on before jumping in but like you, I usually just go for it and then I start learning. I can’t help myself, I just want to enjoy it. So far though I haven’t gotten into any trouble. Yay!!!

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131 Jena Isle Twitter: JenaIsle October 21, 2012 at 5:47 PM

Oh God, Adrienne, I’ve “spammed” you with my request. Do forgive me. I find your site truly interesting, and I’m glad I decided to “spam” you, or I would have not been able to visit your blog. Your posts are written well, and the topics are interesting, like this one. I can’t help but comment.

I like what you said that:

“Trust goes a very long way in this industry.”

Indeed, when a trusted online friend says to me, “It works” I would believe it. Unlike with other users, I will have to need proof before believing. He does not ask us to “buy” any of his products but we volunteer to buy or use them, because we trusted him.

Online integrity is very important for one to succeed in any online undertaking, and “word-by-mouth” is still the best advertisement.

Thanks for this post. It reminds everyone how we should behave online.

132 Adrienne Twitter: adriennesmith40 October 21, 2012 at 8:16 PM: You haven’t spammed me at all Jena, not at all. I just read your other comment on my post and it was very refreshing, thank you.

I have a lot of things here that I share with others about what I have learned so I do hope that you’ll stick around for a bit and enjoy more. If you want to know about it I’m pretty sure I’ve written a post about it. If not then I can!

I agree with you Jena which is why I’m a huge supporter of building relationships online and I do my best to teach others how to make those connections as well. It never hurts to have too many friends and then if they should need something that you’re promoting you know they’ll get it from you first. Only because they want to support you.

I appreciate your comment, thank you so very much for stopping by today. It’s been a pleasure and I do hope to see you again soon.

Enjoy your week.

~Adrienne

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