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Stop Obsessing About It And Do It Anyway

October 17, 2011 | By Adrienne Smith

Stop Obsessing About It And Do It AnywayI did it again!!!

Yep, I caught myself obsessing over some information I’ve been working on and all of a sudden I just stopped and started laughing at myself.  I told myself some time back that I would stop obsessing about things.  You know, thinking that it has to be perfect before I actually put it out for all the world to see.

I’m not saying to not put any thought into your content or to not want your video to be the best it can be.  That’s not what I’m saying at all.  What I am saying is that in our minds, our material is never good enough.  If we continue to hold ourselves back until it reaches the level of perfection we believe it should be then it might take us six months to get anything published at all.

The Real You

If I have learned anything at all since starting my journey online it’s that you need to just be you.  People love stories and people relate to people.  So just like in this post, I’m sharing with you my own experiences of what I caught myself doing the other day and I have a feeling that a few of you can relate.

This is probably going to make some good conversation in the comment section wouldn’t you agree?  Do all of my posts have to be about teaching you how to do something?  I mean I’m one learning machine but sometimes I just need to be able to express myself or for that matter even tell on myself.  Darn it, and here I was thinking I was perfect.  Okay, you can stop laughing now!!!

People can definitely relate to people right? Wouldn’t you agree that you can relate to someone’s content more when they are sharing their own experiences?  I know for me if I read a post or watch a video and that person is sharing their own experiences then it makes me feel much more relaxed.  What do you know, these people really are human beings.

Sometimes we worry too much with making each post we write perfect or we think the video we just shot didn’t catch our good side. A good bit of the time what we think of our content and our videos, others aren’t thinking the same thing.

What I Have Learned

Most of you guys know that I love to learn.  So when I learn something new I love to share it.  I’ll even write content around some questions I’ve received through email from people because I just figure if they want to know about this then I’m sure others would want to know too.  That’s where I get a lot of my ideas for my posts.

I have stopped obsessing about whether it will be well received or not because I don’t know one blogger out there that everyone loves every single one of their posts.  Some will go over better than others.  You just need to stay true to yourself, share what you think will be the most beneficial to your readers and let it go.  Trust me, if it’s really that horrible and they are your blogging buddies, they’ll let you know.

Okay, I’m Done

You got off scott free with this post.  It’s a little shorter then what I normally write but I had to tell on myself.  I need to be held accountable and who better to do that then you guys!  If I put it all out there for the world to see, I won’t revert back to my old ways.  I’ll be much more aware of what I’m doing and it will be much easier from this point forward.

Have you been this hard on yourself?  Do you obsess over each post or video that you shoot?  I know when we are just starting out we are so hard on ourselves.  It really does get better with time but we are always a work in progress.  At least I would like to think that we are.

Time to let your guard down.  Let me know who else has had to work through this so I won’t feel like the Lone Ranger!!!  Tonto to the rescue, I’m on my way!

See ya later guys and have a wonderful day!

{ 103 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Julie
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October 17, 2011 at 9:12 AM

Hi Andrienne,

When experiences are shared, alot of the time I can relate to them and find myself having a good laugh because I perhaps have done the same thing or had the same experience, just didn’t tell anyone about it. You’re right, one does then see these people are human beings and the best part is – you realise you are part of the same human race and not the dodo you thought you were!

I do agree, our own work is never good enough and if we spend too much time criticising and correcting, it would be months between postings. I have learnt to calm it down since the kids came along, I’ve found a perfectionist has little patience for those who want to learn.

Thanks Adrienne for sharing
Take Care
Julie

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2 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 9:45 AM

Hi Julie,

You know when I first started my blog commenting journey, I would occasionally run across a post where someone was sharing an experience with us and that’s when I finally realized that all these people behind this content are human too. What do you know, I can actually relate to something they are sharing. We are all here just trying to do our best.

You are lucky Julie, you learned this after your kids came. I never had any children so it’s been an ongoing struggle for me. But I’m getting there, little by little.

I appreciate you sharing that with me. Now, enjoy the rest of your day! :-)

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3 Chrysta Bairre
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October 17, 2011 at 9:35 AM

As a recovered perfectionist, I know all too well the trap of obsessing. Fortunately I have learned that making mistakes allows me to be free, happy, and laugh a heck of a lot more than I did when I worried over every little thing. Another great upside is I am more relatable and can relate well to others when I accept my limitations and make a mistake or two now and again!

I have a busy life and I try to write my blog entries in 60-90 minutes. This may mean my blog entries are not as polished as they could be, but they are good enough.

Perhaps if I ever find myself working part time, or without an office job, I’ll have more time to finely craft each blog entry. Even still I imagine I’ll have to publish new posts with minor imperfections.

I agree with you, Adrienne, it’s usually best for me to stop obsessing about it and do it anyway! And that goes with just about everything in life!

Chrysta

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4 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 9:53 AM

Hey Chrysta,

Obviously I’m still a work in progress. I have done so much better over the last few years which is why I had to laugh at myself when I caught myself falling back into that same pattern. See, if I can be a recovering perfectionist and fall back so can others. I’m glad that hasn’t happened to you. From this day forward I intend for it to never happen to me again either! Wish me luck!

That’s a great concept, maybe I should start timing myself. Sometimes I spend way more time on my content then I should. I do believe though that over time it’s gotten easier. I don’t spend near the time on it now that I did in the beginning.

Your posts are perfect. You share great content and I think every single one that I have had the pleasure of reading has been great. We all need to aspire to be more like you.

Thank you for sharing this with me Chrysta… At least I did realize what I was doing and caught myself. I am going to stop obsessing about it and do it anyway too!

Have a beautiful day my friend!

~Adrienne

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5 Carolyn
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October 17, 2011 at 9:52 AM

Hi Adrienne, I do obsess over whether my blog is perfect. I can’t help it, but I hate typos, etc. I figure if I am going to put my work out there for all to see, it has to be the best I can make it because it represents me.

But I don’t worry too much about topics for my tech blog. Sometimes I write on topics I know won’t be very exciting, such as one iTunes account, four family members, but I want to answer people’s questions and I think the information will be helpful to my readers. Those are the topics that show up in search engine searches but don’t get a lot of hits the day they are published.

I don’t share a lot of my experiences unless they relate to the topic. I wrote a post once about standing in line for the new iPad, but I didn’t stand in line for the new iPhone (I had it delivered to my home) so I couldn’t write about that!

Hope you have a great week, Adrienne!

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6 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 10:04 AM

Hi Carolyn,

Typos are one thing, but obsessing over whether it’s good enough so that the next thing you know, four hours have passed and you still aren’t satisfied is way too much time I think. You know so much about what you share that I would think that what you offer just comes natural to you Carolyn. But I understand what you are saying. Your content represents you and you don’t want people to look back and say, “what was she thinking”!

It’s not that your topics aren’t exciting, it’s about stuff we need to know. Heck, I learn things from you all the time. Like I still don’t know how to really get around in iTunes because I don’t use it that much. That would be a topic I would need to know. I also think that you do provide your readers with the information they are searching for so at one point, we are going to want to learn about what you share. At least I know I do.

Thanks Carolyn, always appreciate hearing from you! You have a great week too!

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7 Ken Pickard
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October 17, 2011 at 10:25 AM

Adrienne,

Are you talking to me? You must be! Haha…I love this “real” post because of the life lesson. to me these are the best. You can take something simple and was an “Ah-ha” moment for you and turn it into a great training tip for others.

I often talk with my kids about little life lessons and I try not be to preachy, but more of an observer who is sharing a little incite. Subtle lessons seem to go farther that way.

i can relate to what you said about being the real you. People just want to relate and connect. When we allow ourselves to be transparent we are opening the door to let others in.

Now time to come clean…I have been a closet perfectionist I’ll admit it. I’m pretty well over what others will think about what I’m putting out there, but that was a big issue t over come. Now a days I have my wife edit my blog posts…er most of them because i have a tendency to hit publish to quick.

Thanks for being real and reminding us to not to be to hard on ourselves.

Ken Pickard
The Network Dad

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8 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 10:39 AM

Hey Ken,

See, I’m glad I wrote about this now and told on myself. I sure was hoping I wasn’t the only one who has gone through this. Now I know when we are just starting off we can be way too hard on ourselves. But if we’ve been doing this for awhile we should be easing up right!

