Why The Heck Are You Really Here?

by Adrienne Smith on June 2, 2011

Why The Heck Are You Really Here?This past Memorial Day weekend I attended a conference outside Dallas for my current opportunity.  Since I just recently joined in mid April, I was hoping to really learn a lot.  Instead, it was more about recognition.

Don’t get me wrong, I admire those people who have struggled in this industry and have finally made it to a level they had only dreamed about.  Don’t we all hope to be there one day? Listening to those who have failed year after year but never gave up.  It can definitely make a believer out of you.

Since I made the trip and paid for the conference I definitely wasn’t going anywhere.  So what did I do?  I paid attention to the people.  Yep, I’m a people watcher.  What I did was I picked up a few things while watching others which led me to the question, “Why the heck are you really here?”

Network Marketing/Direct Sales Industry

People join the network marketing/direct sales industry for many different reasons.  The majority of people I have personally spoken with have shared with me that they are mainly here because they want a better life for their family or they are sick of working for someone else and want to escape the corporate world.

What I found interesting though was that there were a lot of people who attended this conference mostly for the excitement factor.  You know the dressing up, showing off the new outfit and acting like they are someone special.  Even if it is just for a few days.  I  found that kind of sad actually.

Mr. & Mrs. Wanna Be

The first day we were there we rushed to attend some meetings.  Unfortunately for us, the rooms were already full.  Talk about bummed.  So we sat outside contemplating our next move.  My upline saw a couple she knew so she motioned them over to chat.

My first impression was that they were doing very well for themselves.  You know, she was dressed professionally and he had on a really nice suit.  The more they talked the more I learned.  We ended up spending quite a bit of time with them throughout the weekend and I had to keep asking myself, “Why the heck are you really here?”

Even though I had a very enjoyable time with them it was very clear to me why they were failing miserably with this current venture.  He openly admitted that he just wasn’t doing his part and couldn’t get motivated.

What I really found strange was that he couldn’t get motivated yet he spent a fortune coming to this event (they brought their nine month old along with a babysitter) and he didn’t even attend the meetings.  Instead, he decided to hang out by the pool.  What’s up with that!

What Motivates You

Even though the event was not what I had hoped for, it didn’t detour me from my goals. Motivation is not a problem with me.  I do enjoy learning so any opportunity I can grab to learn something new, I’m there.

Where I really ended up getting my education from this weekend was on the car ride home.  Of all places right!

I rode to this event with my immediate upline, who also happens to now be a good friend of mine.  The Vice President of Sales for this particular company just happens to be a very successful network marketer (I know you’re shocked right!).  One of the main reasons he was invited to join and hold this position is because of his past successes.  Now he didn’t make it overnight and he actually failed the first seven years in this industry.

Those are the people I enjoy learning from.  That’s right, the ones that failed miserably until they finally broke the mold.  I love that saying, “old age isn’t for sissies”.  Well, neither is network marketing or direct sales.  You’ve definitely got to have drive and determination in order to make it in this industry.

As we were on the way home, my upline popped in a training CD that this gentleman had recorded at least four years prior. He eventually made it big and was asked to speak at conferences which of course he made into his own product.  It was something that he said that really hit home for me.

What Is Your Why!

I KNOW you’ve been asked this time and time again, “what is your why”.  I use to hear that a lot and for most people starting out we always thought it was just about the money.  I soon learned that it’s not about the money but what the money can do for you. You know what I’m talking about right!

So an example he used was that most people will think that it’s about that million dollar home they would love to live in someday or that shopping spree you would love to go on and never worry about how much anything cost or maybe it’s that really expensive car you’ve always wanted that you never thought you could afford.

All those things are great, really, but can you truly imagine yourself with those?  Through this process you will learn that you have to visualize yourself with those things or doing those things in order to eventually have those things.

Instead of trying so hard to see yourself someplace you’ve never been before, start with the things you can visualize.  For some it may be that they have no more house payments or car payments.  Every time the phone rings it’s always someone you want to speak with instead of those nasty creditors.

Stop trying to see what you can never imagine for yourself and start with what you can visualize.  If you’ve never been financially independent then you have no idea what that feels like.  Your subconscious mind is always going to revert back to that “yeah right” feeling.  Just stick with what you know is a possibility and stop trying to visualize having it all right now.