I agree with you Ken, I enjoy the posts more when people are giving me real life experiences. They are walking me through what they learned and sharing their emotions with me every step of the way.

Ah, does that mean you have finally come out? That’s not fair at all. You have your wife to look over your posts and I have no one but myself. Guess that’s why I take a little more time with them. I was never good at proofreading my own stuff. I’m great with other people’s. I wonder why that is… So far I don’t think I’ve messed up too terribly bad. Or at least I would hope not. You guys would tell me right!

I appreciate you sharing this with me Ken. I was hoping this topic wouldn’t hit home with too many people but it is good to know I’m not the only one out there who still catches myself doing this from time to time. Sure hope one day that will all come to a halt. Just think of all the time I’d save! lol… :-)

Enjoy your day and have a great week too!

~Adrienne

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9 Ken Pickard
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October 17, 2011 at 2:38 PM

Adrienne,

Yes I’ve come out of the closet! I’m a recovering perfectionist and procrastinator. 2 months sober. I did realize that massive action requires just that… ACTION! And in order to do that we need to get over ourselves and just do it.

In fact I made the fortunate decision of sharing Art Williams “Just Do It” video with my wife. So not only does she help editing some of my posts but she keeps me from falling off the protectionist wagon.

Ken

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10 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 2:58 PM

Hey Ken,

2 months sober, I’m impressed and congratulations my friend. That’s a huge accomplishment. Are you starting to see better results because you’ve just taken the action and let it go? it’s like we get so much more work done wouldn’t you agree?

I love that “Just Do It” video. That’s something everyone should have to watch when they are first getting started. Watch it every day. That’s a great lesson for everyone.

Thanks for sharing Ken! I’m so proud of you! :-)

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11 Radu
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October 17, 2011 at 11:06 AM

Hey Adrienne,
Wow, awesome post. And it resonates with me very well.
“I want my thing to be perfect” it’s just an excuse created by our minds (subconsciously most of the time, because you really believe that isn’t perfect yet).
Last week I wrote only two blog posts…I wanted to write 7 unique and great posts.. The result: two blog post and a lot of frustration.
I promised myself that is enough with this excuse. Daily action is crucial. Do your best, take your idea and put it into words and move on to something else. Even if you make mistakes, others will let you know. Thus, it’s easier to adjust things when is necessary and stay healthy at the same time :)

I appreciate your honesty.. It just helped you create a cool post.
Thanks for sharing,
Radu

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12 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 1:17 PM

Hi Radu,

We all know for a fact that what we think is great and others think is great may not always be the same thing. Like I’ll write some posts thinking that’s not the best I could have done because we all have those moments and the next thing you know, it ends up being a hit! Who would have thought!

We are always so critical of our own work and we want it to be the best it can be. We just need to stop obsessing over it being perfect and just do the best we can. Over time it will come easily and the words will just start to flow without much thought at all. That’s what I aspire to become.

Daily actin is critical. Put your head down and just go to work. By taking action every single day you will start to get the results that you want. It takes time but consistent action is real key. A lot of people miss that point!

I have no doubt you’ll do just fine. I appreciate you sharing this with me and I will look forward to that post! :-)

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13 Fred Tracy
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October 17, 2011 at 12:19 PM

I love the honesty here Adrienne!

It’s funny because my latest post is very much from the heart. I’m describing more of a paradigm shift than an actual how to type article, but I’m really putting a lot of myself in it and I pretty much wrote it on the fly. It felt a bit different to write, but overall I’m glad I did. And as a bonus, all the people who leave comments are commenting directly on something I am super interested in – me! Haha JK.

As for obsessing over everything I do… Well, kind of. I can be a perfectionist if I let myself get that way. I find that I have to just force myself to write something, then edit the best I can, then publish it without worrying about it. If I start nit picking, I will never stop!

So no, don’t worry – you aren’t the only one. :-)

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14 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 1:39 PM

Hi Fred,

I appreciate you saying that, sometimes I just never know how things will be received. But that’s the point right! Stop obsessing over it and just do it anyway.

I’m happy to hear that you wrote your post from the heart as well. I know we are both here to help others learn how to do better or be better but sometimes we just need to share experiences. Sometimes those posts end up being the best ones.

You sound like me, that’s how I was when I first started out. I edited and edited and nit picked it to death. I finally had to learn to just write it and let it go. I do so much better now which is why this particular situation, I had to laugh at myself. Caught myself slipping back in. Yikes!!!

Glad to hear I’m not the only one Fred. Will be by your place here in a bit to read your post. See you soon. :-)

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15 Samantha Bangayan
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October 17, 2011 at 12:24 PM

Thanks for sharing your humility and vulnerability in this post, Adrienne! I just read an amazing post by Betsy Cross on Stan’s blog and it was all about establishing true and profound connections on social media. In Stan’s foreward, he talks about how vulnerability plays a big role in how deeply we’re able to connect with others. I think this post is the perfect example of why you’re such an expert networker. It’s about how you’re able to create real friendships online. =) Thank you for being you!

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16 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 1:44 PM

Hello Miss Samantha,

Always a pleasure to see you my dear and I appreciate you saying that.

I use to obsess over whether people really wanted to read about my experiences or even my mistakes. When I first started my blogging journey I was under the impression that since I’m here building a business that my posts had to be more business minded. No jokes, no personal experiences, just content that would help others. If you look back on my earlier posts, you’ll notice that type of writing wasn’t well received at all. I finally let my hair down and just started writing for me. What a big difference it has made.

I’ll have to check out Betsy’s post over at Stan’s place. I’m sure it’s a good one, she leaves the best comments. Thank you for letting me know about that and thank you for sharing your thoughts with me.

Have a wonderful week.

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17 Mouh
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October 17, 2011 at 11:26 AM

Yeah, I can related to all this. :D

When you’re hard about your work, I think you don’t strive to be perfect. But you beat yourself up about things not being good enough… That’s what I find. This happens to me online and offline. This heavy anxiety around the things you produce. And more often than not, the posts and other things I worry about, turn out to be the best things I come up with.. go figure. :)

I once watched a video on YouTube by Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat Pray and Love. The video is called “Elizabeth Gilbert: A new way to think about creativity”. I don’t really remember if it is the right video. I think it is. The author mentioned some great things about creativity and inspiration. I remember she mentioned something about this heavy anxiety that surrounds work. She gave a really beautiful example that I don’t remember now, alas. :D Maybe you can watch the video when you have time.

This is just to say that this is something all “creators” face. I believe it is an important thing. It helps us improve. :)

By the way, I do feel better now. :D

Mouh

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18 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 1:23 PM

I can relate to what you are saying Mouh!

Some of the content I write I think is just so so. Next thing you know it’s getting hundreds of comments. By just not obsessing that it has to be the greatest, we can let our guards down and really end up writing some killer stuff.

I’ll have to look that video up, I have no doubt she gives us some pretty great tips.

I’m so glad you are feeling better. I hate feeling bad, not fun at all.

You have a great week okay! :-)

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19 Etieno Etuk
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October 17, 2011 at 12:29 PM

This is so true, Adrienne. I’m also guilty of obsessing over writing my blog posts or creating content that I know I should be creating. The key to overcome this is to just suck it up and get it done. Period.

Before you share content, just put yourself in your reader’s shoes. What is it that they are looking for? Just be yourself and write the content. Study how other top bloggers and marketers communicate and model them. I’m not saying that you copy their content. What I’m saying is learn from them and give it your own spin.

Thanks for sharing this, Adrienne.

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20 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 1:50 PM

Hi Etieno,

Good to hear that you do this as well. I was doing really great there for the longest time but as I noted in this post, found myself falling back down that hole darn it. Once I recognized what I was doing I immediately started making fun of myself and then I just stopped. Had to walk away from it, clear my head and then get back in the game. I cranked that out in no time at all. Silly me!

What I normally do over here at my place is I share what I learn so if I’m interested in learning this I usually think that my readers are too. So far, it seems to be going over pretty well although a lot of people know a good bit about what I share already. That’s okay, they just pass it on to others who might find it beneficial. I love that!

Appreciate you sharing your thoughts with me Etieno and have a wonderful day!

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21 Jeffrey Morgan
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October 17, 2011 at 12:47 PM

Oh for heavens sake Adrienne, put down the mouse and slowly back away from the keyboard ……….. shhh………. Texans!