Lessons Learned

I’ve never been a materialistic person so all those fancy things are not what I envision for myself.   But the lesson I learned from this is to keep it simple.  Stop trying to visualize what everyone else is teaching you and keep it simple.  See what you can imagine for yourself and little by little it will all start falling into place.  That is the biggest lesson I learned just from the car ride home.

So tell me, why the heck are you really here?  Are you after that better life?  Do you have a big enough why and have you been able to envision it for yourself?  Are you succeeding with reaching your goals?  Are you getting the help and support that you need?

You know how much I enjoy hearing your opinions.  I also know that a lot of you can relate to what I’m saying.  I really did get a big lesson from this past weekend even if it wasn’t the one I had been hoping for.

This year has been a tremendous learning experience for me and mainly with just watching out for what continues to show up in my life.  It’s that visualizing those simple things because I see them as a possibility.  With time, they will get bigger.  I tell you one thing, this sure has been a great ride.

{ 48 comments… read them below or add one }

1 TrafficColeman June 2, 2011 at 8:20 AM

Family is whats motivates me and keep me pushing on to the top of the mountain..

“Black Seo Guy “Signing Off”


2 Adrienne Smith
June 2, 2011 at 8:50 AM

I can understand that Anthony! Besides my immediate family, I don’t really have one of my own. I have nieces and nephews so although I will do what’s best to help them in life, their parents have everything under control. Family is a very strong motivator, that’s for sure. Sometimes I don’t think some people have it all figured out though. Just like the couple I mentioned in this post. Obviously, or maybe they would be a lot more motivated.


3 Mouh
June 2, 2011 at 9:13 AM

I promise to answer your questions one day. I’ll tell you my story when I have an ending and a new beginning for it. I believe it is a bit different from the rest and I really can’t and don’t know how to share it now. But I promise, you’ll be the first one to know about it.



4 Adrienne Smith
June 2, 2011 at 9:24 AM

I’m sure that whatever your reason is Mouh, that it’s extremely important to you. Mine is kind of a long story too but I have a short reason. I would be honored if you would share that with me someday. Whenever you are ready, I’m here to listen. :-)


5 Mouh
June 2, 2011 at 9:26 AM

Thanks my friend. :)

Have a great day!


6 Rowena Bolo June 2, 2011 at 9:41 AM

Hey Adrienne :-)

No wonder I haven’t seen you in a while (or was it me who went MIA? he he), as you have been busy attending offline events. I am glad to hear that you are now a professional network marketer and that we belong to this same exciting industry. Although as you said, the event was not what you had hoped for, so happy for you that it didn’t detour you from your goals – that’s the Adrienne I know! 😉

What really helped me to identify my WHY, Adrienne is the time I committed to join a mastermind group which I think you’ve seen on my blog too – the Mental Cleanse. We study Think and Grow Rich , as we discipline ourselves to stop the chatter in our minds. I’ve had so many realizations and a-ha moments just after Chapter 5, and I am honestly excited to continue doing this for as long as it takes! (I may be exaggerating, but I see it’s lifetime benefits, after all, personal growth is an ongoing process).

Even though I didn’t answer your question directly, I wanted to share here how our wonderful industry is allowing me to know myself better, to grow myself, and to take my business from my mind to my heart – with a goal of becoming a servant leader. MLM is really a personal development business with a compensation plan tied to it!

I am so looking forward to sharing great information with you, Adrienne, now that you are talking about a topic which is dear to me. Hope to catch you soon on FB/twitter.



7 Adrienne Smith
June 2, 2011 at 10:15 AM

Hi Rowena,

Yep, I’ve been SO busy trying to get things done before I left and then played catch up when I returned. On top of that we know how draining these things can be. I never sleep good when I’m not at home so I come home just exhausted. But things are pretty much back to normal now.

I did jump back in with both feet and things are going exceptionally well for me. Was never able to say that in the past. Which is why nothing will detour me from my goals. I know I’m where I’m suppose to be and I couldn’t be happier.

I enjoy reading and hearing what you are learning from studying Think and Grow Rich. I did that very same thing a few years ago and you are so right. This industry is definitely mostly about personal development. You have to totally learn new things about your thoughts and then putting those into action. My problem back then was that I still had difficulty turning the chatter off. It’s taken me this long to learn how to accomplish that. Better late than never right! :-)

I’m so thrilled that at your age you are learning this. You are miles ahead of so many people which means you will definitely have tremendous success in this industry. I definitely see you as a master leader and you will be able to help so many people who were once in your same shoes when you first started. That’s what I love about this industry. The opportunities it gives everyone if they are willing to go for it.