No, on second thought put Kayla on the Webcam will ya. Maybe she can shead some light as to what goes on over there in Bloggerville, Texas. ;)

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22 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 1:53 PM

Oh Jeffrey, you have me in stitches over here my friend. Okay, okay… I’m backing away from the computer. Heck, Kayla probably needs to go outside anyway so this is just as good a time as any to take a break!

She is my faithful business partner but she’s true to her Mom. Her lips are sealed, you won’t get anything out of her. Thank goodness. If I had a talking dog, I’m be rich! :-)

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23 Jeffrey Morgan
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October 17, 2011 at 4:41 PM

I couldn’t help but get a kick out of your reply, do you remember “Michigan J. Frog” Adrienne? It was the first thing I thought of when I read your comment!

Here’s the link to brighten your day!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRnX4quv5W4

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24 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 7:38 PM

I do remember Michigan J. Frog and I bet you thought of that because I said my lips are sealed! At least that’s what I’m thinking come from you my friend. That was a fun video, hadn’t seen that in ages. By the way, I watched it and then took Kayla for our walk and couldn’t get that darn song out of my head. Thanks! ;-)

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25 Jeffrey Morgan
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October 17, 2011 at 8:44 PM

EARWORM !!!!!!

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26 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 9:38 PM

lol!!! You’re a hoot!

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27 Manickam Vijayabanu
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October 17, 2011 at 12:52 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Very nice post. I believe, creativity, Passion, motivation all these have strong connection with obsession and anxiety and you cannot take away completely. Like you can try to balance your mind:)

If you adore your passionate job, ultimately you will expect quality and perfection at work even you rush at things, and finally you feel over loaded. Either you do post or comment, your mind will be Lingering at excellence and it won’t give up at times. Always, It’s a tricky to satisfy an inspirational mind. :)

Thanks for the wonderful post.

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28 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 1:58 PM

Hi Manickam,

Welcome to my blog, it’s a pleasure to have you here. Glad you enjoyed this post, sometimes I just need to tell on myself when I find I’m falling back into old patterns.

I get your point, when we are passionate about something we definitely want it to be the best it can be. I guess that’s why I obsessed over it early on. It’s not that I don’t want everything to be just right when I’m writing content for all the world to see. But there comes a time when you have to know that you’ve done the best you can and just let it go. I finally got to that place and had been there for a few years until the other day. Once my posts and content is published, I don’t worry about it any longer. It will either be well received or it won’t. I’ll just do better the next time.

Thank you again Manickam for your thoughts on this topic. Hope you have a wonderful week and I’ll be sure to stop by your blog soon.

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29 Brock Blohm
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October 17, 2011 at 2:41 PM

Ahhh, again, huh? :)

I did that a while ago, when I first started blogging. You should have seen me, it was hilarious – in hindsight. Everything had to be perfect, perfect, perfect, for that 1 person that was going to show up in a weeks’ time. :) Too funny.

Yep, my true personality came out. People connect with people, not drones.

Thanks for sharing, Adrienne! :)

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30 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 3:01 PM

You? Not you Brock!!! I would have loved to be a fly on the wall watching you freak out because something wasn’t just right! I bet that was hilarious. Kind of sounds like how I use to be! That’s right!!! Use to be, I only slipped this once. So far that is!!!

People definitely connect with personalities, not boring drones! Could not have said that better myself! :-)

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31 Justin
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October 17, 2011 at 3:35 PM

Yes Adrienne, I sure to obsess about the perfect post, perfect idea, perfect newsletter and so. But like you, I find it best to just be ourselves. And I do like the idea of mixing up posts just a bit.

My last two posts were so easy to write because I basically just wrote what I was thinking and remembering. There wasn’t any research done nor was I trying to teach anything.

With all of this talk of simple living and minimalism, I am wondering if it would be better for bloggers to just write from the cuff. I am definitely guilty of trying to make every post the “one.” But I have changed my mind on that, I will write from a perspective of just wanting to share something with anyone who is willing to read it. Maybe its help them, maybe it doesn’t.

I have been playing around lately with different post ideas and styles just to get some bit of a wider experience of what works and what doesn’t.

P.S. I actually like every post that you have written. :)

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32 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 7:17 PM

Hey Justin,

That’s a good question, each blogger just writing from the cuff. For me, I have been through some type of training or maybe it’s something I know how to do and others have been asking me questions about it. I’ll create a blog post around it but normally I don’t really have a lot of research to do on a topic. Not anymore since I now write this way mostly. I do enjoy reading through the bloggers personal experiences though. It helps me be able to relate to them more on that level.

That’s good news Justin, I appreciate you sharing that with me. I’m so glad you enjoy all my posts. Music to my ears my friend. :-)

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33 Deeone
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October 17, 2011 at 4:00 PM

Adrienne, this was a very refreshing post for me. Not that any others that you’ve written aren’t, but this particular one really did exactly what you wanted it to do for me. Relaxed me a bit.

It never fails with me, every single time I write a post, I am at ease and really feeling what I’m writing. When the time comes to click the published button, my palms get moist, and I fear that my message will be taken in another context or perceived in the wrong way.

What this post has showed me, is that it’s perfectly normal to have this feeling. Many other’s that have been at blogging much longer than I, have shared my feelings or had similar ones of their own.

What actually calms me when I click the publish button is the fact that I am staying very much true to myself. If there are some that don’t care for it, that’s perfectly OK. There will be other’s that will love it. :)

I guess it comes with the territory, huh? :)

Great post, Adrienne. I really appreciate you sharing this today. I needed this one. :)

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34 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 7:25 PM

Hey Deeone,

Thanks for sharing that with me. I’m glad I was able to help you relax some.

I use to get nervous like that too Deeone. Not necessarily sweaty palms but going back and forth with should I or shouldn’t I! I think as new bloggers we have no idea how others will perceive our content so we have to hope that it will be received within the context that we meant for it to be. Not everyone is going to enjoy our posts but the way I look at that is that’s perfectly okay with me because there are some people that I can’t possibly relate to so my content isn’t for them. If everyone loved everything this world would be a much better place, wouldn’t you agree?

It is normal to have these feelings. I still hear from people who have been blogging for a lot longer then me still having these feelings. Heck, they obsess over their posts much more than I do. It sure made me feel better.

As long as you stay true to yourself, just go for it. I love the way you write and I enjoy reading your posts. You’re doing a wonderful job Deeone.

It definitely comes with the territory! :-) Glad you enjoyed this one and hope you’ve had a wonderful day!

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35 Deeone
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October 17, 2011 at 10:56 PM

You are very right about that, Adrienne. If everyone loved everything… it would certainly be a perfect world. There would really be no fun in that at all. :) Then all of these beautiful, creative minds would not be able to share their wealth of information and experiences.

Thank you for that thoughtful response, as well as for your compliment. I truly appreciate you sharing your feelings with me. :)

Have a wonderful evening.

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36 Sonia
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October 17, 2011 at 4:00 PM

Amen sister! Sometimes when I am planning my next post, I often wondered that too and ask myself, why am I driving myself nuts! I love creating a post where people just let loose and add in their own line. I think when people see posts where they can just be themselves and say something fun, it takes out all the fluffy stuff we normally see.

Not that learning isn’t a bad thing, but it’s nice to see something off the wall every now and then. I noticed people actually respond to that more then posts that teach them something. Posts that allow people to participate also helps keep it fun and show your true personality. Now you got me thinking up some other crazy idea for a new post.

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37 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 7:33 PM

I’m finally here Sonia!!!

I definitely agree with you. Oh I do love to learn and sometimes I run across posts that are all about the business at hand. Although I usually do learn a lot from these posts, I would prefer them share this with me from the perspective of this is how they learned this or this is how they think it might be beneficial for us. Just put a little bit of personality into it. It’s just a much more enjoyable read for me.

Breaking up posts and throwing something else in from time to time is refreshing too! I think it’s just that the way I was taught to blog, it was all business as usual and no fluff. Well the more I blogged, the more boring that became for me. So I had to start putting some of my own personality into my posts and as soon as I did, they started to get a lot more attention. Imagine that! Guess some of those big old gurus don’t really know everything after all!

Can’t wait to see what you’re little brain will come up with on this topic. Whatever it is, it’s going to be good! That I know for sure!