Guess we’ll be comparing notes soon right! :-) Always looking forward to that. I’ll see you soon. It’s time for me to head back over to your place. Sorry I’ve been MIA!!!


8 Peggy Baron June 2, 2011 at 11:38 AM

What a thoughtful post, Adrienne! I like how you looked for the lessons and found them where you least expected. But you did find them because you were looking and paying attention.

I find my whys have changed over the years. I believe which why isn’t important as long as it’s enough to sustain you through the inevitable trials and tribulations. For me, I believe it’s sheer stubborness that keeps me going. 😉

Thanks for making me think


9 Adrienne Smith
June 2, 2011 at 12:28 PM

Thank you Peggy! My life continues to be lesson after lesson so I do my best to pay attention these days. I know I’m put into situations for a reason so when they don’t turn out like I had hoped I still know there is a lesson to be learned somewhere. I love when that happens, don’t you?

I can relate to that young lady. My why isn’t the same now as it started out either. Heck, just the drive and determination alone will keep me moving forward and to be able to tell myself see, I did make it. I knew I could! :-) I see that we definitely have that in common.

Thanks for sharing that with me. I appreciate it and I knew that everyone has a different way of looking at this. I love hearing how others view this.

Now, have a fabulous day!



10 Janet
June 2, 2011 at 1:58 PM

Adrienne, aloha. So enjoyed this post on many different levels. Having been involved in this industry for almost 2 decades, I have attended my fair share of conventions and encountered many similar stories to the one you related.

My most recent head shaker was about 6 or 7 years ago. This woman who was new to my team, though she had been with another company or 10+ years, was in desperate financial straits when she joined. Shortly after joining, there was a convention in Utah so she and her husband flew up from Houston to attend.

So far, so good because I am thinking of the commitment she made. Without going into all the amazing details of her activities, I will tell you that she didn’t attend a single session, shopped (thought she had no $) the entire time either in the company store or “regular stores” outside the event, dined at numerous nice restaurants and the list continues.

She subsequently told me that she didn’t really learn anything at the event, however, she thought there were some good people involved. No doubt about it, had she attended even a single session she would have learned something.

The astonishing thing is, after a year of doing nothing, she returned the following year to repeat the same performance. She then “quit” (don’t think she really quit since she never started) because she wasn’t making any money.

My Why for doing this or any venture for that matter, is because I want to be in control of my life. Adrienne, I want to be the one to choose my business partners, when and where I work and how much money I can make.

To me it is deeply satisfying and fulfilling to help other people become more, to see them blossom and grow. It is not the amount of money they make, it is the person they become and realize they can be. Adrienne, being a part of that process with someone matters to me.

Beyond those reasons, I believe if we have the ability to make more money than is needed to maintain our lifestyle–no matter how simple or extravagant it may be–that we have an obligation to do so and to share it.

Adrienne, it gives me great pleasure to be able to help people financially be it people in my own community on a one-to-one basis or through an international agency. If we listen, Adrienne, I believe each of us has a calling to give or to provide for others.

The cause doesn’t have to be starving people, though I do feed starving children, it can be money for research, technology, entrepreneurship (I love KIVA) or any number of things. One of the projects I have in the works is a cat sanctuary because I love cats.

When we have something that is bigger than our ourselves, I believe that speaks to the wholeness of our being, the community.

Obviously, Adrienne, your post struck a responsive chord within me. Thank you.

Adrienne, this industry is a fantastic industry for people like you who take 100% responsibility for what happens in their lives. Embrace it, enjoy it and delight in the fabulous people you will meet along your journey.

All the best to you, my friend. Aloha. Janet


11 Adrienne Smith
June 2, 2011 at 6:19 PM

Are you kidding me Janet? And people have the nerve to tell others that this industry is a scam because they aren’t making any money! That’s exactly what I got from this seminar as well. Okay so it wasn’t really one to actually learn something although I was impressed by some of the people who spoke and was able to hear their stories, but a LOT of the people in this business aren’t here because they want a business. I have yet to really figure them out. But then again, it’s not my place.

Like you, I am in control of my own life and my destiny. I failed in the past because I wanted to help everyone so I attracted all those people to me that didn’t want to do the work. Now I know better and although I still want to help others, I now will only help those who want to help themselves. It is very satisfying when you watch them grow and explode into something special.

The money is fabulous and actually a bi-product from who you become having been involved with this. I know a lot of people probably don’t quite understand this but it’s like Rowena mentioned in her recent post. This industry helps you learn to be a better person because it teaches you that this is a realtionship building business. And what you get out of that experience alone is so well worth the time you’ve spent here.

All the other luxuries that come from this are an added bonus. Like you mentioned being able to give to other causes and the pleasure it brings helping others financially.

I’m so glad I got you all fired up with this post Janet. I love hearing what drives you and how passionate you are about things. It just gets me all excited to hear others experiences they have had and what they have learned from this as well. Thank you so much for opening up so much and sharing this with not only me but everyone. I appreciate you!

All the best to you as well Janet.



12 Bill Dorman
June 2, 2011 at 9:09 PM

Good question, why are you here? In my business of sales, we are always trying to find the customers ‘why’; if you can do that you have half the battle won. You can do this by asking questions about what makes them tick; what keeps them up at night. This is where you find out what’s really important to them and that’s when you find out if there will be opportunities to work together.

Why am I specifically here in the blogosphere blogging and bouncing around? Mainly to build new relationships and see where it goes. Whereas I think it can create some incredible opportunities, I’m still just kind of going with the flow for now. I have enough going on in my paying gig but I would like to find a way to maybe blend the two. I am having fun however so it motivates me.

Within your arena it’s not a bad thing to emulate the people who have had success. A lot of people assume sales or marketing might be easy, but there really is a lot of hard work that goes into it. Yes, sometimes that work looks like fun but it still takes time and focus.

Good to see you and I wish you continued success on your journey.


13 Riley Harrison June 3, 2011 at 7:25 AM

I left a reply to your comment but apparently it didn’t connected to your comment and got resequenced elsewhere, I’ll just copy it and hope this time it gets properly connected.
Hi Bill,
I understand where you are coming from. I’m not blogging for financial reasons although I could see the possibility of an ebook. Blogging is fun in a kind of addicting way. I’m fascinated with the concept of networking on the internet and where it might lead. I think Malcolm Gladwell uncovered a fascinating networking concept called the hub. Hubs are people who revel and excel in networking (you might be one) and the challenge for non-hubs (like me whose passions lies elsewhere) is to connect with hubs and by default have access to their networks. I suppose a very rough, imprecise analogy might be Triberr in which everyone in your tribe is a hub and you have access to their twitter list. Because several of my real good friends are “hubs”, I have credibility and real relationships with their large number of their friends at a fraction of the cost (time spent developing relationships).


14 Adrienne Smith
June 3, 2011 at 9:16 AM

You are so right about that Bill but do you know that you can ask a number of people what makes them tick and they can’t answer you! I do this daily when I meet new people and they always revert to telling me what they do! I find that kind of odd..

I know you are having a great time roaming around the blogosphere. Heck, you’ve got the best of both worlds my friend. I’m just glad you ventured online and decided to show us a side of yourself.

Emulating other successful people can help give you the confidence to do what is uncomfortable at first. I know I had a hard time doing that because I’ve never cared for sales. But I have also come to understand that it takes time and practice and with both of those, things will just start falling into place. It is hard work though, everything worth having is.

Thank you Bill for dropping by as always. There is no place left for me but up! :-)


15 Justin
June 2, 2011 at 9:56 PM

Hi Adrienne,
It’s all about lifestyle creation for me, a life of comfort so to speak. I want the ability to buy what I need to buy when I need to buy it.

It’s not about material things for me but about being able to do and experience the things that I want to, without having to schedule a vacation and getting the ok from the boss.


16 Adrienne Smith
June 3, 2011 at 9:18 AM

I can definitely relate to you Justin. Just knowing that when you do get ready to purchase something, whether it’s big or small, the money is always there. No more worrying, no more guessing, no more planning, no more asking permission. Thanks for sharing that with me, I appreciate it!


17 Benny
June 2, 2011 at 10:50 PM

First of all, it’s so tacky for people to show up dressing fancy and trying to show off. Most intelligent people can see through it!