Thanks Sonia, love you adding to this conversation. Hope your day has been a good one.

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38 Ruth
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October 17, 2011 at 3:28 PM

It’s funny you wrote about this Adrienne, because my latest post argues that solid copywriting is ultimately about the reader, not YOU. So, now you’ve got me thinking (and I’d be interested if my post inspires the same debate – though I don’t get the traffic that you get…)…

I think that there is a fundamental difference between relate-ability and being self absorbed. I go crazy over those folks (professional marketing Execs!) that tweet about their egg salad sandwich and migraine headache. WHO CARES?!?!

Similarly, I’m so tired of the blog posts that detail the minutiae of the writer’s latest escapade (do we really need to know about the smelly lady on the subway?! or your 2-year-old daughter’s latest word?).

Nonetheless…in fairness, a personal anecdote can go a long way in making the writer relate-able and ‘human’, as you say. I wrote that strong copy is ultimately about building relationships, engaging the reader and bringing them back for more. I do think that weaving in a personal tone is really helpful in that regard. Especially for bloggers. To the extent that it’s gratuitous, it should be avoided. But if the story or experience serves a purpose – I approve ;-)

I watch your videos, read your posts and think, sheesh, that Adrienne, she is an amazing example of blogging excellence! But…I must confess, it makes me feel great to know that you beat yourself up, falter and struggle like the rest of us. I makes me love you even more!!!

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39 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 6:26 PM

I know exactly what you mean Ruth and at first I kind of struggled with that.

Everywhere I read they constantly say that you should write for your readers and not you. But I think where my blog is a little different is that I continue to learn as I go along. So what I learn, I share. It’s obvious by my responses that a lot of people were interested in learning the same thing so it all kind of goes hand in hand. I just happen to be learning about the things my readers want to learn too! Make sense?

I agree with you on the self absorbed note. That kind of turns me off if you must know the truth. Okay, every once in awhile through something in there so we know you’re human but when it’s all about them! I’m outta there.

Ruth, I’m an ongoing work in progress. When I mess up, I have to laugh at myself because I am only human. If you only knew how much I beat myself up over here you would be shaking your head. I have a feeling we are a LOT more alike then you realize. So glad you are connecting with me on this level. That makes me feel so good!

I appreciate you sharing this with me. I truly do!

Hope your Monday has been a good one. Mine sure has!

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40 Donna Merrill
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October 17, 2011 at 5:05 PM

Adrienne, I so enjoyed your post. We can drive ourselves crazy trying to be perfect. I got over that a long time ago. There is typos on my blog, my videos are not perfect, and sometimes things don’t link. Whatever….
A friend of mine Justin Glover says “You don’t gotta get it right, you just gotta get it going.” I keep those wise words with me all the time. If I goof up here and there and I get a comment that “corrects” me, instead of feeling inadequate, I just laugh!
It happened to me recently on one of my comments on my blog. Someone nit-pict a certain word I used. Hmmmm funny how people try to nudge. But it comes with the turf.
Bottom line…Just go with Justin Glover’s statement.
Donna

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41 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 7:43 PM

Hey Donna,

That is hilarious, I always say the same thing. “You don’t gotta get it right, you just gotta get it going.” That’s a Joe Schroeder saying and he helped me realize a few years ago to just stop already and get the darn thing done. It will never be perfect in our eyes. You’ll look back at it later on and laugh so hard your stomach will hurt at how silly you think some of your stuff was. But in all honesty, other people have no clue or could care less that it was some of your first stuff you put online. That continues to stick in my head.

For those nit pickers all I have to say is whatever!!! Get a life if that is what you’re going to obsess over. Did you enjoy the content or not! That should be what’s important right. We are just living proof that you don’t have to be perfect to do this. If we can do this and our content is well received then so can you. That’s much more important to me.

Thanks Donna, always a pleasure.

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42 Bryce Christiansen October 17, 2011 at 5:40 PM

Hi Adrienne,

I recently had that revelation myself so don’t feel too bad. We have a number of products and tools we want to launch and at first management felt each of them had to have these elaborate websites, campaigns, and launches, but then after listening to a segment on NPR they had a change of heart.

The speaker talked about investing and spending all this money on a product he launched only to have it fail. He said he could have saved a ton of money and time if he had just put it out there in the first place to see if anyone even wanted his product. He decided to use this approach on the next idea of his and ended up having tremendous success.

Great thoughts and something we all need to remember from time to time.

Thanks,

Bryce

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43 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 7:48 PM

Hey Bryce,

I have heard plenty of stories Bryce where people spent so much money on creating the best look website and way too much time into the launch or some campaigns when some of the ugliest websites get the most attention because it’s what’s on the website more than how it looks. I know that sounds crazy at times but I totally agree with that. I’ve visited some sites and thought to myself, what were you thinking. But their content blew me away and I was hooked.

Launching a product before you even find out if it’s what people want is where a lot of people and companies go terribly wrong. What I think might go and what people really want may be two different things. I hate that some people have to learn that the hard way but it is a lesson learned. Expensive one at that.

Thanks Bryce, appreciate your input on this. Hope you’ve had a really great day!

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44 Dia October 17, 2011 at 7:10 PM

Hi Adrienne,

Exactly my friend people relate to people, this is why being yourself attracts many people. I’m also guilty of trying to make every post “perfect.” Sometimes, I find myself being too harsh on myself. When this happens, I just try to clear my mind and take it easy. We can and should strive for excellence, but we shouldn’t strive for perfectionism. Thanks for showing us the human within you Adrienne. ;)

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45 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 7:56 PM

Hi Dia,

Well that’s good to hear. You are out for perfection. But your posts are so to the point Dia and share the personal side to them as well. I love how you don’t beat around the bush and give us a lot of fluff. You tell us what we should do and how to do it. I love reading your posts, you’ve really helped me a lot recently.

Whatever you are doing to get those posts out there, keep up the excellent job. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way!

Thanks Dia! Always appreciate hearing from you! ;-)

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46 Dakota October 17, 2011 at 7:40 PM

Hey Adrienne,
I wish I had time to leave a long comment, but I just have long enough to read the post and drop a line or two. :/
I think we all obsess over our content. Even though I don’t blog, whenever I write a new post or review, I always send it to my dad, and then my mom, and sometimes even a friend or two, just to get feedback on what they think about the article, and if they think anyone would read it. :) I think everyone does that. Thanks for being so open and honest about yourself. :) Have a great week!
~Pianolessongirl,
Dakota

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47 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 7:52 PM

Hey Dakota,

Well thanks for taking the time to at least leave me a couple sentences. I appreciate that.

See, you have your Mom and Dad as another set of eyes and I don’t have anyone really. I give it a go over a couple times to make sure I catch all my grammatical mistakes but the rest will just have to do. I think deep down inside, we all obsess to some extent about our content. I mean once it’s out there, it’s out there right!

Thanks for your input Dakota and I will have a good week. Hope you’ll do the same! :-)

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48 Allan October 17, 2011 at 8:59 PM

Well said Adrienne! I’m another person who suffers from the curse of perfectionism in some areas of my life. When I started blogging I wanted every post to be perfect, but I soon realised this was pointless. Whilst I think it’s important to have high standards to aim for, sometimes 80% is good enough.

Also, in your case, you get a lot of good comments and discussion for each post. It doesn’t matter if your article isn’t perfect – you get a chance to clarify things as you reply to comments.

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49 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 9:44 PM

Welcome Allan,

I’ve now learned that so many of us obsess or use to obsess over our content. I mean we do want it to be the best because it’s a reflection of ourselves. But spending hours and hours worrying about if it’s just right can really lead to a lot more stress then we need to put on ourselves. You are right though, aim for 80% because that’s good enough.

That’s good to know Allan because sometimes my posts definitely aren’t perfect. I’ll just give it my best shot the next time. I think my readers don’t really care that much anymore. As long as I have something interesting to share. A good bit of them usually learn something when they stop by!

Appreciate your comment, thank you so much! Hope you’ve had a great day!

~Adrienne

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50 Bruce October 17, 2011 at 9:11 PM

Hi, I guess I’m a little of the opposite! You see, I usually do my blog writing when I’ve had a brilliant (in my mind) brain flash, or something has particularly peeved me. I’ll just grab the Macbook & let it fly, just as I did with my latest post that went up this morning. I do feel I get the “real me” out there vs a well rehearsed & multi edited “perfect” piece.