At first I didn’t know what an upline was until i kept reading then I got the gist of it. :)

Why am I doing this? I’m doing it cause I want to take back control of my life. I don’t want to be working for bosses anymore. I want to be my own boss and set my own schedule. I want to do something that means something.

Every day I’m working on reaching my goals. However this is unchartered territory to me. I’m breaking out of my comfort zone! It’s a bit frightening at times.

On one hand I haven’t been this determined in my life. On the other, I wonder how I’m going to handle more responsibility. It’s scary too when there are more eyes on me watching what I’m doing! I don’t want to fail!

Need to push through the fear!!


18 Adrienne Smith
June 3, 2011 at 9:23 AM

You are right about that Benny. I sat there watching these people and it was so obvious who they were. Which really is just sad. These are the people who constantly complain that they don’t have the money yet they will waste it on things like that! Unbelievable…

You are engaged to be married so you will have a family in the near future. I know that you want a better life for you and your bride. I applaud you for wanting more out of life and to get away from having to “show up” and make someone else rich. I did that for way too many years and in the end, you still aren’t appreciated for all your hard work.

Venturing into the unknown is a scary place to be. But look how much fun you are having while you are here. I love your blog and you are building up so many wonderful relationships and that alone will take you places. I have no doubt that whatever you choose to accomplish you will. All I know is that you are one determined young man and I’m so thrilled to have met you.

Now, get out there and conquer the world. We all want to come along with you! :-)


19 Julie June 3, 2011 at 2:07 AM

Great posts, everyone definitely needs to know our “why”. Thanks for the reminder.


20 Adrienne Smith
June 3, 2011 at 9:25 AM

Thank you Julie and I appreciate your comment.


21 Chelsea Thomas June 3, 2011 at 11:32 AM

Hey Adrienne!

That’s awesome that you stuck with the event. I don’t get the opportunity to attend many events like these, so I try the webinars and powerpoints instead, and even then I wonder “why the heck am I really here?” The webinar’s start out with this catchy phrase telling me they are going to help me with exactly what I’ve been struggling with then the webinar is mainly about what the issues is and not so much about how to fix/conquer it, but I try to stick it out in hopes of having a light bulb of an experience similar to what you had on your car ride home.

This was a great post, because many of us have experienced this. I’m a people watcher too (its fun) and I’ve learned a lot simply from observing.


22 Adrienne Smith
June 3, 2011 at 11:58 AM

Hi Chelsea,

When you are involved in this industry they will hammer into your head that it’s important to attend events. I didn’t want to miss this one and really thought I would have an opportunity to visit with more people but it just didn’t work out that way. Kind of disorganized if you ask me. But I certainly was not going to let that detour me from my goal.

I can relate to the webinars myself. You KNOW they are going to try and sell you something at the end but I have found a lot of times that I learn something during it, even if it was just one small piece of information. I try to look at this experience as not wasting my time although let’s face it, we could have been getting a lot more accomplished had we not been sitting there for over an hour. But everything is a learning experience and that’s the attitude I have adopted.

Just glad I had my light bulb moment on the ride home. So see, I did learn something after all. :-)

So glad you enjoyed the post and that you enjoy watching people too! It can be very entertaining wouldn’t you agree!


23 Mitch Mitchell
June 3, 2011 at 1:06 PM

Very interesting and fun story to read. I always used to wonder why people went to conferences of more than a day as well. We’d plan these topics to cover, hoping there would be something for everyone, but we’d soon realize every year that most people were ready to party, to get away from having to think too much because they were away from work. So we learned to have the real training sessions only in the mornings, and motivational people later on.

Of course, I’m also learning that people don’t vette speakers all that well either. I’m going to conferences where the presenters are horrible. Most have never given a presentation before, and even though I applaud their courage in getting up before people they almost never seem to present whatever the write up said they were going to speak about. People learn that sort of thing and get jaded; I have to admit I’m one of those people. I’ll walk out of a presentation in a heartbeat, and that’s a shame because I give presentations myself.

Glad you were finally able to get what you wanted, even if it wasn’t how you thought you would. That’s actually what the Laws of Attraction talk about; having a goal but being ready to accept getting there through means other than how you might have thought it would come.


24 Adrienne Smith
June 3, 2011 at 1:28 PM

Thank you Mitch, I appreciate that!

I love to learn and anytime I can pick up new things or ways of doing things differently that I believe will benefit me in my business I’m there. But one other thing that has happened to me throughout my life is my hearing loss. My eardrum burst at the young age of 21 so even though it was rebuilt, I lost a good bit of hearing. Over the years my other ear has had to try and make up for that loss so when I’m in a crowded room and the people on stage aren’t speaking really clearly, I can’t understand what’s being said. Talk about frustrating. But again, another learning experience for me that I just believe I’m going to have to bow out of these types of events and pray I can continue learning in the traditional way.

There were a few times during this conference that we did walk out. They were just giving awards and it went on for hours. I applaud those people who have done well but let’s face it, those chairs are so uncomfortable to begin with so sitting there hour after hour when you aren’t learning anything just doesn’t work for me any longer. But I think that’s funny that you will walk out and you are even a presenter at times. Thanks for sharing that with me Mitch. I don’t feel so bad now.

My mind will remain positive because I know I’m on the right journey and everything is being presented to me when it’s suppose to. I’ve learned to pay attention and accept it no matter what form it comes in. That’s definitely the law of attraction working in my favor.

Thanks for stopping by and for sharing that with me. I really do appreciate it!

Have a great afternoon.



25 Jens P. Berget
June 4, 2011 at 12:41 AM

Hey Adrienne,

It sounds like you had a great time at the conference. I’m also enjoy watching people and that’s usually all I do at conferences, since I’m also a fairly shy guy :)

What motiviates us is an important question. It seems that what motivates a lot of people is not something they’ve given much thought. What motivates them depends on what motivates other people (their friends and co-workers). They want want other people are looking for.

I can surely understand that people don’t want to be working for someone, and that they want to be self-employed. That sounds like the best type of work. Me, I just want to be happy. That’s the only motivation I need. If I’m happy, well, then I’m happy. I only hang out with people who are making me happy, and I only want to be doing things that makes me happy all day, every day :)


26 Adrienne Smith
June 4, 2011 at 11:25 AM

Hi Jens,

I did enjoy the company of the lady I went with and anytime I go anywhere, I always have a good time. I might have been frustrated with what was not on the agenda for the conference but I always make the best of any situation. And watching the different people has a lot to do with that as well.

Like you, I just want to be happy. But I’m naturally a happy person I believe. The better I can do for myself, the happier I am. I know when I was working in the corporate world, I wasn’t happy with my surroundings. I didn’t mind the job because I was very good at what I did but I became more frustrated with my co-workers due to their lack of work ethic. So I wanted something better for myself which is why I’m here. So continuing to learn and grow is the path I will remain on from this day forward.

I know you enjoy what you do and now you blog and write your novels on the side. You have a wonderful family and a great life. Those are things to celebrate Jens and I’m so thrilled for you. You are truly blessed and have all the reasons in the world to be happy. :-)

Glad you are now surrounding yourself with those kinds of people here in the blogging community too. We all love what we do. :-)

Have a beautiful and fun weekend my friend. Always appreciate you stopping by my place.


27 Alexis
June 5, 2011 at 11:13 AM

Hey Adrienne,
I share so many things with you actually. I’m also involved in a direct selling company or MLM.I’ve been doing that for some years now. What you described is typical for those kind of meetings. People are there for different reasons and they have different mindsets.From my own experience as long as you are dealing with a good direct selling company(not all of them are good) your success will depend on your big reason “WHY” and your determination.
But Adrienne those meetings can be a waste of time if you are not careful. You have to develop a good system to sell the products and recruit distributors.
For my own company I’m selling the products using e-commerce sites and turning some of my buyers into distributors. I don’t attend to meetings anymore as I found out it’s a waste of time for me.
Focus on leads(recruiting) and selling. That’s it
I hope this helps.


28 Adrienne Smith
June 5, 2011 at 1:39 PM

Hey Alexis, thanks for sharing this with me. You are SO right, some of these meetings are a waste of time. In all honesty, in the past I didn’t attend the company meetings, only network marketing meetings. The ones I felt I could really learn something from. I also know that my hearing isn’t all that great so when I’m sitting in a room that darn large with that many people, I’m just not going to get the majority of what they say so I’ll probably just not go anymore.

It’s sad though to see all those other people who are in it for the glitz instead of the business itself. Like you, I’ve connected with a great company so I’m not putting that down at all.

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate it.