I am giving myself an hour or so from finishing it off and hitting submit though, yet I still see grammatical errors slipping through.

~Bruce

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51 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 9:46 PM

Hey Bruce,

Great to see you again my friend.

Wow, now that’s great. See, I hope to be like that. Give myself an hour and crank that baby out. Let her fly and I’m off to my next project. Trust me, that doesn’t happy all that often. That’s great that you can do that Bruce and I think our posts are fine. It’s refreshing to hear that someone out there isn’t obsessing over perfection! :-)

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52 Marcus Baker
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October 17, 2011 at 9:12 PM

Hi Adrienne,

As a fellow recovering perfectionist I too know how it feels to be too hard on myself.

It took me a lot of hard work to shift this Adrienne and since ‘recovering’ is never ‘cured’, I still catch myself going down this avenue sometimes but I am better able to stop it now as I can observe it objectively as it happens.

I believe that when we are truly honest with oursleves, perfectionism exists because we care too much about what others think about us.We are fearful of being judged and not being good enough in the eyes of others so we hold on to whatever we are working on until we convince ourselves that it is as good as it can be. The only problem is that we hold on for far too long.

In my experience what this often leads to however is a lessening of our creative expression. We so want to make sure that it is “technically” perfect that we beat the spontaneity and uniqueness out of it. I learned that Creative and Perfect are not blood relatives. Being creative involves risk and with risk comes the possibility of criticism and even failure. This can be almost too much to bare for a perfectionist.

The way to give up being a perfectionist is to realize that we are perfect exactly as we are and that what other’s think is not important. This is not something that one just does overnight but it is possible. I know. :)

I learned a marvellous daily technique that I have used for more than 15 years now that helped me over time with this Adrienne. It comes from Julia Cameron’s “The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity”. Not sure if you have read this.

It involves an activity called “Stream of Consciousness Journalling” . Every day you write a full page about whatever comes to mind at that moment, without stopping to think about it. You have to keep on writing (so it is pen and paper exercise not a typing one) without lifting the pen to pause or stop. There is no paragraphing and punctuation required and you never correct anything including spelling. You never read through it afterwards. You simply write and out away until the next day.

When I started this I found it so difficult that I would be in tears as I fought not to censor my ideas and writing . It would sometimes make me feel extremely angry. Over time I learned to let go of the inner editor and now it is one of the most liberating activities of my day. I am sure I will do it until I die.

~Marcus

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53 Adrienne Smith
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October 17, 2011 at 10:01 PM

Hey Marcus,

You are a recovering perfectionist? I would have never thought that about you Marcus.

Darn it, there you go giving me that fabulous advice knowing full well that’s the reason we hold on to that stuff too long. It’s really odd how when I came online a lot of things changed for me. Like I’ve always been very confident, I have high self-esteem, I don’t care what others think of me and when I put my mind to something I just do it. Once I came online though some of that just went right out the door. I guess it’s because I was stepping into unknown territory and some of it scared me to death.

Over time though I started to learn and understand and some of those things started to creep back in where the online world was concerned. You are right though Marcus, we are perfect just the way we are and we shouldn’t care too much what others think of us. I mean it’s important if you are here to build a business but one of the most important lessons I have learned is that you will attract the people you want to work with so in the end, that’s really a good thing.

I actually learned about consciousness journalling when I took Katie Frieling’s class earlier this year. She had us do this for about six weeks straight. It was very difficult for me to do Marcus mainly because I have been typing now for well over 25 years so it comes so much easier for me. When I write for a long period of time, my wrist starts to really hurt and then I can’t get my work done the rest of the day because of it. I know, I’m spoiled but what can I say. So I caught myself not really writing a whole lot because of that. I understand the reason for it though and you are right, it can be very freeing.

Thank you for sharing this with me. You really made me realize what I was doing and why. leave it to you Marcus to bring this to my attention and I definitely mean in a good way. Thanks! :-)

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54 Marcus Baker
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October 18, 2011 at 1:15 AM

Hi again Adrienne,

It’s funny what sets these things off. I can totally understand how the unknown territory of the online world was a catalyst in your case.

Like you I have always been very confident and an over achiever in many respects but the crack in my wall came about as a result of my father’s behaviour.

Whatever I did for him was never good enough and until I took this in hand I used to think I wasn’t good enough, period which is what fuelled my perfectionism habit.

I’ll never forget coming home with a school report I was thrilled about. I had 6 A’s and a B for Maths. Maths was never my strongest which was unfortunate for me as it was his strength. He looked at the report card, turned to my Mother and said, “He’s just never going to make it, is he?”. Heck it’s no wonder I thought I had to be perfect.

The good thing Adrienne is that despite the little learning bump you are well on your way back to claiming who you are, the real you, who is always perfect in God’s eyes.

The other funny thing I wanted to add and then I’ll stop rambling on, I promise…. :) is that often the blog posts I have thought to be not that great have been the ones people have liked the most. When we just relax and let the real us out people can connect with us as they don’t feel fearful of being judged by us and so we attract perfect people to partner with us, exactly as you point out. :)

~Marcus

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55 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 9:52 AM

Hi again Marcus,

Oh, I’m glad you came back over and shared this with me. Wow, I hate that you had to deal with that in your childhood. I can understand why something like that would hold a lot of people back.

In my case Marcus I didn’t do very well in school. I rarely got A’s, I got a few B’s but mostly C’s and D’s. I had a real hard time understanding what the text books said. My parents didn’t help me with my homework because they told me it was my responsibility. Later in life I learned that my Mom had the same type of trouble in school that I did. My Dad traveled during the week so he was never there.

My parents never gave me a hard time but I gave myself a hard time because I thought I was stupid. I couldn’t understand for the life of me why I couldn’t understand a lot of that stuff. That’s the reason I’m the only one out of the family that didn’t go to college. Before my Dad lost consciousness two weeks before he passed away, he apologized to me for not being there and helping me while I was in school. He thought I was one of the smartest kids he had and he just didn’t support me enough.

I have a LOT of street smarts and common sense, it’s the books that get me down. Another reason it takes me a little longer sometimes to understand this stuff online. I have no one to explain it to me and when I reach a point where I don’t get it, I revert back to beating myself up and struggling again. But Marcus, I’m NOT a quitter and I KNOW I’m smart. Just not in the areas a lot of other people are. That’s why I have such a big heart for other people who struggle just not understanding it and I may spend too much time with them. Now who’s rambling. Sorry about that!!!

I can relate to you with writing the posts. The ones that I think are so so end up being some of the most well received. Here I am over here being so hard on myself when I just need to stop with the worrying so much and just let it go. These are perfect lessons though for me so from this point forward, no more. I’m just going to write them and let them go.

Thank you Marcus for sharing that with me. I really appreciate that and sorry I started rambling myself. It’s just so easy to open up to you. :-)

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56 Jimmy
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October 19, 2011 at 1:19 AM

Sorry Adrienne and Marcus if you find this an intrusion. I can’t help but want to thank the both of you here for sharing this piece of your lives with us here. I learnt more of your trials in your younger years just by these couple of long comments that you have put out. I hope the others have had the patience to really read through what has been written. There are great lessons for me here to take home.

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57 Adrienne Smith
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October 19, 2011 at 9:26 AM

Hi Jimmy,

Not an intrusion at all. I guess Marcus and I are good examples of what you can aspire to be even if you had difficulty in your younger years. I say that Jimmy because we are no longer of the “younger generation”. But I know I didn’t let my learning disabilities hold me back. I think overall I did pretty good in my life and although I probably still learn at a slower pace then most, I’ve never let that hold me back.

Thank you for your thoughtful comment Jimmy. I appreciate you! :-)

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58 Rachel Lavern October 17, 2011 at 11:13 PM

Hi Adrienne,

I have been a master of obsessing and perfectionism. Now I work on keeping it fairly simply by being grateful for all the things I do have in my life, don’t dwell on things I don’t have or successes I feel I haven’t achieved, or mistakes I may have made. I mostly work to have fun and laugh.

We are all incredible, brilliant human beings complete with faults and flaws. I say let go of the need to be perfect–there is no such thing as perfection in people.