29 Bob Lipply June 6, 2011 at 12:19 AM

Hi Adreinne,
It was a pleasure reading this article and it also reminds me of what all I’ve learned from the lives of other people while attending conventions. However, I won’t deny that there were times when some conventions were big and had very important delegates but there was nothing productive for me. Just attending conventions and meetings for publicity is waste of time but all of us think differently.


30 Adrienne Smith
June 6, 2011 at 9:04 AM

Thanks for sharing that with me Bob. I do believe you are right. I think the motivation factor is enough for a lot of people but I mainly only want to attend for the education. If I can’t learn something from that experience, I can get more done at home. You are right though, we are all different.

Have a great day and a fabulous week! Thanks again for stopping by.



31 Armand Polanski June 6, 2011 at 2:26 AM


I am actually have been a Network Marketer for two years in the same company but sad to say, I haven’t earned enough to pay for my bills and lifestyle.

What made me stay?

Yes, it’s my “why”.

Our family is neither poor nor rich. We were always living in the edge, always ready to fall down into pieces but fortunately my parents were fighters and was able to provides us with everything needed to survive.

They would work long hours, loan money from the bank or even get jobs outside there 9-5. As an effect, we spent little time to together, we see each other on a Saturday or Sunday only and sometimes even if they are there, we can’t go out because they need to rest for work the next day.

So, I stayed because I want a change in life, lifestyle and I want to spend all my time with my future family.

Thank you for the Nice Post!


32 Adrienne Smith
June 6, 2011 at 9:08 AM

Thank you for sharing that with me Armand.

You know just from my own personal experience and from those I have heard of others, it takes years to build up a business. I personally believe it has more to do with us than anything else. Network marketing is a personal development journey so the more you learn how to approach people and the right things to say, the more successful you will come. I’ve yet to get that all down myself but I’m on my way so I do know that my future is bright. I have no doubt that yours is as well. You seem to me to be the type of person who will do anything to achieve what you want out of life so just remember. This is a learning experience and we’ll only continue to get better.

Thanks for your comment and for sharing that with me and I hope you have not only a fabulous day but an awesome week as well.

Adrienne :-)


33 Dee Ann Rice
June 6, 2011 at 4:00 PM


I have gone through the same thought processes in the past as you are describing above.

In the past when I was in multi-level marketing I would be told to dream big. Think of yourself as a millionaire or billionaire.

There was no way that I could possibly do that. I had no idea what that was like.

All I wanted was to pay my bills each month and have some spending money left over. This I could imagine and I actually knew just what it was like to be able to do it.

I finally started making my goals small and attainable for me at the place I was right now.

If I make $1000 a month right now that would be life changing so that is where I need to set my goal. When I achieve that I will set my goal higher and at that point I will be able to visualize myself when I have met the next goal because I have achieved the first one.

I really think it is more like climbing a ladder then just flying in a rocket ship to the moon.

I am here to make enough to pay my bills and have some spending money today and when I achieve that I will be here for another reason but it will be an attainable goal.

Dee Ann Rice


34 Adrienne Smith
June 6, 2011 at 5:17 PM

Ah, you got rooked into the same type of thinking too! I think that some of these people have to realize that my goals aren’t the same as everyone elses. Like you, I don’t want the fancy house and the expensive car. I want to make enough money to support myself and have some left over to play a little. Once that goal is reached, on to the next one and it will be bigger because we now know it’s achievable.

So like you said, set small goals and reach those first. Then bigger things will seem more possible. For right now though, this is enough!

Thanks Dee Ann. Always enjoy hearing from you!



35 Samantha Bangayan
June 6, 2011 at 7:06 PM

Adrienne, first off, I’m impressed with how you turned the conference into such a positive learning experience for you in more ways than one! Observation is key and I love the reflections that came out of this all.

You know I completely relate with you on this one, Adrienne. I’m all about keeping things simple and living a simpler lifestyle. I have never imagined the luxury home and I believe that many people do just because *others* are, even though it’s not really their dream. I love your call for a reassessment and the concept of simplifying visualizations to make them more realistic and more true to what we believe.

I lack visualization in my life, but I’m going to have a nice long chat with my partner about this tonight, so we can visualize together. =) I’m pretty happy with the way things are now — I would just like to prioritize my time better. I originally wanted to respond to all emails, tweets and Facebook messages every day, but it’s not taking me almost 5 to 6 hours to do so! Remember how I told you that I comment on 20 to 30 blogs a day?! That’s not really working for me anymore. =P This week, I’m going to try to focus on high priority emails and leave 1 or 2 days every week in which I respond to everything. Do you have a post about how you schedule your time, Adrienne? =)


36 Adrienne Smith
June 6, 2011 at 7:14 PM

Hey Samantha,

That’s what I like about you and why I can relate to you so much too. We love the simple life. Big fancy things are just not for me. I would feel totally out of place with all of that

I have a vision board hanging right above my desk so that’s how I visualize things. It’s mostly a gratitude board for me. Thanking God for everything I already have and then some of the things I know will show up later. Those are my eyes so to speak.

You are too funny… My post today is about organizing your day so be sure to head over there and read what I wrote. See, there are those great minds thinking alike again. It may not all be what you had expected but I’m sure it will help.

There’s no way I can comment on that many blogs each day. You see, I have way too much other stuff that needs to be done and I want to respond to every comment and email as well from people who reach out and ask me questions. So you have to limit your time to what’s the most important to you and what will benefit you the most. Hope that post helps some.

Thanks Samantha, always a pleasure to see you!


37 Emma June 7, 2011 at 3:04 PM

Winning the battle for life, to have even money coming in from business’s that dont need me time hence freeing up my time to do what i want when i want with whoever i want, simply. :)


38 Adrienne Smith
June 7, 2011 at 4:02 PM

It’s awesome Emma once you start seeing great results from all that hard work. As you stated so nicely, it will allow you to free up your time to do what you want when you want to. I wish you the very best of luck with that and thanks so much for stopping by.


39 Jeffrey Morgan
June 8, 2011 at 2:52 PM

Hey if it’s all the same to everyone over here, can someone just write me a check. I just soon avoid the scrape! That’s J-E-F-F-R-E-Y ……… M-O-R-G-A-N. Throw in a couple of zeros if you could!


40 Adrienne Smith
June 8, 2011 at 3:01 PM

If only it were that simple my friend, if only!!! :-) Nice try though!


41 Zaman July 6, 2011 at 9:14 AM

was really wondering when had eyes over the title, though it wasn’t making any sense but when gone through the entire content, must say, informative and appreciative. Loved the motivation part the most. When it comes to here, my family members, particular mum and dad boost me up to the heights in order to get the work done. Nice post, keep it up. Thanks.


42 Adrienne Smith
July 6, 2011 at 10:52 AM

Thank you Zaman, I appreciate that. Glad you enjoyed the post. I know the feeling, my Mom continues to boost my spirits as well always with so much encouragement. Thank you!


43 Roland July 7, 2011 at 9:56 PM

Yeah why they are really there, maybe the best answer is , they were there for the reason on how they can learn to generate money. No doubt about that , like what you have stated Adrienne they don’t really understand why they are there. Right motivation is what they need to fully understand what they are heading for. You are right it is all about motivation. Lucky are those people who are self motivated, because they can easily adapt with every situation they encounter.The power of will is present with them.Your ability will come out if you the willingness to do such thing. A great appreciation to this post for sharing it’s information and idea to everyone. Just pursue on you great intention to help others. Thanks!!!!!


44 Adrienne Smith
July 8, 2011 at 8:57 AM

I appreciate your comment on this post, thanks. Motivation is important that’s for sure but really taking a hard look and asking yourself why you are really here. Why are you doing what you are doing, what is your why, what drives you? These are so very important when venturing into any type of business if you want to succeed. They are the driving factors.

Thanks again for stopping by, always appreciate your input and for sharing your thoughts.


45 ibyang August 2, 2011 at 2:55 AM

Another great post! The drive to succeed or the purpose of doing what needs to be done only leads to one thing which is happiness. People strive to have a better life because they want to be happy. Finding love and happiness in everything will certainly lead a person to what he is seeking.


46 Adrienne Smith
August 2, 2011 at 11:49 AM

Why thank you Ibyang, I appreciate that. Knowing what you are after and why is the one thing that will keep people on their path to success. That I know for sure.


47 ibyang August 2, 2011 at 6:59 PM

hi Adrienne,
i have some problem with MeFile. I am not from US. Does it not access people from outside America? Thank you.


48 Adrienne Smith
August 2, 2011 at 7:31 PM

Hey Ibyang,

Yeah, right now they are only located in the US but will be venturing out within the next year. Sorry about that!


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