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59 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 9:31 AM

Hey Rachel,

I love your outlook Rachel! Sounds like we think a lot alike. Every single day I start by stating what I’m grateful for. I don’t obsess over the little things and for awhile now I didn’t obsess over my blog posts. Guess I had one moment but I’m so happy I actually was able to recognize what I was doing, make fun of myself for it and move on from there. I appreciate that reminder for me to continue on with that outlook because none of us will ever be perfect. Only in our heads right! :-)

Thank you so much for this. What a refreshing comment and a great lesson for us all.

Have a blessed day!

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60 Herbert
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October 18, 2011 at 6:10 AM

Adrienne this is a very interesting write up. Love reading it. :) *hats-off*

Looking forward for more :)

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61 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 9:54 AM

Thanks Herbert, glad you enjoyed me telling on myself! :-)

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62 Angel Martorell Criado
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October 18, 2011 at 6:28 AM

Hi Adrienne!
I have liked this: “A good bit of the time what we think of our content and our videos, others aren’t thinking the same thing.” I believe there is good lessons for our evolution, to learn from this.
Also, what you say about ” stay true to yourself,” is something i really want to. If somebody has to like me or hate me, let it be at least around how i am in truth.

My goal is to earn money to pay my expenses, all i do is around this, NO MORE MOTIVES, REALLY SIMPLE—MONEY!!, then i need to do the stuff to get this money, and i get doubtfull, hard on me, obsessed, afraid, lone ranger- maybe lone matador, since i am from Spain, he,he.! Anyway i am my worst enemy, i learned this from my yoga and psychology studies. THE FINAL QUESTION IS EXTREMELLY SIMPLE: WILL I BE ABLE TO MAKE THE BLODDY MONEY IN THE END?. This is the worst worry.

Adrienne,
i really appreciate your post of today.

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63 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 9:59 AM

Hey Angel,

Wonderful to see you my friend. Thanks for stopping by!

Angel you have come a long way my friend. You are a learning machine. You have picked up what I have shown you and taken action. So from this point forward you need to stop worrying about the money. In your case you have plenty of time. What you need to do now is start building relationships with other bloggers. Pick that niche you want to venture into and start sharing content. People will start opting into your list and once you build up a good following, start promoting products to them. Until that time comes, just continue sharing good information with them. People will purchase things from people they know, like and trust. You have already seen this with the relationship we have built. Stop obsessing about the money and start concentrating on how you can help others. That my friend is the formula.

Thanks for your comment Angel, always a pleasure to see you! :-) I know it’s already night there so have a wonderful evening!

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64 Angel Martorell Criado
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October 18, 2011 at 12:51 PM

Really potent answer! thank’s a lot!

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65 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 4:51 PM

My pleasure Angel! :-)

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66 Ashvini
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October 18, 2011 at 6:46 AM

Hey Adrienne,
I would say you written a great post once again.
It is a common thing . If we are expert in your own area, sometimes we feel that we are not doing justice to our content . It is true because we measure the content of our “Not so great” posts to truly remarkable ones. Thus our denominator is our own work ( I hope you get what I am trying to say).
I have had examples where I thought “Bah What an ordinary post” But people have came and told me that they liked it. I thought my writings are commonplace but still many people find them interesting.
I think people like to see a person who is human just like them . We all have our not so great days but people reading our blogs don’t know that. They love us the way we are just as we love you Adrienne :).
Hope you are having a great day

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67 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 10:08 AM

Hi Ashvini,

Thank you for your ongoing support! I appreciate that.

I totally understand what you are saying. I caught myself writing a post at 10:00 pm the night before it’s to be published and I had started writing about a certain topic and scratched it three quarters of the way through. My mind just wasn’t flowing like it should so I just junked it. So here I am, it’s nearing midnight and I’m just tired. So I start from scratch, just write from the cuff and set it up to publish bright and early in the morning. That post was a hit! I still don’t get it but I’m certainly not complaining. I was just being too hard on myself and I decided from that moment on I was not doing that anymore.

Sounds like we have had some similar experiences so that’s nice to know. I love doing these types of posts because although I have to think that I can’t be the only one, I love hearing that darn near all of my readers have had these similar experiences. That’s how we are able to relate to others on that same level. We see a lot of ourselves in each other.

Thanks for sharing this with me Ashvini and I love you too! I know I’ve said this numerous times but you truly are a life saver. Had you not taken the time to help me with my image issues and Facebook, it would have not been resolved. I owe you my friend. :-)

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68 Ashvini
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October 18, 2011 at 10:20 AM

Adrienne, anything for a friend :).

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69 Morris
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October 18, 2011 at 6:29 AM

I enjoyed the article.
I try to weave in a little person experience into each article I write. Sometime it is easy, other times, you just need to pull out the ‘easy’ button.
Keep up the good work.

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70 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 10:01 AM

Hey Morris,

Thank you and glad you enjoyed this one. I know what you mean though, I try to put a little of me in each post but sometimes it’s not that easy to do. I guess I just need to start writing a little differently from this point forward. Will give that a go.

Have a great day Morris and thanks my friend.

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71 Mavis Nong
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October 18, 2011 at 10:07 AM

Hey Adrienne,

A powerful lesson in this post. Worrying about getting everything absolutely “right”, about knowing everything or learning all the skills before you dive into something and get going, is a huge challenge for many.

Trouble is, If you work on everything to perfection you’re going to be reluctant to try new things or change things because you know it takes a hell of a lot of work.

Thanks for sharing with us.

Mavis

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72 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 10:12 AM

Hey Mavis,

Thank you for that, I hope this is a lesson for others. What we think is perfect may not be to others so we just need to do our best and let it go. For me, I love to continue learning and then sharing that with my readers so there’s no holding this girl back. I hope others can follow in my footsteps. Just one foot in front of the other and before you know it, we’ve won the race. Yey!!!

Thanks Mavis, it’s always a pleasure to see you.

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73 Steve
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October 18, 2011 at 10:08 AM

Adrienne,

It is a funny balance, because to some point it is good thing to try to have a “better” product. But the value quickly drops off as it approaches obsession.

I find myself constantly telling myself, “it is good enough”.

If you wait for everything to be “perfect” you may be waiting for ever, since there are likely always little tweaks that can make it better.

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74 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 10:13 AM

Hey Steve,

You hit the nail on the head with that comment. In our eyes, is it ever really good enough? Heck, I say just go for it. We learn as we go and we get better with time.

Thanks Steve!

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75 Daca October 18, 2011 at 2:29 PM

You are absolutely right. I think that we are all to hard to ourselves. Instead of publishing a post, we spend one entire day thinking of is it good enough. I have read one great post few months ago, posted by Lye, about how much hard work we throw away just because we don’t hit that publish button every time we probably should. Yes, blogging is a pleasure, but at the same time it can give us a headache. So, I agree, maybe we just have to accept the fact that all our work is work in progress. Only this way we can get better.

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76 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 4:59 PM

Now that is just odd… I just responded to your comment and when I hit reply, it disappeared so I’m going to give this another shot. If it end up being a duplicate I’ll delete that later.

So what I had said was that Lye was right in that post. Just think of the time we waste obsessing over whether our content and material is just right. In all reality, we are really the only ones worried about it. I think that most people just want to read the content and what they can get from it. I know that even if I catch some grammatical errors on some people’s posts, and I use to be an executive assistant, I spot them right on but I just look at that as they overlooked it or didn’t catch it when they proofread it. It certainly doesn’t mean I’m not going to come back to their blog. That’s just silly!

If we spent more time on what was important and let the rest go we all would be a lot more productive.

Great comment Daca, thank you for sharing that! :-)

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77 Mitch Mitchell
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October 18, 2011 at 2:44 PM

Strange as this sounds, obsessing over something like this is a problem I’ve never had. When it comes to writing, or projects in general, my mind can just get in there, get it done, and then I can move on.

Move onto what? Obsessing about other stuff of course. Outside of projects I can be the king of obsessing. Heck, I’ll probably be obsessing about something that happened 30 years ago in a little while; that’s just how the mind works. Or maybe I’ll be obsessing over email in the next 10 minutes, wondering why I’m not getting more for certain email accounts I have.

I look forward to projects because that’s when my mind knows what to do. Strange, right? :-)

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78 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 5:03 PM

Oh wow Mitch, you are definitely one of a kind. I’ve had a few other people tell me this area is a non-issue for them. Dang, I’m jealous!

So you actually do obsess over some things, just not in worrying about your content. Then I guess I am okay with that because I don’t obsess over that kind of stuff. The past is behind me and all I can do is the work I know needs to be done every single day in order for me to get the results I want. Other than that, I don’t really worry about stuff. Okay, I didn’t worry about my content either until this incident but like I’ve stated numerous times I’m still a work in progress.

I guess we all are to some extent right! :-) Thanks Mitch…

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79 Craig McBreen
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October 18, 2011 at 3:34 PM

Is there such a thing as perfection?

I used to get into that kind of bind all of the time, actually. Reviewing and over-analyzing everything to death. One more look. One more proof. Analysis paralysis was a state I was often in.

Well, I thought I fixed that, BUT noooooo, now that I’m blogging and writing (not posting) most every day, I obsess. A. Bit. Too. Much! I really spend a tremendous amour of time editing a post. I just need to get this writing thing down to a science (read quicken the pace) and maybe, just maybe this process will be a bit better. I love it actually, but need to learn to let it go a bit. It is a blog after all, right? Not like I’m writing for Time or Newsweek. (actually do people read those anymore?)

With all that being said, I’m comfortable being my – former, antisocial, anxiety ridden, fat kid – self :) Actually it gives me some material to write with, and I certainly appreciate it when people share a bit of themselves online.

Glad I discovered your place. Nice community, but I need to talk to you about those archives. Man! I hope you don’t expect me to plow through all 300+ posts!! Yowza!

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80 Bill Dorman
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October 18, 2011 at 4:03 PM

Uh, yes there is; you know me don’t you? Mr Perfect……….

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81 Craig McBreen
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October 18, 2011 at 4:53 PM

Mr. perfect Hair ;-)

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82 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 5:14 PM

I don’t think it was as much about perfection as just being satisfied with the end result. Making sure I included everything I wanted to cover, did I leave anything out, did I make sense, do I sound ridiculous, you know… That sort of stuff was what I was obsessing about. So much so I did it over and over and over again.

I still to this day, and I don’t care what anyone says, consider myself a writer. Sure, I write posts and articles but in my mind, a writer is someone who does this for a living and gets paid to write. I know, what I just said probably makes no sense to most because some of what I write does attract the people who I do end up getting into my business so to an extent I do get paid for my writing but I think you may get my drift here!!! So with that being said, back to my point, I worry about what I put out there sometimes. I don’t worry as much now as I did when I started but I don’t want to sound silly or childish or ridiculous for that matter. I know, a lot of that is just me talking to myself but don’t we all do a little of that? I mean you have billions of people online today and although I only wish I could get 1% of that audience, there still can be a lot of people who read your stuff. How can we not critique ourselves to death sometimes?

Like you said Craig, I think as long as we are comfortable with ourselves then that’s what is really important. That’s who our readers are connecting with anyway and I’m just happy I’m getting as many people reading my posts as I do. Hallelujah…

Okay here’s the great part about my archives. Ignore anything I wrote before this year. That’s right it was crap! I might end up just eventually deleting it all. I was on a totally different path so you really just have nine months to go through! lol… But seriously, if there is any particular subject you want to know about, I’m sure I’ve written something about it. I think by listing all the titles that way makes it easier to browse. Gosh, I sure hope so! :-)

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83 Craig McBreen
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October 19, 2011 at 2:24 PM

“Ignore anything I wrote before this year” … Maybe I can get to this before you delete it :) I’m sure it’s not crap. Probably some gems in there … just thanks for making this available.

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84 Adrienne Smith
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October 19, 2011 at 2:51 PM

Trust me, you don’t want to read any of that. I was on a completely different path writing nothing but boring crap. You know. doing what I was told would bring in the results. I’m living proof that you don’t necessarily have to listen to some of these gurus. I think they never had a successful blog before. You certainly won’t get one writing the way I did. :-)

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85 Craig McBreen
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October 19, 2011 at 3:21 PM

I’ll trust you … and yeah, there are a lot of “gurus” out there, eh?

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86 Bill Dorman
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October 18, 2011 at 4:07 PM

So now you are telling me not everyone loves every one of my posts? I’m crushed…

If for some reason I finish a post 2-3 days before posting, I will pick that thing over and over; maybe not so much for perfection but in my mind, to improve readability. I tend to agree that the more we just be ourselves and present ourselves in a light others can relate to then it typically resonates with others. They don’t need to be taught something every single post, right?

Very well done indeed; hope your day has gone well.

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87 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 5:21 PM

I know Bill, it’s disturbing isn’t it! Can you even imagine people not loving all of our posts? Heck, I don’t even love all of my posts.. ;-)

I’m only bad at the time I’m doing it. If I come to the point where I believe the post is done then I can let it go. Like I’ve already written my post for Thursday and it’s ready to go live and I won’t pick it apart again. I’m done with it. It’s just during that time I’m creating it is when I go back over it and over it and over it until I’m sick of reading it myself.

I get burnt out on teaching every single post myself although I know that’s why a lot of people enjoy coming here. At least I hope so because I do enjoy helping people learn. But some days when it’s time to write my post I just don’t have anything great to share so that’s when I’ll revert back to a more personal post. I’m getting the feeling that my readers are okay with that. You know what Bill! I think our readers kind of like us. Isn’t that cool?

Thanks for your input and you Craig behave!!! Or try to at least.

Have a great day Bill and hope you had a good one as well. The weather turned a little cooler and I am loving this. I’m keeping my fingers crossed it sticks around for a little bit anyway. We usually get teased a lot at the beginning of fall. :-)

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88 Praveen Rajarao
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October 18, 2011 at 7:50 PM

Hi Adrienne – Sometimes it pays off to think twice before taking any action, but I am a person of haste and never spend time pondering over a matter…more of a go-getter type of a guy, just cant stop a thought or idea to think through it. It has its bad qualities and results as well though.

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89 Adrienne Smith
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October 18, 2011 at 10:18 PM

Hi Praveen,

Well, at least you don’t beat around the bush. You just get to the matter at hand. That can be a good thing. I’m someone like that in some respects, others though, not so much.

Thanks for your input! :-)

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90 Jimmy
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October 19, 2011 at 1:29 AM

Obsession and perfection can be perfect siblings that kill the creativity in us. When we have to search so hard for the right words, right moments, right ideas for things to be done, than it creates blocks against our natural flow of things.

It is important to plan and think about things before we start but how much of these should we do? I am a risk taker by nature, and it is very easy for me to just pick up stuff and run with it. Start the process and you will find out if people think it is crazy or not.

Some people will think that this is very risky. But to people like me, we thrive under such circumstances. When we do things, we must know our own flow and follow that. Being obsessed and seeking perfection can be something detrimental to people like us. I think it has to do with people of different personalities. Some people just like to analyze and think too much. For these, it might be a case of missing the boat or producing something that is not of themselves.

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91 Adrienne Smith
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October 19, 2011 at 9:32 AM

Hi Jimmy,

I couldn’t agree with you more. Darn those evil siblings!!! :-(

When I am working on a campaign sometimes I can’t think ahead to everything I need to do. Oh, I do my best and jot everything down that I need to cover but the next thing you know I’ve left something out. Then I have to go back and fit that in and it becomes an ongoing struggle. Those are the types of things that I start obsessing about and what else did I leave out. Know what I mean? Probably not, you guys might be a lot more organized with your thoughts then I am.

You are right again, some of the different personalities will go through different thought processes. I would sure hope that this wouldn’t detour anyone from moving forward but I know it’s gotten the best of some people.

I thrive under pressure as well. I’m a hands on kind of person, I learn as I go. I can’t necessarily read something and get it. I have to dive in and do it.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It’s always great to hear what others think about this and some of the things you go through. I appreciate your two cents Jimmy!

Have a beautiful day!

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92 Michaele Harrington October 19, 2011 at 3:34 AM

Hi Adrienne,

Lone Ranger, are you kidding me! I’m already taking a sigh of relief! And given the amount of comments above from people admitting they are a closet perfectionist or a perfectionist in recovery (loved that one!) your candidness has clearly struck a chord.

I’m a detail oriented person which means it’s a challenge for me to um… not get the details right! But what I’m learning of late is that whilst details can play an important role, especially when you partner with people in biz that tend to leave them out, it’s important to let go of that final 5%.

I tend to labor over details as that is how my personality type makes sense of the world. It can be a pain in the a** though as it does tend to lead to obsessing over things that at the end of the day, have nothing to do with results.

What helps me to move forward is to ask myself who I admire the most amongst people in my niche? And guess what… The people I admire the most put content out that is riddled with typos, imperfection, stuff ups etc and yet is totally real.

Thanks for shining some light on one of my own closet tendencies!

Michaelé
P.S. As she scrolls up and down to check for typos before submitting. *sigh*

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93 Adrienne Smith
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October 19, 2011 at 9:41 AM

Hi Michaelé,

Tonto has arrived, thanks for coming to my rescue Michaelé… :-)

I had NO idea there were so many closet perfectionist among us. See, now I don’t feel so bad when I put something like this out there for all the world to see. I admit my own imperfections and by the way, this is just one of them. Oh, I have many many many more!

Here’s the thing with me. I’m annoyingly organized. If you were to visit my home, everything has it’s place. You open my dresser, closet or pantry, everything is in perfect place. When it comes to organizing my thoughts for creating content, sometimes it’s not so organized. I’m somewhat of a detailed person but I also admit, not 100% of the time. I do my best to think of everything involved but I don’t succeed all of the time.

I agree with you though. I’ve read so many blog posts now and the people I admire the most are writing from their experiences and they aren’t as concerned to get every single thing right. I’m sure they intend for it to be that way. I don’t know about you but I can proofread other people’s information and catch their typos and grammar but it’s much harder to do it on your own stuff. At least for me. But I don’t think that has necessarily been my problem lately or I sure hope not. Yikes!!!

Glad you came clean and confessed too! You don’t know how much better this makes me feel knowing that we are all here for the same reasons and we all have some of the same issues. So from now on, let’s just do it okay!

Thanks Michaelé for sharing this with me. I appreciate your honesty!

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94 igor Griffiths
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October 19, 2011 at 6:04 AM

Adrienne nice post and one I can really relate to.

I have spent over 4 hours on one post because I just could not release my thoughts clearly into the digital world. In the end I just released the best effort and use the comments to clarify what I had meant to say.

Team work also has it issues, I remember hand coding a website and spending at least 2 days arguing about the position of the word ‘the’ with my coding partners!

Always try to add value and remove glaring errors but making mistakes is actually a blessing for those that read your musings as it lets them know that perfection is not essential from day one which means they may actually be inspired to get started.

igor Griffiths

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95 Adrienne Smith
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October 19, 2011 at 9:50 AM

Hi Igor,

Thank you for sharing that with me and you know you are SO right. If our posts, content or our videos aren’t always right on we are just proving that you don’t have to be perfect to crank out good stuff. I caught myself in the same state not long ago with not being able to get my thoughts clear on a post. I finally just trashed the entire thing, cranked out something simple and it ended up being a big hit! Imagine that! Of course I don’t want to go through that process every time but it was a good lesson.

To have to argue with people you work with, that would not be pleasant. Wow, that can be pretty nerve racking.

You are right though, just add value and do the best you can do and let it go. I believe it will all turn out just fine in the end.

Thanks Igor, I appreciate you sharing this. Have a wonderful day!

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96 Pj Zafra
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October 19, 2011 at 11:20 AM

Hey Adrienne,

I love this post! I gotta say I was a victim of this before as well. LOL There are times when I get so much into something that I forget to take a break, sigh and laugh at myself every once in a while. Next thing you know, I’ve got a super long beard. LOL (Just Kidding)

Anyways, It’s always important to be an action taker. We can learn all the information available to us in this world, but if we don’t take action, nothing will happen. We will only end up hurting ourselves especially if we spent money for it. It’s also important to not waste our time. Being too perfect will drive us nuts and take up a lot of our time. We need to let go of that.

Once we let go of that obsession feeling, things will definitely get easier and that feeling of having the weight of the whole world on your shoulders will go away. :D

Thanks for this post! Keep it up! :D

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97 Adrienne Smith
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October 19, 2011 at 11:25 AM

Hey PJ,

Ah, that’s too funny PJ! So into it you have a super long beard! Crack me up! :-)

Just think of all the things we could have gotten done in the amount of time we wasted obsessing over that one post or trying to get that video just right! You are right, just take that action but don’t let it bog you down. We all have to work through having to have our stuff perfect. If you read other people’s posts or visit some of their content you’ll see a more relaxed environment. That’s what we should all strive to have. Just let your hair down, be yourself and let it go.

Thanks for sharing that and making me chuckle! Loved it PJ! Have a great day!

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98 Cat Alexandra
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October 20, 2011 at 1:48 PM

Hi Adrienne,

I think you and I probably approach our blogging tasks similarly! I sort of mini-cringed reading the part about obsessing because I’ve caught myself doing that more times than I’d care to admit! I think it’s safe to call me a Type-A (High Red) personality in many ways…and the byproduct is a constant state of self-evaluation/self re-evaluation. lol I think you get my drift!

You’re right though, it’s unproductive to become stagnant obsessing over the minutiae – it’s easy to do too!

The great Benjamin Franklin once said, “There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.” I think that this is absolutely true and that we can do well by learning who we are and observing ourselves and our behaviours keenly, rather than just going on in the usual patterns we’re so accustomed to. This is one of the ways that I challenge myself to grow and to “let go” of the obsession for perfection. :)

Thanks for a great thought-provoker!!

Highest regards,
Cat Alexandra

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99 Adrienne Smith
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October 20, 2011 at 1:57 PM

Hi Cat,

The good thing Cat is that we’ve caught ourselves doing it, have acknowledged it and have addressed it. That’s the most important part right there. Now to just get a much better handle on it and we’re good.

Obsessing over the smallest things is only a time waster. I’m ready to nip that one in the bud…

I love that quote by Benjamin Franklin and boy is that ever right. Thanks for sharing that one. Also for sharing your thoughts about this and what you have had to struggle with as well. As I always like to say about myself, I continue to be a work in progress so I’m constantly having to pay attention to what not to do. Hey, I’m getting there and sounds like you are as well.

Have a great day Cat and thanks again.

~Adrienne

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100 Allyson Stewart October 20, 2011 at 10:42 PM

Hi, Adrienne

Sorry, it’s been quite a while since my last visit; I’m slowly getting back into the swing of things.

No, you’re not a lone ranger on this. I can certainly relate. I too obsess about each post and video I publish and I am hard on myself. If I didn’t obsess about it so much, it’d sure make things a lot easier. :)

I believe the reason it’s so difficult is because (like you), I want to continually produce quality information.

I must say, I like the mixture of content you publish, from personal stories to helpful tutorials.

And thank God for honest blogging buddies that steer us in the right direction, right? You’re one of those buddies, and you know, that’s one of the reasons we love you so much.

See you soon!

Allyson

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101 Adrienne Smith
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October 21, 2011 at 9:38 AM

Hey Allyson,

Always a pleasure to hear from you. No worried at all, life does get in the way at times. :-)

Maybe from this point forward we can all do a little better with not beating ourselves up that everything has to be just right before we hit the publish button. I’m doing so much better at that, but did slip this one time. I for one know that the content you share is very helpful for me. I learn so much from you about some of the programs i’ve used but didn’t know how to do certain things. You do a great job Allyson.

Glad to hear that, so I’m on the right path. I was kind of worried about how that would be received. See, there is that worrying part again!

I think there are a few of us left out there, honest and just trying to help others through our own experiences. I appreciate you saying that, it means a lot.

Thank you Allyson and have a great day!

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102 Jens P. Berget
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October 22, 2011 at 9:19 AM

Hi Adrienne,

I have been thinking a lot about this as well. And many times I have failed to publish because I didn’t think the quality was good enough, or that the topic was a little way off. I’ve been thinking that writing off topic is no problem as long as you’re personal. That’s what I’m doing, instead of thinking about being remarkable all the time :)

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103 Adrienne Smith
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October 22, 2011 at 11:23 AM

Hey Jens,

Sometimes the ones we think aren’t all that great are the ones that are well received. Never fails Jens, we are the ones beating ourselves up over this. No one else really has a clue.

I enjoy all of your posts so you’re doing an exceptional job with your blog! :-) Keep up the great work.

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